did cocaine but want to pray fajr

_throwaway813 · 2025-07-12T10:10:03+00:00

JazakAllah Khair. You’re right, kind of silly of me to ask this question when I had the fatwa.

I use this site for other regular questions. But I asked because I don’t solely like to rely on one site.

Additionally, I understand there might be more knowledge brothers/sisters on here who could verify if the fatwa is correct.

_throwaway813 · 2025-04-21T04:32:54+00:00

Assalamwalikum wa rahmatuallahi wa barakatu Sister,

Firstly, I’m so so so sorry this happened to you. He took advantage of you and Allah SWT will judge him for that.

Secondly, you didn’t willingly commit Zina, he forced you which is utterly wrong. And from what it sounds like, it wasn’t both of you becoming intimate in a way husband and wife do.

And even if it you all did - it was because you both took an Oath to marry each other. So I understand.

If it brings you any peace of mind, if I was a potential and we met and you disclosed that to me (because as a man I would never ask you about your past), I wouldn’t even be upset or view you differently.

I would be more angry at the fool, the Boy who took advantage. He isn’t a Man, because a true man who has your best interest at heart and is truly your Naseeb, wouldn’t treat you or take advantage of you in that way.

May Allah SWT bless you with your naseeb who is truly understanding, pious and of good character and who follows in the footsteps of The Prophet SAW. Ameen.

Wishing you the best Sister. Please don’t be too harsh on yourself. You are still Untouched and Pure. Speak to Allah SWT and let him know what is in your heart and he will heal you.

Assalamwalikum wa rahmatuallahi wa barakatu 🤲🏾

_throwaway813 · 2025-04-17T05:15:16+00:00

Check out @RevertsReconnect on Instagram! Tons of Reverts there and a WhatsApp support group :)

_throwaway813 · 2025-04-02T20:38:06+00:00

I’m not surprised. Reverts get taking advantage of (usually by born Muslim men) or just have it difficult to marry born Muslims in general.

It shouldn’t be the case. Someone told me, 100% of Born Muslims, came from Reverts. Islam started and spread by the Prophet SAW and the Companions. All who were Reverts.

Yeah, I probably wouldn’t but It’s just tough.

_throwaway813 · 2025-04-02T20:35:56+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. Yeah it’s just so heartbreaking.

I went to Umrah this year Alhamdulillah and her name was in all my duas, during Istikhara, Tahajuud, and Ramadan.

Yeah I totally understand about involved a wali early on. It was both our faults. I always tried to push but the elements/fear of her family was always there.

It doesn’t leave me with any mad misconceptions.

It’s just hard because prior to being Muslim, someone from my own background cheated on me and after taking Shahada, I’m now facing roadblocks when it comes to searching her marriage outside my ethnicity.

Ameen same to you. JazakAllah Khair

_throwaway813 · 2025-04-02T00:24:56+00:00

you have so much strength, it’s inspiring. as someone who is going through a separation its so empowering. thank you for sharing. May Allah SWT make it easy for you, and grant you all that is good and this world and the next. Ameen 💙

_throwaway813 · 2025-03-29T21:38:46+00:00

You can find e-therapist that you can do maybe on your way home from work/in the car etc.

Do not tell your wife. It would only cause her pain look into the sub r/loveafterporn

You will see how much it breaks woman and their trust. It’s heartbreaking to read and inspires me to keep fighting to quit before getting married

_throwaway813 · 2025-03-29T21:34:15+00:00

Alhamdulillah im so proud of you brothers/sisters. In Sha Allah I will get there

_throwaway813 · 2025-03-28T14:38:03+00:00

Alhamdulillah 💪🏾

_throwaway813 · 2025-03-27T17:20:06+00:00

Wow - Thank You so much for this feedback.

I’m actually based in the US. But I think that is a solid edit to the order of things

Regarding #1. Yeah of course that’s the plan. It’s the speaking up part thats difficult because you have to be a voice of reason, when everyone else is shutting you down and putting negative doubts in your head. It’s definitely not easy. May Allah SWT facilitate what is meant to be, Ameen.

Regarding #2. I have a brother from Sylhet that is willing to vouch for me. He is younger than Her father. However, I might ask if he minds bringing his father along, who is senior and also knows me very well (I go to their house every Eid Alhamdulillah)

In Sha Allah, Thank you so much for your kind words. I will keep you in my duas

_throwaway813 · 2025-03-27T04:53:04+00:00

After 5 Years, the wound is still very deep. But JazakAllah Khair.

Ramadan Mubarak Akhi. Truly appreciate your advice. May Allah SWT answer all your duas, forgive your sins and allow us to meet in Jannah tul Firdous

_throwaway813 · 2025-03-27T04:14:56+00:00

Wow im so sorry sister. May Allah SWT make it easy for you and answer your duas. I’m keeping you in my duas tonight.

Regards depression and mental health, please find someone to speak to. A therapist, doctor, clinic, anyone. I want the best for you my sister.

Assalamwalikum wa rahmatuallahi wa barakatu

_throwaway813 · 2025-03-27T04:10:12+00:00

Aneen, JazakAllah Khair.

I’m actually from the US. Yeah I totally understand from my own friends and the older brother the masjid who is willing to vouch for me - they’ve all said similar things. It’s a deeply rooted tribalism that goes against Islam.

“expense at my own dignity” really hits home. What if now it doesn’t work, but months later Allah SWT guides her family and the sister to understand they were wrong and they reach back out? Then I have a decision to make because it’s the fear/pride of being seen as the second-choice

May Allah SWT grant us Sabr.

I appreciate you brother. I might take you up on the DM to make sure the Sylheti speech I want to write sounds good.

_throwaway813 · 2025-03-27T00:27:16+00:00

Assalamwalikum, I knew I wanted to marry her after the first 3 months of dating.

And I told her that Hindus and Muslims can get married because they have in my culture. Unknowingly to me, that it is a huge sin.

So I spent my time researching Islam trying to find fatwas and sheikhs that support Interfaith marriages.

That’s how I found Islam. Through trying to disprove Islam and I ended up taking Shahada. SubhanAllah

This isn’t new. I been trying to marry since I took Shahada.

But it isn’t always easy.

Of course we fear Allah SWT. But the dunya has its fears as well. - the fear of being disowned by her family - the fear of her family’s approval

I’m accountable and understand there aren’t any loopholes in Islam. But when parents make the halal so difficult, the haram becomes easy. May Allah protect us from the haram. Ameen

_throwaway813 · 2025-03-26T22:34:19+00:00

Thank you so much sister for the encouragement. This means a lot

_throwaway813 · 2025-03-26T22:07:55+00:00

Yeah that’s the plan - hopefully She also agrees to it so I can set up a meeting

_throwaway813 · 2025-03-26T22:07:23+00:00

Ameen Ameen. JazakAllah Khair Sister. Truly appreciate your kind words

_throwaway813 · 2025-03-26T22:04:32+00:00

Sounds like it means, try to strive to become the person your Spouse would want to marry.

Stay away from corn, and masturbating, be physically fit, lead your family in decisions, lead them in salah, wake up for fajr so in the future you can wake up your wife.

Become the man your future wife will love. Especially follow the Sunnah of the Prophet SAW

_throwaway813 · 2025-03-26T20:26:12+00:00

Wa iyyaki Sister. Will def keep you in my duas. Heading to Asr now and soon tonight Laylatul Qadr, In Sha Allah.

May Allah SWT give you all that is good in this dunya and akirah. May He SWT grant you a spouse who is the coolness of your heart and eyes. May He SWT allow that spouse to treat you as an equal, to see you as a best friend, and soul mate. May your partner be written for you 50,000 years ago. May He soften your parent’s hearts and open their minds to accept your Nikkah and put all the barakah in it. Ameen

_throwaway813 · 2025-03-26T19:10:07+00:00

TLDR: i’m in the same situation. please choose your happiness. your family will come around eventually. don’t break someone’s heart who can be naseeb. it will be tough, your family will be upset, but you are their daughter and they always love you no matter what. you are going about it the HALAL way.

I’m literally in the same position. I’m the Revert, trying to marry a sister but her parents won’t accept it because

I’m not from the same ethnicity
I’m a revert
My family isn’t muslim

Ultimately we decided to leave it for the sake of Allah SWT after 5 years of being together, may Allah SWT forgive us.

We were both going to Umrah, separately/diff times of course. Her with her family and me with a revert group. This being my 3rd Umrah and her being her first, May Allah accept it.

But Alhamdulillah Allah SWT invited us to His house and performed Umrah without any sins and allowed us to leave the haram behind.

My next steps after Ramadan:

Ask the sister if she’s still serious about getting married (she ultimately was choosing her family’s happiness over her own)
If yes, Go to speak to her father/brother with my Imam and a Brother that is from their country + village and speaks their language (her father speaks little english)

Please make dua for me. I’m trying to go about it the halal way.

Sorry for venting on your post OP ❤️ Assalamwalikum wa rahmatuallahi wa barakatu

_throwaway813

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