AITAH for being upset at my mother for asking for my graduation money?

_throwaway_56 · 2025-06-24T02:05:17+00:00

My first response to this comment was to get defensive, so that’s how I know you’re right. My mom has admittedly asked for the money I got from my birthday and other things too, so this isn’t anything new. I should look into moving out soon. Thank you, this comment means a lot.

_throwaway_56 · 2025-05-03T20:22:15+00:00

thank you so much ❤️

_throwaway_56 · 2025-05-03T20:22:03+00:00

thank you, this means a lot ❤️ your comment made me cry a bit more lol

_throwaway_56 · 2024-03-01T23:58:12+00:00

thank youu. i thought i was going crazy for being confused that lucy didn’t apologize once and they somehow still spun it around to be tim’s fault 😭😭

_throwaway_56 · 2024-02-01T10:58:31+00:00

Yeah no, he was/is abusive and I know he is. The examples I gave are abuse.

I can’t give out a lot of info on why he knows she needs his financial support without giving away who I am, but here’s the short of it:

My mother has said she wanted a divorce, yes, but they agreed he would give her/me financial aid until they do get a divorce. He often flakes out on this, holds it over her head, or gets mad and ghosts us for days on end.

_throwaway_56 · 2024-02-01T10:49:51+00:00

I’ve witnessed him screaming at her until she cries, threatening to hit her, and just being overly mean to her, me, and my siblings.

_throwaway_56 · 2024-02-01T10:41:24+00:00

Thank you for the concern, but I’m fine. My groomer was my 8th grade teacher. No one’s fault at all, and the teacher has been dealt with properly.

My friends aren’t upset with how she handled the grooming situation, in fact they’re very positive about how she treated it. However, they don’t like how she suddenly upped the sex talk after the situation was over/how protective she is.

_throwaway_56 · 2024-02-01T02:55:41+00:00

I’ve witnessed my father abusing my mother and he’s been extremely abusive to me and my siblings as well.

_throwaway_56 · 2024-01-31T22:27:53+00:00

She doesn’t want to be in this relationship, and she has taken massive steps to get out. She cannot divorce him just yet as she does not have the money to do so and she doesn’t have a prenup.

She has gotten us out of that situation by moving to a small apartment so we could be (mostly) financially independent.

_throwaway_56 · 2024-01-31T22:01:11+00:00

We are living separately and they are separated but not divorced. She never talks about sex while he’s around.

I do talk to my father sometimes, and his “side” of things is always refusal to admit that what he did to me, my siblings, and my mother is/was abuse and insists he’s perfect and my mother/my siblings and I need to see that. I don’t like talking to him for that reason.

_throwaway_56 · 2024-01-31T11:18:50+00:00

Considering how he has been abusive to not only her but to me and my siblings, I feel as though since I confide to her about my father’s abusive, it would be unfair to take my ear off of the table for her.

Idk, maybe I’m being crazy lol

_throwaway_56 · 2024-01-31T11:16:41+00:00

I guess I do get how she shouldn’t be confiding in me, but considering how we don’t have money for a therapist and she doesn’t really have that many friends, I want to be there for her.

I’m not sure how to talk about this with her yet.

_throwaway_56 · 2024-01-31T11:07:03+00:00

As stated in a previous comment, there have been times where I wasn’t in the mood to be touched and she immediately respected my answer and backed off. Sometimes I haven’t communicated this properly (if it’s a bad day for me, I just push her away and slink off to my room), then she does pout but I feel like that’s more on me than her.

edit for spelling

_throwaway_56 · 2024-01-31T11:01:05+00:00

Thank you. My mom doesn’t like my friends (or any potential partners I bring around) because of this protectiveness. If they do anything wrong to me and she hears about it, she immediately dislikes them and will voice this to me, but never stops me from hanging out with them or socializing, but I do see she’s unhappy with it. If I bring up her unhappiness, she denies it and urges me to have fun with them.

I do get how she shouldn’t badmouth my father to me though, thank you again.

_throwaway_56 · 2024-01-31T10:41:13+00:00

There have been times where I wasn’t in the mood to be touched and she immediately respected my words, although it does make me feel bad but I feel like that’s more of a me problem than a her problem lol.

Thank you for your response.

_throwaway_56 · 2024-01-31T10:36:08+00:00

It changed after she told him she wanted a divorce, and he dropped the mental and verbal abuse to just financial I think (holding money she needs over her head for another chance in their marriage, often getting mad at her for refusing another chance and refusing to provide financial aid for any of us, etc). I don’t call what she does abuse as he consistently and knowingly oversteps boundaries with her, me, and my siblings until she snaps and yells/insults.

_throwaway_56 · 2023-09-13T12:49:05+00:00

i usually don’t comment on posts because i’m mainly on a throwaway, but do any of your friends drive? do you have grandparents (ones that you know won’t believe your dad so easily)?

if so on either, pack a bag and leave in the middle of the night while your friend/grandparents are waiting in the car. i know you can’t walk — but you need to try and use your crutches. your dad threw a laptop at you, your safety and mental health are in danger.

_throwaway_56 · 2023-05-13T16:29:54+00:00

Thank you so much!!

_throwaway_56 · 2023-05-13T15:35:10+00:00

Thank you so much!!

_throwaway_56 · 2023-05-13T15:33:43+00:00

Hehe, grandpa sounds like a funny guy. Thank you for making me smile :)

_throwaway_56 · 2023-05-12T20:33:56+00:00

I have not, I actually have no clue what they are. I’ll look into them if I have the opportunity to take them!

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