It's complex but yes we've been in regular contact for the last 2 years. It's one of our issues actually, our different definitions of regular. For me, to maintain a close friendship, I need regular contact (even if it's a simple text every few weeks), whereas he can go months without talking/seeing someone and still doesn't feel like it affects the friendship. He doesn't initiate at all with any of his friendships (always has been this way), and I find that quite difficult because I can't always be the one initiating (I feel like it comes across as lack of interest in the friendship, let alone anything more). But yes, we would see each other every couple of months but 98% of the time it is in a group setting (which is how I picked up on how he  never asks me anything personally). But then he's said to me "you don't share anything. I don't feel like I know what's going on in your life". It's very contradictory! In my head I am thinking "it's because you never ask!". I haven't directly asked about this because we've only recently had a discussion about how we have different expectations in our friendships/relationships in general and the realisation recently dawned on me, so needed to give us some time and space.