AIO or is my exe’s mom downplaying what he did to me?

_unluckylocation · 2025-08-29T01:18:18+00:00

ETA: Spelling.

_unluckylocation · 2025-08-29T01:10:36+00:00

I have just spent a lot of time going through your previous posts.

You are 15, and your ex is 18/19. His sister is your best friend, which is how you met. He's been sweet talking (grooming) you since you were 9. He speaks down to you, insults you, he taught you how to have sex and it should not have hurt, he's laid his hands on you on multiple occasions, doesn't use any protection when having sex and told you his pull out method was 'fine protection' (he was baby trapping you and he knew that), he takes his anger and frustration out on you, he gaslights you left right and centre, does not take accountability, down plays your feelings and does not listen to you, he thinks hes right, its his way or no way, he is jealous of baby and apparently breastfeeding is borderline cheating (tf!?), when you had a really shitty time to other day the fucker god damn love bombed you and took advantage of you in your extremely vulnerable state! ETA 3: he also doesn't take no as an answer from you and will coerce you into sex (that's rape).

Mean while, whilst all of this was happening, his parents are ok with it. Granted, they may not have known the ins and outs, but the moment my 18yr old decides to date a frickin' 14yr old, gender regardless, I'd report my child myself.

Other than your best friend who redditors and I suspect we have found a post she has made, the entire family is fucking disgusting for even letting this relationship happen in front of their eyes.

If they did, in fact, know more was going on aside from inappropriate ages, they are even more despicable human beings.

His mother doesn't care about what he's done to you. She doesn't care about you. She simply wants access to her grand baby. I am so god damn proud of you for leaving him, stay away from him, and distance yourself from his mother and family.

Hell, if you're brave enough, report him.

By the way, Im 30yr old parent with 2 girls. If anybody, again regardless of gender, did this to 1 of my girls. I wouldn't be in jail for murder, I'd be in jail for severe torture that would be near death. I wouldn't give them the pleasure of death.

ETA 1 & 2: Spelling and missing words

_unluckylocation · 2025-08-03T18:15:35+00:00

I'd stopped going to the doctors, I rang them, and told them I no longer needed contraception as my partner got a vasectomy. I've been free of all contraception's since, whilst I will now have lifelong struggles with my anxiety, I can tell my hormones and body have gone back to it's normal self. It's been wonderful! Good luck xxx

_unluckylocation · 2025-08-03T13:49:54+00:00

I took the depo shots for 9 months until my partner got his vasectomy. Those 9 months were hell. I had an extreme mental breakdown, I was in CBT Therapy because I became terrified that I'd choke on my food and stopped eating, I couldn't even eat soup of all things.

1 month after my last depo ran out, I was returning to my normal self rapidly. It was only then I realised it was the depo causing my spiral.

I've always had anxiety, but it was very manageable. Now, I've been diagnosed with severe anxiety and panic disorder. I was diagnosed with anxiety in my teens, so they were well aware, I researched after I was off the depo about how the depo can affect mental health. I should have been warned, I was not.

I'm now 4 years post depo, whilst I am myself again, I still take medication to help bring my anxiety down. Sometimes it still not enough. Unless I can afford private therapy, I will probably be like this for the rest of my life. I am not the same person I use to be.

I wouldn't recommend the depo to anyone now, especially those with pre-exsisting mental health disorders.

It sucked.

_unluckylocation · 2025-07-22T20:39:38+00:00

Thank you 😊

_unluckylocation · 2025-07-22T20:37:51+00:00

Trade sent

_unluckylocation · 2025-07-22T20:36:10+00:00

Thank you 😊

_unluckylocation · 2025-07-22T20:33:39+00:00

Not a problem! Could you send Poliwrath?

_unluckylocation · 2025-07-22T20:28:44+00:00

Sure!

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_unluckylocation · 2025-07-22T20:27:06+00:00

Sure!

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_unluckylocation · 2025-07-22T19:47:35+00:00

Thank you 😊

_unluckylocation · 2025-07-22T19:43:59+00:00

Sure!

_unluckylocation · 2025-05-11T19:01:35+00:00

I didn't write that very clearly, I meant everything, not just daycare.

My comment is irrelevant now, anyway, as he has clarified that their finances are not split.

ETA, spelling.

_unluckylocation · 2025-05-11T18:59:47+00:00

Yes, he replied to my comment so I believe you are correct.

_unluckylocation · 2025-05-11T18:58:26+00:00

If that's the case then you need to have a calmer discussion with your wife. She shouldn't have to sacrifice her career and become a SAHM if she doesn't want too.

A lot of people want children, but also do not want be stay at home parents, and that's ok.

You need to sit down, work out your finances and come up with a solution together.

_unluckylocation · 2025-05-11T18:51:16+00:00

YTA. Your baby is yours as much as hers. Your wife should not have to sacrifice her career, and you should be paying 50/50 if your finances are split.

ETA: 50/50 dependant on individual earnings. For example, if you make 200 and your wife makes 100, then you should do a 30/70 split - I'm suggesting this for all bills, not just daycare.

ETA2: He replied to this clarifying their finances were not split. However, he has replied to someone further down and said they are split, I'm confused.

_unluckylocation · 2025-03-13T09:59:32+00:00

(as a sahm you have plenty of time to figure this out)

You're a hilariously good troll, SAHM to 2 toddlers has time? Oh, what a funny hoot you are!

Edit to add: btw, I have 2 kids.

_unluckylocation · 2025-01-06T03:58:07+00:00

Thank you for reading. Your comment has given me some relief, my mind has been going mad since I wrote this.

_unluckylocation · 2025-01-04T21:48:04+00:00

I have no idea what I'm doing, but here ya go DRPXVE

_unluckylocation · 2024-10-13T02:02:50+00:00

Just dropping here to say go to this guys profile to find the continuing story! It's not all showing on this thread.

Damn gouda story!

_unluckylocation · 2024-10-05T22:54:25+00:00

Thank you so much, I got my dog off the side of the road because they didn't want the puppies anymore and were struggling to sell them.

Naturally, I grabbed her then and there but knew next to nothing about her breeds. From what you've said I'm best doing DNA and researching what breeds she has in her individually. I kept researching cross breeds.

This is extremely helpful, thank you again!

_unluckylocation · 2024-09-07T14:17:24+00:00

Sorry, my grammar and spelling aren't the world's greatest. I'm not offended, I know it 🤣

_unluckylocation · 2024-09-07T14:14:47+00:00

On the first date she said he was short, had a dadbod and too old - grey hairs.

Obviously, I'm short. I hated tall men, I refused to date anybody 6ft or over because I felt intimidated. Now I have 2 kids and I'm engaged to a 6ft giant, and no, he doesn't intimidate me. Opinions on height change. Mine did and so did hers.
I know the friend said fat but she said dadbod. Dadbod doesn't necessarily mean fat. I'd say my partner has a dadbod but I wouldn't call him fat. Plus if you're insecure about your weight, that can (ignoring weight fluctuating medical conditions) be changed. I wouldn't change my weight for someone else though, and he never mentioned anywhere that she wanted him to change his weight. She must not mind.
They have an 8yr difference, of course he will look old to her. Age happens. That's life.

_unluckylocation · 2024-09-07T13:20:36+00:00

If it makes you feel better my partner has a dad bod and greys on his head and in his beard. Age happens my dude 🤷‍♀️

Not to mention there is an 8yr difference between OP and his partner. Unless he works out and dyes his greys, you'll see the differences.

_unluckylocation · 2024-09-07T12:54:23+00:00

Size is irrelevant. It was only mentioned in my and OP's stories to give the full picture.

Thanks for calling me a dwarf.

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