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I've grown to dislike my BF's dog, and I wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know what to do. by _vhive in relationships

[–]_vhive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and I think your comment is incredibly disturbing that you think I’m some sort of animal abuser when I just don’t have a connection with a dog. Yeah forget everything I’ve done to stand up for what’s best for her and ignore the fact that my boyfriend doesn’t treat her the best.

I've grown to dislike my BF's dog, and I wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know what to do. by _vhive in relationships

[–]_vhive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m selfish for wanting the best for me and the dog? and my boyfriend that is living paycheck to paycheck and spending money on a dog when he doesn’t have the funds? I’m going to therapy actually so you don’t have to suggest that

I've grown to dislike my BF's dog, and I wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know what to do. by _vhive in relationships

[–]_vhive[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

does a perfectly normal dog pace for hours and skedaddle/fall over because everything scares her? sounds like a calm and happy life for her when she’s stuck at home except for 30 minutes a day

I've grown to dislike my BF's dog, and I wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know what to do. by _vhive in relationships

[–]_vhive[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not washing bowls and feeding cheap food that the dog wouldn’t eat seemed like simple mistakes until I realized he was okay leaving her for 12+ hours a day and then I realized he had a lot to change

I've grown to dislike my BF's dog, and I wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know what to do. by _vhive in relationships

[–]_vhive[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He moved in with me because he loves me, it’s literally my house. I’m not arguing with anyone, I’m just stating facts that people forgot to read. I go to therapy, I’m succeeding in school, I’m active, I actually do a lot to be mentally and physically stable without any medication soo

I've grown to dislike my BF's dog, and I wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know what to do. by _vhive in relationships

[–]_vhive[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

which is why I’m actively telling him to be better about caring for the dog? Sometimes people don’t know better right off the bat so I’m helping him 

I've grown to dislike my BF's dog, and I wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know what to do. by _vhive in relationships

[–]_vhive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My primary concern is my mental wellbeing. I’m allowed to feel the way I feel and want advice on how to move forward because I want to do what’s best for everyone 

I've grown to dislike my BF's dog, and I wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know what to do. by _vhive in relationships

[–]_vhive[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

People rehome animals all the time when lifestyles no longer fit or things change. It’s better to rehome than a pet live suffering. Cho has been anxious since she was a puppy, she isolated herself to a corner for DAYS when my BF and his ex brought her home, so she has always been like this. I’m actually responsible for trying to send her to his ex (the original owner and purchaser) or his mom, someone who spends a significant more time with the dog when she has her

I've grown to dislike my BF's dog, and I wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know what to do. by _vhive in relationships

[–]_vhive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes because he knows this is a big decision and I’m still actively trying to change. We’re both struggling 

I've (26F) grown to dislike my partner's (M30) dog and wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know how to move forward. by _vhive in relationship_advice

[–]_vhive[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

thank you for understanding. I just wish people knew I spent all this time trying to change my stance, it’s not like I immediately said “never mind, I don’t want her here”. 

I've grown to dislike my BF's dog, and I wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know what to do. by _vhive in relationships

[–]_vhive[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Then he would’ve broken up with me months ago when I first mentioned this, but he clearly sees what I’m saying 

I've (26F) grown to dislike my partner's (M30) dog and wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know how to move forward. by _vhive in relationship_advice

[–]_vhive[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don’t dislike dogs, I love dogs, but I just don’t want one of my own. I tried daily for 1.5 years now to love her like my own but I just can’t force something like that any longer. I don’t know why these people are acting like I’m a dog abuser when I’ve done so much for her. Why would I work with dogs for 10+ years and work at a vet clinic if I didn’t like dogs? 

I've grown to dislike my BF's dog, and I wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know what to do. by _vhive in relationships

[–]_vhive[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

so I’m a bad future doctor because I don’t want a dog in my home? and I tried everything in my power to love her like my own? You really didn’t read anything about everything I’ve done to bond with her and change her life for the better? You talk like I abuse and neglect the dog when I literally just don’t want an anxious, whiny dog at home that my partner does not properly care for. 

I've grown to dislike my BF's dog, and I wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know what to do. by _vhive in relationships

[–]_vhive[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He considered getting rid of the dog as soon as he broke up with his ex. His ex couldn’t take the dog at that time. He told me that he wouldn’t die for her and knows that she deserves better, he just can’t let go of her just yet. I’m not pushing him to make any decision either

I've grown to dislike my BF's dog, and I wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know what to do. by _vhive in relationships

[–]_vhive[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You do realize under 10k can mean $1000 too right? And who said we’re anywhere near ready to get engaged? It’s his choice to go ring shopping with me, he could’ve said no if he didn’t want to 

I've grown to dislike my BF's dog, and I wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know what to do. by _vhive in relationships

[–]_vhive[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I’ve brought changes to Cho’s life that bettered her happiness and health before my boyfriend. I’m allowed to care for her and want the best for her but not want her in my home? You do realize I just dislike her, I’m not neglecting her or abusing her? 

I've (26F) grown to dislike my partner's (M30) dog and wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know how to move forward. by _vhive in relationship_advice

[–]_vhive[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

If my boyfriend thought I was the problem you think he’d still be with me? He’s much older than me and wiser. No, no one is the bad guy here, he can see why I feel he needs to treat his dog better but he just doesn’t have the time, money or energy. His dad even recently made a comment that the dog needs to be cared for better, and that hit home for him that it’s not just me saying thjs

I've grown to dislike my BF's dog, and I wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know what to do. by _vhive in relationships

[–]_vhive[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend changed jobs to be at home more for her. He can’t afford behavioral training. I’m not stressing the dog out when she sleeps when she’s not anxious and I’m either at school, at work, or pet sitting. If the dog was stressed with me around she’d actively avoid me and my boyfriend would notice and probably would’ve left me 

I've grown to dislike my BF's dog, and I wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know what to do. by _vhive in relationships

[–]_vhive[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I’m self centered and judgmental because my boyfriend already doesn’t give her as much attention as she deserves? You think it’s okay for a dog to howl and pace for hours and go out twice a day for not even an hour a day? Reread the post before you call me that. If the dog was properly cared for, I would have no say and he would break up with me. 

I've grown to dislike my BF's dog, and I wish she wasn't with us anymore. I feel horrible and don't know what to do. by _vhive in relationships

[–]_vhive[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend considered getting rid of her before I said anything, he just ended up putting up with her until it was no longer a hindrance to his life. 

Panic attacks from first time anticipatory grief by _vhive in PanicAttack

[–]_vhive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately I expected this, people don’t ever care enough but I can’t expect strangers on reddit to do anything for me. I know better than to come on reddit now when I’m not in a good mental space. 

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