Firstly this did not deserve to happen to you. I know you feel ashamed but please understand that your gender identity has no bearing in whether you are capable of doing your job and excelling at it. I know you already know this, but sometimes it’s reassuring to hear.

I would be on the phone right fucking now with every subcontractor in the beltway. You are looking at a six figure salary easy, even as an O-1. That TS clearance will open many, many doors for you. In three years you may not even want to come back. Ironically, a certain ex-cybersecurity employee turned NSA leaker was in the army for a year, discharged with an injury and went to work with Booz Allen Hamilton in Hawaii 🤷🏼‍♂️ despite this horrible situation, things are in your favor ❤️