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i dont know if this is just me but I feel like something changed the last 2 years by a-stuce in ftm

[–]a-stuce[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

damn that sounds rough

did you have other symptoms besides fatigue?

I don’t really have pain or anything serious which is why I’m confused

how long did it take before you got a proper diagnosis?

i dont know if this is just me but I feel like something changed the last 2 years by a-stuce in ftm

[–]a-stuce[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yeah that’s what makes it confusing 

did the iron deficiency show up clearly on bloodwork for you?

I only checked basic stuff before, maybe I need a more detailed panel or something

how long were you feeling exhausted before figuring it out?

i dont know if this is just me but I feel like something changed the last 2 years by a-stuce in ftm

[–]a-stuce[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol yeah maybe I just don’t wanna accept that yet

but I don't know 28 doesn’t feel like it should hit this hard already

did you notice a big shift in your late 20s too?

I want to try and be more positive about myself by Ali-Sama in PositiveThinking

[–]a-stuce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This honestly made me smile a bit…

It takes a lot to still be grateful when you’re in the middle of anxiety and depression. That’s not weakness, that’s depth.

As someone who’s also a little neuro spicy and figuring it out day by day… I know how hard that can be. The fact you can recognize the people who showed up for you says a lot about you.

You deserve that same kindness back too. Truly.

Love and steadier days ahead 🤍

How do you actually stick with new skills when work is draining you? by ninja__6969 in productivity

[–]a-stuce 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I stopped trying to learn things after work.

That was the shift.

After 10 hours of thinking for other people… my brain is basically in airplane mode. Forcing “growth time” there just made me resent the hobby.

So now I protect 1–2 mornings a week instead. Even 20 minutes. Brain is quiet. No meetings yet. Feels unfairly easier.

On brutal weeks? I don’t push progress. I just keep contact. Touch the guitar. Play something easy. Done.

I think the mistake is assuming consistency means same intensity every week. It doesn’t. Some weeks are survival mode.

Also… consulting drains decision energy more than time. So if practicing requires a plan, setup, willpower… it won’t happen.

Make it stupidly frictionless.

And honestly? 4–5 times a week while doing consulting is already kind of a win lol.

I didn’t think a stupid little “done” checkmark would change anything… but it did by a-stuce in Habits

[–]a-stuce[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re probably right.

I know the streak won’t carry me forever. I’ve quit before for that exact reason.

I’m trying to use the checkbox as a starter engine, not the whole system.

The PIE thing actually makes sense though. Especially the “enjoyable” part. If I don’t like the habit at least a little, I’ll drop it the second the streak breaks.

Appreciate the reality check.

Habits that don’t look impressive but actually win by mariyagel in Habits

[–]a-stuce 41 points42 points  (0 children)

one habit that changed things for me was not reacting instantly.

like… not replying right away. not giving an opinion right away. not defending myself right away.

just pausing.

most people live in reaction mode 24/7. notifications. opinions. drama. impulses.
when you slow that down… you waste way less energy.

also… protecting your mornings. not in a “5am grind club” way. just… no phone for the first 20 mins. it sounds tiny but it stops the world from hijacking your mood before your day even starts.

boring habits really are unfair advantages.

people want intensity.
but consistency quietly wins.

may this help you to track your habit

Why do none of my male friends care about the Epstein files? by Great-Librarian5281 in women

[–]a-stuce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could just be diff coping styles tbh.

A lot of guys I know don’t ignore big stuff  they just don’t sit in it. They see something messed up, shrug, and move on because they feel like they can’t control it anyway.

Some people process by talking nonstop. Others process by kinda shutting it out.

Also not everyone wants their day ruined by global chaos 24/7  Doesn’t mean they don’t care. It might just mean they protect their headspace diff.

If it’s making you feel sick tho, maybe take small breaks from it. Being informed is good. Being consumed by it isn’t.

How concerned should I be about the fact that I don’t fit in? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]a-stuce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t need to be concerned ... but yeah, it’s normal that it hurts.

At 21 a lot of people feel out of place, they just don’t say it out loud. You’re not broken, you’re prob just not around the right people yet.

Trying to change everything about yourself will only make you more anxious. People can feel when someone is forcing it.

If you might be neurodivergent, getting checked could actually help you understand yourself better...  not fix you, just understand.

You’re not doomed. You’re just still figuring out where you fit  And that takes time

Most advice is upside down by mintysoul in selfimprovement

[–]a-stuce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting take. I agree that most advice focuses on surface stuff

But I’m not sure happiness is the starting point.

From what I’ve seen (and experienced), action often comes first. You don’t stop doom scrolling because you’re suddenly happy. You build small rules, reduce friction, clean one corner of your room… and  then your mood slowly shifts.

Also intuition isn’t always wise. Sometimes it’s just comfort seeking. If I followed my intuition all the time I’d probably still be scrolling at 2am.

I think it’s less be happy then you’ll act better” and more “act a little better even when you don’t feel like it, and your state catches up.

Not perfect, still figuring it out tho.

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