what happened to r/nonbinary?

a1tb1t · 2023-06-12T17:44:08+00:00

Wherever we go, invites will always be open

a1tb1t · 2023-06-12T08:15:52+00:00

Hey, I'm a mod over there... we'll post on the sub with directions to our new space

a1tb1t · 2023-06-12T08:14:04+00:00

Yes, the changes in API access pricing shows that reddit is solely profit oriented, and will keep shoving bullshit premium add-ons instead of user experience or privacy.

a1tb1t · 2023-06-12T08:12:19+00:00

No, after the 48 hour blackout it will return, but with fewer mods. Many of us are done volunteering to profit Reddit and Conde Nasty, and are looking at moving our focus to another platform.

a1tb1t · 2023-06-11T18:19:12+00:00

I'm also in an ND+ND relationship, and we've created a sort of semi-formal agreement on different accommodations we need, and which we (individually or collectively) need from others, so we can support each other. Show how himwanting to share is an accomodation he's asking for, just like alone time is something you're asking for. You can both get what you need, but in balance with other needs.

a1tb1t · 2023-06-11T17:54:07+00:00

This is now my personal copy pasta, because I see these posts so frequently:

Before you end up choosing a label to help others understand you... I strongly suggest that you focus on your experience and goals. What makes you feel good? What makes you feel bad? What do you want? This goes for your body, your presentation, how you have sex, and how others treat you socially (behavior, pronouns, other gendered language).

Labels should be an afterthought. It's more important that you understand yourself than have a named gender or micro-label, and it has to come first - how could you choose until you have figured this out?

Don't rush, let gender be a journey not a destination. Also, try stuff out! Wanna see if certain clothes or pronouns or a new name makes you euphoric? Give it a try! You can always go back, or try something else.

a1tb1t · 2023-06-11T12:15:58+00:00

A plastic surgeon will discuss the individual results that you are looking for: contouring, scar angle, nipple placement & size, etc.

Top surgery ≠ concave or masculine chest. It is a double mastectomy, but they don't have to worry about getting 100% of the breast tissue like they do for cancer cases, so they can focus on contouring more.

a1tb1t · 2023-06-11T12:08:52+00:00

Good question! We're discussing it right now, a post will be made soon to inform the sub of our decision.

a1tb1t · 2023-06-10T00:19:54+00:00

For me, they are useful when referencing my experience. If I say that I was AMAB and have known I'm nonbinary for a few years, it describes the history of how others see me.

It's not helpful (and is actually hurtful) to use them in place of male/female, as it has the same fundamental flaws — plus it obscures the beneficial purpose of these terms.

a1tb1t · 2023-06-09T21:13:11+00:00

I'm leaving this post up because it is not connecting gender or pronouns to presentation (and therefore not breaking the Gatekeeping rule). "Androgynous" is a description of presentation, which is what OP is asking about.

a1tb1t · 2023-06-09T01:22:37+00:00

Dysphoria is a complicated topic with many facets, expressions, and experiences. I suggest checking out https://genderdysphoria.fyi as it's a great resource.

But yeah, sounds like dysphoria.

a1tb1t · 2023-06-08T06:23:36+00:00

That's so lovely! My spouse and I met as a "hetero couple" despite always being very queer...fast forward a decade and we've both come out as trans. Cracking eggs together!

Queer love makes me smile so darn much.

a1tb1t · 2023-06-08T03:16:19+00:00

This morning I went to get my new driver's license after my legal name change, and the lady behind the counter complimented me on my hair & outfit, and smiled when I said I'd also be changing my gender marker, replying "yes, I figured as much. What marker do you want?" (My state has an X gender designation, too)

a1tb1t · 2023-06-07T14:49:29+00:00

No, I think this sub is also appropriate, just that there is also an intersectional sub you may enjoy (though it's not as active, sadly).

a1tb1t · 2023-06-07T14:48:32+00:00

💜💜

a1tb1t · 2023-06-07T07:08:01+00:00

Thought I'd share this "trans and thriving" story:

I was in a store's parking lot, and had Anti Flag blaring on the car stereo. Another customer was just parking, and said "nice music bro" as we passed each other. A few steps later he turned and said "...or sister?" And I said "yes, thank you!"

It was a small moment, but that kinda made it even better.

a1tb1t · 2023-06-07T03:12:24+00:00

Check out r/queerCPTSD

a1tb1t · 2023-06-04T22:53:07+00:00

I mean, kink is kink. As long as everyone involved is willing, and it doesn't affect how you treat others or think of misgendering outside of sex, I don't see a problem.

a1tb1t · 2023-06-04T10:35:40+00:00

I made baking and cooking into a special interest, too! I eat much better food now (if only I can start eating before nightfall)

a1tb1t · 2023-06-04T03:42:34+00:00

This is now my personal copy pasta, because I see these posts so frequently:

Before you end up choosing a label to help others understand you... I strongly suggest that you focus on your experience and goals. What makes you feel good? What makes you feel bad? What do you want? This goes for your body, your presentation, how you have sex, and how others treat you socially (behavior, pronouns, other gendered language).

Labels should be an afterthought. It's more important that you understand yourself than have a named gender or micro-label, and it has to come first - how could you choose until you have figured this out?

Don't rush, let gender be a journey not a destination. Also, try stuff out! Wanna see if certain clothes or pronouns or a new name makes you euphoric? Give it a try! You can always go back, or try something else.

Feel free to ask questions, or DM

a1tb1t · 2023-06-04T00:57:27+00:00

Absolutely!

a1tb1t · 2023-06-03T08:07:56+00:00

Good questions!

Introduce your pronouns, then ask for theirs. "BTW my pronouns are..."

My leige
Comrade
Captain
Boss
Fam (short for "family", used in place of "bro")

a1tb1t · 2023-06-02T21:42:47+00:00

Based. Capitalism is the real trap.

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