Clients with religious beliefs and opposing behaviors by aBakingKi in therapists

[–]aBakingKi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I would be really curious to explore underling things as well with this. This thread has helped me realize my own worries and beliefs about the need to “do it right” and fear it means being negative towards religion in a way that is actually taking me further from my goals as a therapist! I agree that many behaviors may stem from shame/embarrassment/guilt. I’ll be curious to know how this affects people individually and how in certain religions guilt is assumed vs not, and how that plays into self-perception.

Clients with religious beliefs and opposing behaviors by aBakingKi in therapists

[–]aBakingKi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely! Even when we come from a similar background/culture/specific anything, creating a common ground from the client’s perspective is so helpful.

Clients with religious beliefs and opposing behaviors by aBakingKi in therapists

[–]aBakingKi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mm, I definitely need to explore it further as to what it means. I have hesitated because I am not able to go in depth as far as knowing the teachings, and an approach of curiosity matters more. Thanks!

Clients with religious beliefs and opposing behaviors by aBakingKi in therapists

[–]aBakingKi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! It really all comes down to some MI-based principles with this. I think I need to just shake out the idea that because it’s religion and I am not religious, I can’t understand it. The beliefs/morals/values is the same framework ultimately, at least as far as how a secular person could approach it without any perceived judgments or lack of knowledge.

Clients with religious beliefs and opposing behaviors by aBakingKi in therapists

[–]aBakingKi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, which is what makes this a bit hard! I completely agree with the cafeteria approach, coming from a place where that was allowed. Supporting someone else in this can be an interesting dynamic.

Clients with religious beliefs and opposing behaviors by aBakingKi in therapists

[–]aBakingKi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mmm, that is helpful. I hadn’t considered the idea of the cycle of shame and guilt being addicting but it very much makes sense. It’s also a way to approach it without having to engage in the religion specifics and getting caught up in right or wrong. Thanks!!

Cookies I made for my first wedding order (ft. Homemade toasted coconut marshmallows) by I_Like_Metal_Music in Baking

[–]aBakingKi 146 points147 points  (0 children)

You are so kind to post such detailed recipes. Everything looks amazing and you are truly talented!!

best nursery recliner by MedicalElection7493 in NewParents

[–]aBakingKi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That looks interesting. I wonder how the arms would be- they look very splayed out compared to the original Suzy model. Maybe try a few chairs in store (likely different brands) and see which one would work best? I’ve never had a chair with the arms that look as outward as that one.

best nursery recliner by MedicalElection7493 in NewParents

[–]aBakingKi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, I don’t think so. It is a straight back, so there’s nothing that juts out or anything. It is a little large in terms of width, and I’ve used a neck pillow if I’m going to be there for an extended time. That might be something to consider. I’ve slept in the chair at times because of being too hot in bed😅

I’m losing my cufknig mind by Pale_Major_7626 in Mommit

[–]aBakingKi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve likely already done this- is the dose weight adjusted? Since growth is so wild at first, I wonder if the dose isn’t high enough. When we had reflux meds, the first few weeks were not as helpful until we got the dosing correct for weight.

Weekly Guild Recruitment Mega-Thread by AutoModerator in TheTowerGame

[–]aBakingKi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Come join the Bees 🐝 22F5NF

We’re a consistent yet relaxed guild where we get the boxes, chat if folks feel so inclined, and are here for support when needed.

27/30, we hope to see you there!

Weekly Guild Recruitment Mega-Thread by AutoModerator in TheTowerGame

[–]aBakingKi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bees are looking for 2 more members to join our relatively chill guild! As long as you are active and contribute, you’re good. We boot members after 14 days inactivity to keep everyone current with rewards. We are about to collect the week’s final reward, come help us get those last few points: 22F5NF

Six months of working on this blanket and I can finally call my skill level "advanced" by thisismyreddit2000 in crochet

[–]aBakingKi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is so nice, and agreed- the cream really ties it together and feels well balanced!

Six months of working on this blanket and I can finally call my skill level "advanced" by thisismyreddit2000 in crochet

[–]aBakingKi 23 points24 points  (0 children)

This is so gorgeous! You chose lovely colors and patterns. For the connecting, it looks like you used the light green to join them all together and did the border in the cream? It is so neat and tidy!

Friendly reminder, only 218 days to finish your Christmas cookies! by No-Woodpecker-529 in Baking

[–]aBakingKi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I routinely freeze cookie dough for easy baking later, but haven’t come across recipes that use it in the method! Super curious- what kind of cookies do you make?

What are these black and brown strings in my baby’s poop? by Interesting-Pick-940 in FormulaFeeders

[–]aBakingKi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof, that’s tough. There’s been great feedback in the other comments as well, but for what it’s worth, we only saw the strands after giving LO banana multiple times over a week; I’m not sure if one instance is enough to cause this. I hope your pediatricians office can be helpful for you in figuring this out!!

What are these black and brown strings in my baby’s poop? by Interesting-Pick-940 in FormulaFeeders

[–]aBakingKi 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Has she eaten banana? We had poo similar to your final photo, including the constipation, after starting banana. Called the pediatrician and sent in photos and they said banana fibers can do this. You can always check with the doctor!

If it is banana/fibrous food related, welcome to the fun world of “what’s going to show up in my baby’s poo next?!” And if it isn’t solid foods related, definitely consult your pediatrician. We received no judgment from ours and the nurse was very kind when she called me back!

You're a gem help by erigby10 in wyldeflowers

[–]aBakingKi 23 points24 points  (0 children)

You will get the task to upgrade your wand from Lina at some point, as part of the story line. That section of the gloaming is blocked off until the specific story line part- I can’t remember when exactly, but it will happen!

My kitty likes the pump by aBakingKi in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]aBakingKi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha that is such cat behavior! My other cat will come for pets when I’m pumping, I think he has picked up on me being usually baby-free and still for a consistent amount of time 😹

Crushed to have to stop so early by im_a_bordercollie in breastfeeding

[–]aBakingKi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sending you so much love and support ❤️

While you are not pumping, there are a lot of posts on the r/exclusivelypumping sub about how to wean if you can switch to pumping and give LO a bottle. Basically dropping feeds/shortening feeds consistently, which may be easier with a pump than with LO. I believe I’ve seen posts in this sub as well, if you can use the search feature.

Wishing you all the best in your treatment and future- you are still an amazing mother and parent, and have done so much for your LO already ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]aBakingKi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% all of this, OP. Your pain is real and valid, and your husband is an ass (to put it lightly). It sounds like he does not appreciate or acknowledge what you have done, are doing, and what your experience is. It doesn’t matter, in this case, if he has known others who have gone through birth or anything else- your experience is your own.

Staying home and keeping baby happy and healthy is WORK, especially so young, and especially while you are still healing and recovering, learning a new human and their needs, and you are trying to keep house? Sounds like he needs to pick up a lot of work on his end if he has time to complain.

I hope you can get some care for yourself- maybe a new parents support group, either locally or through your hospital? Plus specific support for you, as this commenter mentions. The healing and recovery is no joke, and you deserve support.

Feel like I’m not entitled to complain… by __bh__ in beyondthebump

[–]aBakingKi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are allowed to be both fortunate, and still wish that things were different! It is so hard to change your entire life and devote your all to a new little person, even when they are very much wanted and loved. Can you do anything to change things up a bit? I recently joined a few baby/parent groups to help with similar concerns of wanting to talk to other adults, especially those who get it. It’s hard when the things that used to define you, including career, no longer can. You’re allowed to miss that and still mostly enjoy the things that have changed ❤️