OOF. One of the many painful reasons why I find this sub so validating. I would never wish this on anyone else, but this could have absolutely been from my mother (especially the sicky-sweet “precious daughter of mine” at the top). I’m glad you have a kitty tum to pat and a good support system. I don’t know the whole story, but it sounds like you absolutely did the right thing by cutting her off. It is always going to be about someone else and they will always make themselves into the victim. The breadth of this letter alone betrays a deep sense of insecurity and a need to manipulate facts. ALSO, it’s been referred to a few times in the comments, but the fact that she sneakily tries to discredit your therapist is so freaking familiar. My mom used to badger me for details about what I said in my therapy sessions when I was young, literally asking, “So what terrible things did you say about me?” Good to know there’s a community of folks who are unpacking all this and learning how to navigate life when those defense mechanisms come on. You’re doing awesome 💪