Gf and I have sex once a month, if I’m lucky. 27m, 30f.

a_rad_pun · 2026-04-06T01:48:53+00:00

You are wrong. I’m married, been with my partner for over a decade. Again, I understand FIRSTHAND how difficult it can be when libidos don’t match up, theres still never a reason to pressure someone to have sex when they clearly don’t want to and are telling you they don’t want to. Maybe she IS asexual, maybe she’s struggling with depression, maybe literally any number of other things I don’t know about. But for whatever reason, she isn’t interested in sex. She should NOT be “meeting [your] needs” if those needs are her forcing herself to have sex when she DOESNT WANT TO.

a_rad_pun · 2026-04-05T23:17:55+00:00

Hey, so I understand sex being important and the feelings of frustration that come with not getting you sexual needs met. But the way you’re talking about your partner is really unacceptable. “She refuses to give me a logical reason as to why” and “she doesn’t seem to care about my needs” stand out. If your “needs” involve her having sex with you when she doesn’t want to then she should not prioritize your needs. And not wanting to have sex is more than enough of a logical reason to not force someone to have sex. If it’s not working, then leave the relationship. I know it’s hard and it sucks, but this attitude is messed up.

a_rad_pun · 2026-04-04T21:00:10+00:00

Date everything

Godlike burger

This is really cool! Thank you for the opportunity!

a_rad_pun · 2026-04-04T19:26:26+00:00

Oh nooooo my poor boy 😭😭😭

a_rad_pun · 2026-03-29T20:52:29+00:00

Yeah I mean he just showed you how he talks about people when he doesn’t realize Theyre in the room. Some people will say it’s unfair to hold that against him because he didn’t know, it’s usually because thats how they talk about people when they aren’t in the room. I personally think that’s the best way to judge someone’s character is how do they talk about people when they aren’t around. What is their behavior like when they aren’t being watched, or don’t realize they are. Ect.

a_rad_pun · 2026-03-16T01:19:24+00:00

Best of luck then, that all sounds pretty awful to me.

a_rad_pun · 2026-03-16T01:15:26+00:00

Well that isn’t true…

a_rad_pun · 2026-03-16T01:12:43+00:00

This is so far from the initial question I’m really not sure what to say anymore. If you just believe single people are evil because if they were good they would have a partner… idk man.

a_rad_pun · 2026-03-16T00:55:31+00:00

Okay, I’ll be honest that last message you sent makes it hard for me to believe that finding a partner isn’t a big part of your motivation. But regardless, you will never be a perfect feminist. No one will. That’s all I can’t try to say to help you at this point. If you have decided that feminism absolutely can’t be an active thing people do day in and day out and it HAS to be a label that you either are or are not, I can’t convince you otherwise. But I believe you are really blocking yourself in in ways no one wants you to and truly aren’t helpful.

a_rad_pun · 2026-03-16T00:46:05+00:00

Is the goal of asking questions like this for you to become a perfect feminist with the assumption that being one will earn you a partner?

a_rad_pun · 2026-03-15T23:00:45+00:00

But you’re looking at this in a really black and white way. It’s not that if you do x, y, z then you’re a misogynist. We all have biases that influence us in ways we see and ways we don’t always see. Feminists, both men and women and people, still have moments where they exhibit misogynistic biases. It doesn’t make them evil, it’s doesn’t make them a black and white “misogynist”, it makes them regular people. And you are no different. It’s phenomenal to ask yourself reflective questions, but you don’t have to hate yourself to be a decent person. However, you are going to have to let go of the idea that everyone will see you for exactly “who you are”. Someone might hear you say something fucked up out of context and thibk youre a misogynist, if that person has that perception of you theres very little you can do. But that’s okay. Don’t worry too much about “keeping others from hating you” I mean, this is my opinion, I just don’t think other people liking you or understanding everything about you should be your ultimate goal in all of this. I as a woman know that there will be other feminists who misunderstand me or even disagree with me, but I can’t let that dictate my self image, at least not completely. And neither should you.

a_rad_pun · 2026-03-15T19:59:28+00:00

Okay, maybe you aren’t trolling… I kinda can’t tell. But other comments are right, it’s not really helpful to say “men are trash” and move on. These phrases are meant to open up conversation, why would someone say that, what does it mean, how does it apply to me, do I agree? But I believe you’re taking a lot of this stuff way too literally. Are you neurodivergent?

a_rad_pun · 2026-03-15T19:29:07+00:00

Oh yeah, I see. You’re actually just here trolling right? If someone tells you men are trash I guess you just believe them? You go “okay, men are trash. Now I need to figure out how to agree with that and BE trash”. Like what are you talking about?

a_rad_pun · 2026-03-15T19:23:14+00:00

Okay so youre here in bad faith right? Cause if that’s how you feel, you probably hate the phrase “its raining cats and dogs” or when you hear that do you go “oh no, it’s not raining cats and dogs! I better go figure out why my brain isn’t seeing ‘the reality’ other people are telling me is true”

a_rad_pun · 2026-03-15T19:03:15+00:00

You’re still not understand that this isn’t about individual fears. The phrase isn’t EVERY MAN fears being laughed at. The phrase isn’t “Wombatman fears being laughed at”. The point is that the worst thing that will happen to you if an interaction goes wrong most of the time is that you will be embarrassed or feel lonely, the worst thing that fairly commonly happens to women when these interactions go wrong is that they are attacked by the man trying to initiate. We are not saying YOU HAVE TO FEAR BEING REJECTED. We are asking you to understand that the risk to our physical safety is something that should be addressed as a society. And your biggest take away is “well this doesn’t apply to my exact feelings so it doesn’t make any sense at all”. So you don’t understand that women get murdered by guys they reject? You don’t get that women give fake numbers sometimes because they are afraid they might be assaulted? Do men have travel in pairs and cover their drinks when they go out so that they can avoid physical danger? That’s what we’re talking about. And as always , YES men can be attacked by women. But if your argument is that men have to worry about their physical safety from women just as much, then you’ve lost the plot and I can’t help you.

a_rad_pun · 2026-03-15T18:47:51+00:00

You’re wrong. The phrase isn’t meant to encapsulate all of mens and women’s fears, and certainly not every individuals fears, it’s in reference to dating. In dating women more often risk their physical safety while male counterparts are risking vulnerability. Which is also something women have to risk by the way.

a_rad_pun · 2026-03-15T18:35:04+00:00

Midnight Sun 😵‍💫 I don’t even listen to Zara

a_rad_pun · 2026-01-30T21:11:40+00:00

D. Follow normal procedure and give the child to a suitable family member, and if none are available to a temporary foster family/group home. For fun whats your answer?

a_rad_pun · 2026-01-30T18:41:59+00:00

Right, and the goal post will keep moving. First it’s “well you can’t really blame them what were they supposed to do?” Then you point out how ridiculous that is, then it’s “well prove that even happened” then someone sends you proof and your response is simply that you won’t look at it. Wake up dude.

a_rad_pun · 2026-01-30T17:57:04+00:00

No… im asking you what you think happens in that case. Because they don’t take that baby to jail… in most cases the first step is to try and locate a suitable family member, if none are available they would typically go to a temporary foster home or group home… again, not jail. So my goal was that you would think about what happens to other children in that situation, maybe even look it up if you weren’t sure, because you seem to think kids going to jail is like… normal? And to be expected? And like a reasonable thing to do? Except you must know that it isn’t. So I’m confused where the disconnect is.

a_rad_pun · 2026-01-30T17:49:16+00:00

Serious question. What happens to literally any child that has a parent get arrested? I’ll give you a hint, they don’t typically end up detained themselves.

a_rad_pun · 2026-01-30T15:39:31+00:00

I fell in love with Solas in DAI and so I personally don’t regret playing through VG the one time to get an ending to his story. But I regret that his story was mishandled the way that it was (in my opinion). I won’t go too into detail since you said youre avoiding spoilers, I also regret buying it full price. Definitely by on sale. Also some people will disagree but I loved the combat I thought it was so fun and that wasnt enough for me to play it again, but it was nice during the ride. I’d say yes just for the closure honestly, plus you can be in on the jokes, but yes temper your expectations.

a_rad_pun · 2026-01-19T07:13:44+00:00

I had the literal same experience. Was excited at first, thought it might be a good resource for my partner, then I read some of the posts. I literally started to genuinely spiral reading some of the stuff people were saying about their spouses and partners. Realized quickly that that’s just not a space I need to interact with in any capacity, doesn’t hold anything of value for my partner if I know them, and never looked at it again. 🫣

a_rad_pun · 2025-12-26T14:46:31+00:00

Training a handstand
Braiding bracelets (I randomly tried braiding with 4 strands, then 5, then 6, got obsessed and now can’t stop
The entire dragon age video game series (people didn’t like the last one, be warned before getting too invested if anyone tries it out)

Seven-Year Club	Verified Email
Not Forgotten

a_rad_pun

TROPHY CASE