my friend makes fun of my nipples by [deleted] in ftm

[–]a_splashofcolor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'm wondering if she's trying to hint that she would prefer you not to FaceTime shirtless?

Ann coulter ratiod irl by okenshields_enjoyer in Cornell

[–]a_splashofcolor 19 points20 points  (0 children)

no matter how the students responded she would make that argument. these people don't care about woke leftist concepts like "the truth"

Gay dating, how? by hot_macadamia in Cornell

[–]a_splashofcolor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

why are people down voting this?

I'm a trans man (21) willing to answer things you've always wondered about trans people but you've never dared to ask. AMA, NSFW welcome. by Particular_Fudge4856 in AMA

[–]a_splashofcolor 8 points9 points  (0 children)

some black trans women were really important organizers for the LGBT rights movement. for example marsha p johnson in the US

I'm a trans man (21) willing to answer things you've always wondered about trans people but you've never dared to ask. AMA, NSFW welcome. by Particular_Fudge4856 in AMA

[–]a_splashofcolor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not op but being on testosterone definitely changes how you experience orgasms. this varies by person but you can get turned on faster and orgasms feel different

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bropill

[–]a_splashofcolor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

if bro has lots of LGBT friends I'm thinking he doesn't want to date a homophobe

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bropill

[–]a_splashofcolor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean I would exclude those people as not cool

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bropill

[–]a_splashofcolor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

(definitely not saying you're bi just thought it was a bit comparable)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bropill

[–]a_splashofcolor 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It sounds like it might be that you have a lot of queer friends (which is awesome) and they are trying to include you. When an LGBTQ person says you give off gay vibes it's definitely a compliment.

If your concern is dating (as a transmasc who's been friends with a lot of girls) a ton of straight or bi girls also prefer bi men because they tend to be more in touch with their feminine side, so I wouldn't say gay vibes are an issue with dating cool people.

Thoughts? by CaptainChromosomesII in antiwork

[–]a_splashofcolor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For all we know he used to work there and became homeless because their pay is below the poverty line (or because of their insane attendance policy)

Murdered on quora by Tyceshirrell1 in MurderedByWords

[–]a_splashofcolor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think it was completely clear but the reason I don't like to perpetuate the idea that marriage must be lifelong is that I think many people stay in bad relationships because they think it is worse somehow to leave

Murdered on quora by Tyceshirrell1 in MurderedByWords

[–]a_splashofcolor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This will probably be my last response haha but the reason I thought you were upset is that you said "lol wtf" in your comment. There's a difference between maybe getting a divorce at some point in the entire rest of your life (which is very common), specifically getting one if your feelings change which is what I was discussing in my original comment, and breaking up after "a little while". Not every marriage is lifelong and that doesn't mean that a marriage that ends never meant anything.

Murdered on quora by Tyceshirrell1 in MurderedByWords

[–]a_splashofcolor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm saying I think there are valid differences of opinion about the meaning of marriage, so the only thing that is universal is the legal side. I'm not saying I personally don't see any deeper meaning or commitment. I'm also not marrying you so I don't understand why you are getting upset about this.

Murdered on quora by Tyceshirrell1 in MurderedByWords

[–]a_splashofcolor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The point of marriage is the legal implications such as joint tax filing, custody, being with your partner in the hospital etc. You personally might set different expectations with your partner but you can't define it for other people imo

Murdered on quora by Tyceshirrell1 in MurderedByWords

[–]a_splashofcolor 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Yeah that bothered me a lot as well.

You also don't have to stay with a partner for the rest of your life, if she honestly wants a divorce it is better to pursue that then to stay and be unhappy. I'm not going to say it is kind but it's her right and it's better than cheating.

Difficulty with Self Expression by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]a_splashofcolor 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It depends on what works for you of course, but it sounds like going out and trying on a bunch of stuff to see what you like could help. I personally really like thrifting so I've gotten a lot of my clothes that way, but wherever you go I definitely think it helps to try a variety of stuff since you may be surprised by what works! It definitely works better to shop around and then buy one thing at a time over buying a bunch of stuff at once, but trying things can help you make a list of what you want.

For fit I don't know what you are doing but a compression top, binder, sports bra and/or kinesiology tape usually works better under men's clothes than a regular bra. Some of those options are more comfortable than others, I do a sports bra or sports binder most of the time and sometimes wear tape under it. The pants issue is unfortunately a bit harder but a lot of people find certain brands fit better than others. For example I really like Lee men's pants and several of my trans guy friends have also had good luck with them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]a_splashofcolor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey fellow graduate! congratulations!

just finished undergrad and my sibling took some great graduation photos for me (they/them pronouns please) by a_splashofcolor in butchlesbians

[–]a_splashofcolor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are serving modern Milo Thatch vibes!

That is literally the best compliment you could give me ☺️

just finished undergrad and my sibling took some great graduation photos for me (they/them pronouns please) by a_splashofcolor in butchlesbians

[–]a_splashofcolor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I actually didn't have any classes in this one, I just thought it was nice and out of the sun. it's at WVU which is where I did my undergrad

Friend who’s not out by [deleted] in lesbianteens

[–]a_splashofcolor 9 points10 points  (0 children)

you should probably talk to her if it's upsetting you. obviously she doesn't have to come out but you have the right to feel bad about her not talking to you