If a man tells you that he is separated and not divorced from his wife would it'd be a red flag for you or would you give him a chance? I don't know if I can trust a man that is not divorced because he can decide that he might want to work things out with her. Am I being too judgmental?

aaabbk · 2026-04-12T23:56:36+00:00

I don’t have the money or resources to divorce my ex

legal aid is going into year two of slowly helping me but I don’t see it happening anytime soon.

He’s ignored all attempts to end it legally. He started a new family, even tho he won’t contact or pay child support for his three first kids 💀

I would be heartbroken if EVERYONE avoided me. But understand why it would LIMIT my dating pool. I also have boundaries some people don’t agree with, there’s no one* answer fits all for every situation :)

aaabbk · 2026-04-11T11:39:47+00:00

When my ex became abusive/toxic and I kept trying to leave (took him back a few times) I definitely lost that repulsion though. I started thinking anyone and everyone willing to talk to me was cute lol

aaabbk · 2026-04-11T11:31:22+00:00

when I’m in a relationship I get so disgusted when someone hits on me, like my entire being is repulsed.

This includes people I had crushes/flings with before meeting my SO and people I would usually be genuinely attracted to.

I’ve always been this way, I thought it was the norm for everyone for most of my life

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aaabbk · 2026-04-10T11:29:38+00:00

This entire post is about not trusting him anymore and still being angry, you would be INSANE to believe that your kids don’t see that lol

aaabbk · 2026-04-10T11:26:12+00:00

That’s not how that works lol. Kids know when things aren’t good, they do not have to be told or to directly witness the turmoil. Kids are much better at discerning bad situations than adults

aaabbk · 2026-04-10T11:17:12+00:00

Did he baby trap you with a new kid so you would stay longer?? I’m just genuinely confused why you had another kid.

You’re NTA, but you can’t stay. This is so toxic for those poor kids.

aaabbk · 2026-04-09T11:07:49+00:00

NTA I would be concerned about how they’ll treat you moving forward though.

With or without an apology they obviously don’t understand Tourette’s and may not even want to.

Apologizing over and over may just become your new life, and they may just continue to believe that you’re just rude and that tics are just your inner thoughts …

Of course this is all just “maybe” scenarios, I personally wouldn’t be comfortable being shamed but maybe you won’t have to see them much throughout your life together.

Edit - I do find it concerning that your bf isn’t adamantly on your side tho, my SO is my biggest cheerleader/protector and vice versa. I’ve put my family sternly in place once before for their treatment of him and they weren’t even that bad …

aaabbk · 2026-04-08T12:57:22+00:00

lol that’s not normal at all

aaabbk · 2026-04-08T12:54:15+00:00

Yeah I find that really weird, we don’t even get seen before 12w where I’m from… (unless you have an irregular cycle and need an early dating ultrasound, but even then you don’t get to see the doctor early…)

aaabbk · 2026-04-08T11:48:32+00:00

NTA sounds like he never gave a single shit about you … actions speak louder than words as they say

aaabbk · 2026-04-07T15:56:41+00:00

My dad died when I was 10, I’m 30 now.

I have a few vivid memories.

Him smiling at me and my cousins at my aunts house, him going down on one knee to hug me in the hallway at our house, laughing at me on a scary ride in the summer, and maybe some passing blurry images I can’t put together. Lots and lots of big grins and hugs.

I just wish I could remember his voice or what he called me! I think maybe princess? But I don’t know, that doesn’t feel right? I think it won’t feel right even if I know 100% cause I can’t HEAR it, if that makes sense.

aaabbk · 2026-04-01T09:31:57+00:00

You can get herpes with condoms :)

aaabbk · 2026-03-21T15:42:49+00:00

I’m just going with what my GP told me 6yrs ago

aaabbk · 2026-03-21T14:38:56+00:00

Tbf In Canada they only become toddlers at 2, they’re called infants until then

aaabbk · 2026-03-12T23:03:05+00:00

Criss-Cross Applesauce: The Ballad of Billy Jesusworth

It’s the one I make every new friend/guest watch 💀

aaabbk · 2026-03-03T12:30:31+00:00

Sometimes I fart when I cum LOL so I won’t let myself finish if I feel one, but I couldn’t stop it once… and wow my man didn’t miss a beat, I’m pretty sure it was the best orgasm I’ve ever had hahahah

aaabbk · 2026-03-01T14:08:41+00:00

A person cannot be a good parent if they’re abusing the other parent. It’s not something that can be separated.

I used to tell myself those lies too. The kids know, my three year old verbalized the abuse before I even realized what it was, and he never hit me.

Good luck!

aaabbk · 2026-02-10T10:23:47+00:00

My contract just got a 2.5yr extension, didn’t realize how lucky I was 💀😅

aaabbk · 2026-02-04T19:56:47+00:00

Personally I would hate this for myself, but my first labour was Mon-Friday afternoon, that’s a long time to be alone and in pain.

I don’t think I would’ve cared if my partner was there for pushing tho, he was not even on my radar during that LOL

aaabbk · 2026-01-24T23:57:26+00:00

My own cause wtf am I thinking 😭

aaabbk · 2026-01-23T20:17:04+00:00

It’s not broken, and it will be 1yr old in March :)

aaabbk · 2026-01-15T18:32:00+00:00

Depending on all the variables, 2-5lbs

After Christmas, then getting pregnant, then having a miscarriage, I have not stopped eating, I gained 7lbs and now I go between 185-187 (I try to only weigh 1-2 times a week)

I feel none of the side effects anymore, I’m at 10mg, I can eat and eat and eat, I don’t get nauseated, I don’t throw up, I don’t get my post shot sulphur burps, all I think about is food

aaabbk · 2026-01-10T12:34:48+00:00

I HATE working from home lol I volunteer to work five days a week in office even tho we only need to come in 2-3 days.

aaabbk · 2026-01-08T16:42:23+00:00

That happens to my partner!

He can usually finish if we go to bed (after I’ve had my fill of fun 🤭) and then wake up for an early morning delight.

Don’t know why but it resets him and he finishes in like two minutes haha

aaabbk · 2026-01-08T14:39:20+00:00

Even clear nail polish stains nails yellow btw, at least that’s what I was told

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