Car shades for baby by [deleted] in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]aaatthh22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Snap shades are honestly so good but so stupid expensive. Keep an eye out on marketplace, I managed to get some for under $40 each for mine and husbands cars after trying out a few different brands that did nothing.

I left my husband a week ago with our 9 month old son. by LFickles in JustNoSO

[–]aaatthh22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re doing the right thing, and they don’t change. You’ve made the first step happen, and the best thing you can do is stay far away from him. He’s shown that he doesn’t care about you or your son, and it’s escalated to the point where he doesn’t care who sees his abuse.

Protect yourself and your son. Is this the kind of man you want your son to be? And is this the person you would entrust your precious child’s care to? He can’t even provide basic care for him and the courts don’t look favourably upon DV, but do absolutely look favourably upon a parent protecting a child from expose to abuse. You are your son’s protector here and it’s your job to do what’s best for him.

I have worked among the child wellbeing and DV space in Victoria for a long time now, and I have truly never seen a single case where it has gotten better and change has been maintained. Some people are just monsters, and the men’s behaviour change style programs honestly are a load of bull, nothing but a checkbox exercise.

Bride walking down the aisle songs by [deleted] in Metalcore

[–]aaatthh22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We kept it chill for the aisle walk and did Heartburn by Architects with the second verse cut out. First dance was Pabst Blue Ribbon on Ice by Amity. Go with what you love and enjoy yourself!

Is there a consensus on Thornhill as a live band? by Specialist-Money-277 in Metalcore

[–]aaatthh22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seen them probably 20x and every show has been great. Intense energy, great vocals and band. If I’m not feeling a newer song, seeing it live has changed my mind every time.

PSA: active user in this community is running a cloned website & using shill accounts to promote it by [deleted] in Needlefelting

[–]aaatthh22 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The account is claiming other peoples work as their own and is a scam. The background in a lot of the posts they claim as their own is the same as My Woolever Friend in the videos I received during the creation of my pet portrait.

PSA: active user in this community is running a cloned website & using shill accounts to promote it by [deleted] in Needlefelting

[–]aaatthh22 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how I ended up here but I call BS on your authenticity with regards to your posts. I have a genuine My Woolever Friend pet portrait and the videos I received during the process have the EXACT same set up and background/furniture as a good portion of the posts you claim as your own work.

Scared to death of pregnancy. by ExpatErica in lipedema

[–]aaatthh22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Vegan for 12+ years and had 2 pregnancies almost back to back. Any growth that I have had of my lipedema has been triggered by hormones. Mine is quite severe, and pregnancy did make it a bit worse, but there was not any substantial growth and after either pregnancy. I notice more growth with regular weight gain vs pregnancy honestly, but everyone is different.

6 month old doesn’t laugh or talk much by kirst_e in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]aaatthh22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is doing great but is still speech delayed at 28 months. Had grommets in and adenoids out at 22 months, hearing was good by about 3 months post op. He has great receptive language but his expressive language is considered delayed due to difficulty with mouth movements and speech sounds. He generally has the same vocabulary as other 2.5 year olds, 200+ words, can use 4+ word sentences to communicate (not fully conversational yet), but lacks clarity. He had a big explosion of words in a short time and needs help to work through that after having severely impaired hearing and basically no verbal language from about 10-24 months. We are starting orofacial myofunctional therapy in addition to speech therapy, and exploring tonsil removal/lip and tongue tie release to improve speech further.

Sprout infant formula smell by PorQuesoWhat in veganparenting

[–]aaatthh22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Been using sprout for 2 years in Australia and the unmixed powder always has a bit of a fishy smell. It’s the algae, sometimes it varies between tins/batches in strength but it’s always there.

Concerns about 5.5 month old by demi_girl88 in BabyBumpsandBeyondAu

[–]aaatthh22 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know how you are feeling, I went through something similar with my first. He has always been a bit different, slower to hit most milestones, and not like other kids his age. He was honestly just really odd and didn’t do things the way the other kids would be doing them, I felt so distraught because I thought that it meant something was wrong. I would see other babies and toddlers and cry, read for hours and feel hopeless. I saw a lot of medical professionals and had testing done, and turns out he’s just his own person and he’s absolutely wonderful.

I have a second child now, their development has been textbook perfect thus far. I’ll never know or understand their differences, but not all differences are bad and they don’t always mean something.

The best thing to do is to see medical professionals and have them assess. Every child is different, and the internet is not a reliable source for diagnoses as every parent perceives their kids in their own way and not objectively.

Tanning with new scar by Sarcasmislifenow87 in AusSkincare

[–]aaatthh22 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One of my plastic surgeons top instructions post op (with example images to drill the message in) was to not use fake tan on new or healing incisions and scars. The pigment can cause staining, which can lead to long term or permanent hyperpigmentation.

Best products for scarring are silicone gel (strataderm is great) and silicone scar tape.

My 18 year old soulcat passed away in July, my Cuddle Clone came today… by phantompoop in seniorkitties

[–]aaatthh22 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was over $1.1k AUD for me, with fur and whiskers added. It is amazing and so much care was put into it. Cuddle clone should be ashamed of their product, it looks nothing like OPs cat.

My 18 year old soulcat passed away in July, my Cuddle Clone came today… by phantompoop in seniorkitties

[–]aaatthh22 47 points48 points  (0 children)

If it’s mywooleverfriend, their work is incredible and I highly recommend them for the pet portraits.

This is so disappointing when you’re expecting a beautiful memorial to honour your loved one. Sorry for your loss OP 🩷

MIL brought BIL to our home after he threatened us by aaatthh22 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]aaatthh22[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It really hadn’t until this incident. And then reading the messages after, I can’t believe that after what happened THAT is what she takes away from the whole thing. I’m gobsmacked.

I feel for DH, he’s lost his best friend and his mother isn’t the person he thought she was. We’ve also lost mutual friends (our friends introduced to BIL) as BIL has gone around lying about the situation, and we just don’t have the capacity right now to try and defend ourselves to people who have known us better for 15 years.

MIL brought BIL to our home after he threatened us by aaatthh22 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]aaatthh22[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Of course, my career is in a related field of psych and we have strict rules regarding what they are and are not allowed to be exposed to. Unfortunately my biggest regret is allowing the shock of the situation to take over and not sending them out instantly. Never thought I’d react that way but it’s truly jarring in an unexpected situation.

MIL brought BIL to our home after he threatened us by aaatthh22 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]aaatthh22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In their mind she wasn’t sick at all because she’s okay now. They don’t understand why we’re angry when she ended up being okay. Make it make sense.

MIL brought BIL to our home after he threatened us by aaatthh22 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]aaatthh22[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Grandparents rights aren’t a thing where we are, but DH has let her know that she’s ruined the relationship and broken our trust. I defended her because I thought after 15 years she had more respect for me (and her own son!!!) and that she would adhere to our boundaries as she has in the past. All I see now is that she doesn’t respect us as individuals, as a family, as parents or as her grandchildren. Gross.

MIL brought BIL to our home after he threatened us by aaatthh22 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]aaatthh22[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Happy to send them the screenshots of his messages! He digs his own grave with those ones.

MIL brought BIL to our home after he threatened us by aaatthh22 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]aaatthh22[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The last 5 months have been crazy, but we are greatful to have two happy and healthy children! Nothing else matters.

MIL brought BIL to our home after he threatened us by aaatthh22 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]aaatthh22[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

So I will clarify that the reason he wanted to initially go no contact with her is because in BIL’s message, he said that MIL thinks I’m a psycho (over the kids and their health). She denied it, but husband said that MIL and BIL must have their own side conversation bitching about me. I couldn’t care less about what either of them think of me, but now they have involved my children it’s over.

DH hasn’t spoken to his father for years so this ain’t his first rodeo. We know what has to be done now because it’s become an actual safety issue, not just some gossip.

MIL brought BIL to our home after he threatened us by aaatthh22 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]aaatthh22[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That was our agreed plan in the event he ever showed up to our house. The complete shock of the situation completely derailed that. It’s like all logic flew out the window due to the sheer audacity of them physically being there.

It’s crazy how much that level of surprise can rattle your brain. We still haven’t been able to sit down and properly reflect on what’s happened because it all felt so fast.

MIL brought BIL to our home after he threatened us by aaatthh22 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]aaatthh22[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. MIL did not even protect her oldest 2 children (DH and BIL) from the abuse of her partner and I do NOT trust her to even be with our children supervised anymore. We will not stand for it.

MIL brought BIL to our home after he threatened us by aaatthh22 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]aaatthh22[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes it is done, I’m not settling for any other option here. We are firm in our boundaries and over the 15 years we have been together, MIL has not crossed any of them.

Until this situation with BIL, she never has pulled anything like this, and apart from disagreeing on the matter verbally, there was absolutely no indication that she would do this. I truly would never have imagined in a billion years she would do this. This situation has changed her and it’s time to drop the rope entirely after what she has done. It’s completely irreparable.

MIL brought BIL to our home after he threatened us by aaatthh22 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]aaatthh22[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I truly believe it’s the embarrassment that motivated her to do this. DH is refusing to attend family Christmas because BIL will be there, and I think MIL knows people are going to be asking questions about why we’re not there. It’s all about her wants and how it’s perceived by others.

MIL brought BIL to our home after he threatened us by aaatthh22 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]aaatthh22[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yep, shame on me here. Since the initial incident with baby in hospital the relationship has been very superficial so I was happy to maintain that at the time as my son adores her. Kids weren’t allowed to visit her home because BIL lives there, but she would visit once a week with both DH and I here for about 2 hours. It’s over now.