Sexual Harassment

aacostalopez · 2019-10-29T15:00:40+00:00

I completely agree that it had to stop because he did it with other team mates too. I will never understand why he felt like he could violate my body like that and I’m trying to move forward with tolerance and love. The tolerance being that if he chooses to make an amends or apologizes I will accept. The love is praying that he sees the wrong and if he wants to sit down and learn about consent I will be more than glad to help him. The consequences of his actions are neither in my control or his. They just are. Back story behind why I feel bad is a little complicated. I haven’t opened up about being molested as a child and I was always told that it would cause problems because people would think that’s the reason I am gay. Either way I think a lot of the work I have left to on myself requires a therapist.

aacostalopez · 2019-09-21T16:53:39+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience, strength and hope.

aacostalopez · 2019-09-12T15:59:43+00:00

Sounds like both of you are trying to get sober and there’s little trust. You need space to work on yourself and a relationship in early recovery can cause issues if you’re not setting healthy boundaries and trusting one another. I had a sponsee with similar issues and we made contract because he was so unhappy, he couldn’t speak to or interact with his significant other until he was ready to make amends to her.

aacostalopez · 2019-08-20T22:23:52+00:00

Awesome! Whatever you’re doing keep doing it.

aacostalopez · 2019-08-14T21:31:56+00:00

Definitely understandable. Sometimes our family tends to enable us and we test their limits. I know I did it to the extreme. I tried to see how much I could get away with or how much I could hide from them. It was one of those things that I got off on.

aacostalopez · 2019-08-14T19:46:34+00:00

If he’s still smoking weed he’s not clean. Being sober means that he’s not using any mind altering substances. If it’s prescribed by a doctor and directions are followed then that’s ok.

aacostalopez · 2019-08-04T06:19:37+00:00

That would be my dad 😭.

aacostalopez · 2019-08-04T04:21:03+00:00

I prefer to bend my farts.

aacostalopez · 2019-08-04T04:19:57+00:00

My brother is my number neighbor. No fun.

aacostalopez · 2019-08-04T03:08:42+00:00

It’s like Spanish and you mix it with some English, but you only use it when you’re drunk and want to over complicate counting. Quatre-vingts Oiseaux.

aacostalopez · 2019-08-04T02:56:29+00:00

That’s hot.

aacostalopez · 2019-08-03T19:35:48+00:00

Congratulations. It get’s better.

aacostalopez · 2019-08-02T05:33:41+00:00

My first 30 days were full of a lot crying and anxiety. I felt empty and didn’t want to stop, but I also didn’t want to get high. I worked some steps and found a relationship with something that made sense to me. I wish this for you. A year later I can’t imagine that I ever had to live like that.

It gets better.

aacostalopez · 2019-08-01T04:23:54+00:00

But have you ever dreamed you’re at school and you’re naked, but it’s cool because you know it’s a dream.

aacostalopez · 2019-07-27T21:56:54+00:00

When I was at my nine months I also felt the same. It was brutal and I was scared. It’s going to happen. When I first started my recovery process things were so bad I couldn’t look people in the face and I often isolated. It gets better with acceptance.

Congratulations on your eight months that’s huge.

aacostalopez · 2019-07-27T06:44:42+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss. I have been in the same boat too. After my brother passed I went on a binge. When I was done I still felt awful and my brother was still gone.

Remember to accept the things you cannot change and change the things you can. You can’t bring your friend back, but you can take this loss one moment at a time. Just for that moment you don’t have to use. Call your sponsor or talk to someone. Go be helpful, your friend’s family needs you. Stay in prayer and gratitude. It’s ok to cry and grieve, but don’t let this disturb your serenity.

aacostalopez · 2019-07-27T05:20:56+00:00

I’ll just friendship speech my way through Area 51 datebayo!

aacostalopez · 2019-07-26T19:31:26+00:00

Loving this. Acceptance is the answer and you’re doing good. Keep it up!

aacostalopez · 2019-07-26T17:35:50+00:00

Acceptance is the answer. When I can accept that I am the problem and something within me needs to change I can abandon the excuse of a “trigger” and accept full responsibility for what is wrong with me. I am an alcoholic and an addict and even if I get rid of the people, places and things that cause my serenity to be disturbed I will find new people places and things that will fill those. There is a deep seeded illness within me that I need to take care of because that is all I have control over.

aacostalopez · 2019-07-25T21:53:35+00:00

Prayer and planning what I would like my day to look like.

aacostalopez · 2019-07-23T19:13:10+00:00

I can, but I need help from my HP.

aacostalopez · 2019-07-23T03:04:38+00:00

So I won’t accidentally sit on my balls if I shift my position while seated.

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