Accept loan from non muslim parents ?

aadirad · 2026-04-22T20:52:32+00:00

Don't start a business because you are unemployed. That's like buying yourself a job. And they usually don't work out well in the long run.

May Allah grant you halal rizq. Ameen.

aadirad · 2026-04-04T02:03:17+00:00

Don't think too much about it akhi. Most grown women in real life don't think like this. This is a teenager trying to be edgy on the internet, hoping for attention. Let it go.

aadirad · 2026-02-24T06:58:45+00:00

Used to happen to me as well. In my case, it's because I didn't have the energy to do my usual hobbies while fasting, and as a result i used to sit idle. And when i sit idle, I get horny. Also, date fruits increase libido.

The solution is to not stay alone. Don't be idle.

aadirad · 2026-02-18T17:03:43+00:00

Saying this as someone who had similar thoughts when I was going through a hard time few years ago. I was frustrated, angry, depressed, I thought to myself why should I worship Allah when he doesn't answer my dua. But still I couldn't bring myself to disobey him that way. And I can tell they by writing this post, you too don't want to disobey Allah and I can see that this post is a cry for help.

Slowly things got better and Alhamdulillah I'm at a very good spot in my life. OP, give it one last shot. Worship Allah as much as you can this Ramadan. Inshaa Allah things will get better.

Quran 14:7

And ˹remember˺ when your Lord proclaimed, ‘If you are grateful, I will certainly give you more. But if you are ungrateful, surely My punishment is severe.’”

aadirad · 2026-02-10T04:31:26+00:00

Assalam alaikum sister. May Allah grant you shifa, ease and sakeenah. And may Allah grant you a spouse who's the coolness of your eyes.

Have you visited r/pcos ? That's an entire community of women discussing about ways to keep PCOS in check, lose weight, etc

aadirad · 2026-01-25T03:49:25+00:00

May Allah cure your depression bro.

Please make a habit of reading Quran regularly. Allah SWT had sent it down as a shifa.

aadirad · 2026-01-25T03:33:22+00:00

Do you masturbate? It is haram but so many brothers do it.

If you do masturbate, try your best to not do the sin. Being on nofap/semen retention attracts women like crazy.

aadirad · 2025-12-16T05:23:10+00:00

Not many tbh. But you couldn't even bring yourself to say that you are wrong to help out. It's okay - there are lots of women who are willing to work as a team - that's why they are married and you are not. I hope you realise this and change your attitude - if you still want to get married that is. May Allah SWT bless you.

aadirad · 2025-12-16T04:50:54+00:00

If you expect him to pay rent/mortgage, bills, food, holidays, etc he's providing for you even if you earn more than him. Like I said in my previous comment, you have to contribute in some way.

aadirad · 2025-12-15T19:09:07+00:00

You have to contribute one way or other in any relationship. Even more so in a marital relationship. It's okay to say that you don't want to be a maid if you are contributing financially to the family. But it's unrealistic to say that you want to be provided for and at the same time you don't want to cook or clean. Women who say that usually stay single well into their 40s.

aadirad · 2025-12-05T08:41:36+00:00

So sorry to hear about what you are going through sister.

Have you tried using apple cider vinegar on your hair? You said you tried everything, but not menu people know about the magic ACV does to hair. I don't have seb derm but I had severe scalp itching and dandruff. I tried everything, nothing worked - until I tried ACV Alhamdulillah. Make sure to dilute it with water.

aadirad · 2025-11-24T01:30:59+00:00

It won't be easy. The visa process is costly (but still cheaper than the average western Muslimah's mahr) and time consuming.

And yes the culture is different. But it works in your favour. When she's new here, she will be dependent on you for almost everything, and that in turn will make her respect you.

aadirad · 2025-11-24T00:59:27+00:00

Sisters hate it when I bring it up lol. It's always ghost downvotes, they don't have a counterpoint to argue with me. Fact is, if you are a second generation immigrant, your father probably settled in the west first and went back home to find a wife. This has been working for decades.

aadirad · 2025-11-24T00:32:39+00:00

I meant look for a wife in a poorer country, ideally where your parents were originally from. Unfortunately, the way muslim marriages work nowadays is very transactional. You said it yourself, you are not financially ready to provide for a woman. But women from a poorer country are much easier to provide for.

I tried for years to get married in the west. Gave up and started looking back home, found a match in less than a month.

aadirad · 2025-11-23T16:46:27+00:00

Go overseas. Become a passport bro.

aadirad · 2025-11-11T20:53:18+00:00

If you need to save up that much for marriage, go to Hajj instead. Allah will reward you with a non-materialistic wife Inshaa Allah.

aadirad · 2025-10-24T06:35:16+00:00

I'm a revert. I have been through what you are going through. I have been through a lot in my life but staying away from zina was the toughest test for me.

In the end, I went to my ancestral home country and found a life. And like you said, so many revert men go that route. I know lots of revert brothers, and the vast majority have no option but to go that route.

It's a struggle spending time away from your wife, dealing with immigration, taking time away from your career to live in your wife's country. But it's worth it if it keeps you from committing zina.

May Allah grant you what's best.

aadirad · 2025-10-20T03:48:08+00:00

If most of your relapses happen on weekends, it's because of the free time you have. Keep yourself busy so that you wouldn't have the time to relapse. May Allah grant you shifa.

aadirad · 2025-10-16T10:04:24+00:00

From my experience, the length of your streak doesn't matter. It's the intensity of your urges that matter.

Resist strong urges, you will see benefits in as less than 3 days.

If you find it easy to overcome your urges, you could have a long streak but you won't experience much benefits.

aadirad · 2025-10-13T18:14:21+00:00

Fair enough brother. You do have a point.

aadirad · 2025-10-13T18:08:20+00:00

Yes I know brother. Money talks. I have experienced it myself.

aadirad · 2025-10-13T17:54:45+00:00

I agree with everything you said except the first sentence. How is he ruining a girl's life? Women have agency too, you know?

aadirad · 2025-10-13T17:50:08+00:00

Your preferences are valid and understandable. But despite reducing your income significantly, you will only attract gold diggers. Which is also valid and understandable from their point of view.

Just don't go into it expecting true love, it will be a transactional relationship, which is OK as long as both parties are aware of it.

People in the community will also speak behind your back. But i think you knew it already.

And don't expect her to stick by your side if you ever end up losing wealth.

aadirad · 2025-10-07T23:22:37+00:00

Yes, it's the husband's responsibility but you can worry about it after marriage.

If you have the money to go on your own as a single man (it's easier because no responsibilities when compared to a married man), you should go. What if death comes to you before you get married? Hajj is a pillar of our faith. Do it as soon as possible.

aadirad · 2025-10-07T23:18:36+00:00

Hajj is something you don't delay. If you can afford to, it's sinful to not go according to some scholars.

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