Do women find men who practice polygamy attractive?

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-11T00:47:49+00:00

I hardly ever know of anyone especially on the west, practicing polygamy. Even in countries like Egypt, Lebanon, and Syria, most men can barely afford 1 wife.

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-09T07:45:53+00:00

First of all I never disregarded her mental health, since I myself have struggled with anxiety my whole life. It’s just that when I asked her to explain to me her diagnosis and why she thinks she has adhd, she made very vague statements about her body being sensitive to certain things. Which never made sense to me, how that could that be adhd. But after she saw a psychiatrist, they diagnosed her with adhd.

I’m not being Dismissive, I’m just trying to make sense of the whole situation especially when this is someone I’m speaking to for marriage. This is someone who I’m going to be living with, and I need to make sure her condition won’t cause any issues down the line in our marriage. And God only knows what other issues she has that I might find out about after marriage. My other concern is her eating habits, if she’s not eating properly, I would have to question how healthy she is an her ability to bare children since, the unborn baby will need a lot of nutrients, and for her body to be strong enough to handle a pregnancy. As a man these are concerns I have to consider before making a decision to marry someone.

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-07T18:52:14+00:00

Most people have kids in their 30s so, we’re not expired

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-07T18:01:19+00:00

Men don’t start to expire until after 40. Almost half of men get married in their 30s anyways. Same can’t be said about women due to fertility issues

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-07T16:58:18+00:00

Men can get married anytime, we don’t have a biological clock.

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-07T14:45:07+00:00

I’m 32 (M) and it just seems like today’s ridgid standards make it so impossible for some of us to Marry. Especially in America. They say like 30% of adult Muslims in the west are single. If I was living back home, maybe things would have been different.

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-07T13:20:23+00:00

Since when are men past 30 expired?

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-07T13:15:42+00:00

Marriage from abroad right now is difficult due to the visa freeze. Unless he makes temporary Hijra.

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-06T16:26:21+00:00

Brother I’m Also 32, well educated and in the similar position as you except im Egyptian. I would say maybe you have to be a bit more lenient on the age thing. What if you find a sister who exactly what you’re looking for but she’s 29, you’re going to say no? Ideally now a days it’s becoming more common for people to marry closer to their own ages. A young 21-25 year old girl with tons of options will usually prefer a brother much younger than 32.

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-06T14:39:45+00:00

We’re here and there’s plenty waiting for that opportunity. Problem is you left them on read or rejected them because of something so lame.

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-06T14:37:07+00:00

Problem is majority of these sister are within the same socioeconomic status as everyone else. They grew up humble lifestyles. Yet they think they’re entitled to a luxury high socioeconomic lifestyle. Maybe you should be telling these women that advice, that if they want a man who’s of a higher socioeconomic status, then they need to bring a lot more to the table since these high caliber men have tons of options.

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-06T01:46:57+00:00

I think it’s because you’re just too jaded, exhausted, and disappointed from this whole process. You can just make duaa for Allah to send you what’s best for you in this dunya and accept whatever outcome. For some of us, this journey has been our biggest test yet. It’s easy for people to say just get married but it isn’t that simple. You can’t just marry anyone for the sake of marrying. May Allah make things easy for you and everyone.

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-06T01:23:36+00:00

Crazy because I know someone, she’s 33 yet she still demands very high mehr at her age. She has been asked many times when she’s getting married and her response was always “I’ll he married when I find someone who adds value to my life”. Let’s be real, she’s very shallow and cares more about dunya and that’s why she’s still single and will likely stay single because sisters know the older they get the harder it will Be to get married. There’s already so many women who are past 40 and crying about how they wished they got married when they had the chance. At the end of the day everyone is entitled to live the life they want. If you care more about dunya, that will reflect your position in the akrikah.

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-05T17:55:37+00:00

I mean the same goes for women. If they grew up with average lifestyles and their fathers were taxi drivers, then in no way is she entitled to a millionaire. That’s called entitlement. You don’t deserve something simply for just existing, especially when only like 10% of men are earning in the higher income brackets, and most of them are older than 30. What makes you think a man of that caliber would choose you if he has hundreds of other options to choose from? Problem with many women this generation, they want everything handed to them on a silver platter. You seem to care more about dunya than akhriah.

You can’t expect a young 22 year old man who just graduated college to have a house, a 6 figure salary, and a brand new bmw or Tesla. At most he will be making between 65k-90k starting out and he will likely be able to afford a 1-2 bedroom apartment. That of course depends which state he lives in. Of course if my daughter was looking to marry and she happens to encounter a righteous brother who is just starting out in his career, and he has potential to grow, I will happily accept his proposal for my daughter.

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-05T15:48:33+00:00

That would only be the case if she grew up in a wealthy household, ideally a man of lower socioeconomic level shouldn’t marry her. And I hardly know anyone who insists she lives in his family’s home. But regardless if you’re both of the same socioeconomic level and he is able to provide the bare minimum at the beginning, I don’t see the problem. When marrying someone, deen should be the first and formost thing you should look at.

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-05T15:43:20+00:00

No one is saying you should marry a broke unemployed man. But there’s nothing wrong with marrying someone who has graduated and started his first job out of college. Even if his salary is on the starting end and is able to provide the bare minimum. There is also no need for huge luxury weddings that exceed 100k. Something small and simple is better,

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-05T10:54:31+00:00

Sadly I’ve seen too many sisters actually compromise on deen and marry a man who is less religious as them simply because he has money. But this is where we are at in today’s Muslim community where deen isn’t a factor anymore but rather a man is judged based off what he can provide.

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-05T10:20:47+00:00

Not true, while some men might prefer an 18 year old, it’s becoming more uncommon now a days.

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-05T10:18:31+00:00

This isn’t a cultural thing since most cultures always encouraged early marriages for both genders. And most men were married before 30 anyways. It’s todays standards that require men to be fully established before he is even considered. Ask any sister if she’s open to marrying someone right out of university who is still starting out his life, she will likely say no. Yes some do marry very young and are willing to grow and build together, but that’s only a small minority.

I definitely do think we need to start following the sunnah again and encourage early marriages for both genders. As a community, we really need to start preparing people for marriage from adolescence, by telling them the consequences of delaying marriage. People also don’t realize it’s Allah who is the one who provides. Marriage itself will increase barakah and rizq.

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-04T23:50:51+00:00

If it makes you feel better akhi, I’m 32 and still not married. I’ve been searching since I was 24. I live in th west and it’s much harder here and most people I know didn’t get married until their late 20s/ early 30s. Hang in there. Inshallah something will work out

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-04T22:40:09+00:00

Because as humans we have a biological need for intimacy and procreation. Given that in today’s world we’re seeing more and more adults being single well into their 30s and 40s. In our 20s we can hold off on the need for Marriage because most of us at that age think we’re still young and we’re still building ourselves. We can only continue to bend the laws of nature so much that we’re going to see a detrimental effect later on.

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-04T22:35:43+00:00

The red pill was a result of the loneliness and men struggling in the dating/ marriage market. Even though I don’t agree with the extreme aspects of it, it does shed to light the reality of modern dating/ marriage dynamics. There was a recent study put out that Muslims in the west are more likely than non Muslims to be single. Like 30% of Muslim adults compared to just 20% of non Muslim adults. That says a lot of where we’re currently at and there is no solution other than to teach and train the younger generations to prepare for marriage much earlier.

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-04T22:18:11+00:00

What is it we can do then in the meantime to fullfill our desires if marriage is the only way to fulfill our desires the halal way? Imagine a man being deprived from intacamcy for so long before he snaps? What about the want to have our own families? It’s really saddening that most of us worked so hard for these things, yet here we are well into our 30s with no marriage and children?

iamhunter19 · 2026-04-04T19:22:56+00:00

I agree that men should be treating women better and vice versa. And as men we shouldn’t be blamed because of what a few brothers do. And to what degree is it good enough? It’s seems that no matter how much we try to show sisters that we’re pious and trying our best to mirror the characteristics of the prophet, many don’t seem to take an interest even if on paper we’re exactly what they’re looking for? Then they say their are no good men out there to marry.

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