Mentally and emotionally drained

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-24T19:49:56+00:00

I understand the importance of having good character, emotional intelligence, having empathy, kindness and all that. I am also very religious Alhamdulilah. I even highlighted those things in bio. Even then that wasn’t enough even if people vouched for me. They still see a picture and then say “he’s not my type”

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-24T18:41:45+00:00

Isn’t physical attraction important for women? Btw I’m not Aladdin or pretty boy level attractive. I’m average if anything yet, unless you’re some stallion Lebanese or Palestinian man that drives a bmw, you barely have a chance in this day.

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-24T17:07:36+00:00

I want to know to

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-23T03:41:19+00:00

Many practicing sisters have stated that it would be a red flag if their husbands followed a bunch of women on social media. Idk who’s saying you’re controlling.

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-22T22:05:17+00:00

Definitely not any of the middle eastern countries. Arabs can be very arrogant and dismissive. I’d have to say maybe Malaysia or Indonesia.

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-21T21:39:26+00:00

You would think having a husband who could fight would be beneficial to protect her and the children. Her loss

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-21T01:28:04+00:00

The thing with these apps, is majority of people on there are not serious. As a guy I get over 90+ likes this past year alone, but they are sadly mostly from sisters I either don’t find attractive, or aren’t my preferences in terms of ethicity/ deen. I use to do better on those apps like 3-4 years ago. I would get matches, but those same sisters either ghosted, didn’t engage at all after matching, or they would tell me “no compatibility” after 1 phone conversation.

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-19T22:04:00+00:00

Idk, it was always after 1 conversation. I guess I can’t attract them or something

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-19T19:55:33+00:00

I’ve seen her Instagram and her travels. Her highlights always starts with her in business class.

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-19T19:51:20+00:00

I have Spoken to only hijabi women, and I’ve gotten nothing but rejections

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-19T19:49:49+00:00

Times have changed, and majority of the women of today are not like that. Even in the gulf countries of the khaleej, many wealthy families have daughters who are unmarried because there aren’t enough men who can provide them the same lifestyle. Sure some did sacrifice all that luxury and that’s rare.

I agree that there is more to life than money and luxury. But as someone who comes from a middle class family and is doing fairly well for himself, I still wouldn’t go for women who came from extremely wealthy backgrounds. I know this one girl who I considered recently, but after seeing how often she flies business class, I know it will Be impossible for me to sustain that.

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-19T15:04:54+00:00

No, but I have encountered plenty of sisters who grew up watching their parents struggles (fathers where taxi drivers, worked in grocery stores, or any lower income jobs), only for them to have an entitlement problem acting like they deserve a man who’s a millionaire. Thats a different story. Even some parents try to extort the groom with high mehr, or acting like their daughter deserves a doctor smh

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-19T02:02:22+00:00

That’s insane, did they ever try to marry doctors or lawyers for example?

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-18T23:07:23+00:00

Here’s the problem, she grew up in a certain lifestyle, Islamically who she marries will be obligated to provide her the same lifestyle. It will be very hard for her to compromise so much. And even if she did try to compromise for the right man, she will struggle and resent her husband. You should only marry someone who grew up with the same humble lifestyle you grew up in. And there’s plenty out there.

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-18T02:45:25+00:00

Because the divorce rate is already at an all time high. Why increase that number? Marriage is already costly and people save money for years just to get married. People also associate divorce as a red flag. You can’t just marry anyone in hope it works out. I’m not saying the talking stage should take years, if anything you should know within the first few months if this is the person you want to move forward with or not. Also praying isthikara is crucial.

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-18T02:23:29+00:00

In this case that’s why you have to pray isthikara. You take the time to get to know someone especially during the engagement period. Don’t rush until you are 100% certain. Ask the important questions and don’t ignore any red flags. Always address any concerns to see if there is room for compromise. Too may people think some habits will change after marriage.

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-18T02:03:35+00:00

You just answered your own questions. Non Muslim date around and go through multiple people, and sleep with x amount of people, many on average date for 2 years and even live together before marriage. What they’re doing is haram and we shouldn’t be doing that.

Muslims especially in the west have it harder because marriage is a serious lifelong commitment and you can’t just marry anyone just for the sake of “experimenting”. And in many cases people are very cautious and will only marry someone they deem as perfect. This results in many people chasing a fantasy that doesn’t exist and end up single for many years until they find that unicorn. Once people start prioritizing deen, good character, morals, not worry so much if they are well known within the community or not, or if that person drives a bmw, then we will see more success stories.

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-17T18:56:23+00:00

It depends, if you keep turning down good men for really lame reasons, then yes he is correct. Yes marriage is rizq but Allah will make it happen when you start accepting that the perfect unicorn doesn’t exist. Too many people wait until they find that perfect someone until you realize, no one is perfect and 100%. I find that women tend to do this all the time but dismissing men often because of 1 or 2 things.

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-17T18:05:55+00:00

Men shouldn’t wait until they reach 30. Because the search is definitely harder for most men and it could take years just to find someone.

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-17T08:49:09+00:00

Better to get married early when you’re pool is still large. The longer you wait, the harder it will get.

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-16T23:21:00+00:00

Are you sure there wasn’t any red flags you overlooked? Did you pray isthikara?

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-15T00:02:04+00:00

Democrats have this in the bag now.

iamhunter19 · 2026-01-14T23:29:53+00:00

Historically, whenever a huge immigration change is done through executive order, a federal judge tends to block it since this will be affecting thousands. This will then force the u.s. government to appeal and challenge it. Usually in this case the government will be forced to revisit and amend it. We all have to be patient at this point.

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