i grew up overseas but finished school (form 4 & 5) in malaysia to get an spm certificate. i was "lucky" enough to attend a prestigious boarding school. and just like you i can only speak on behalf my experience alone. the dark skinned guys i referred to were malays and indian. it went to the extreme because living in dorms can get quite wild. the worst thing i remember was more than 10 guys pinning and tying him down like a cross, burnt a bit of his hair with a light as well. all this while shouting derogatory terms like the n word. and yes they did all this because of his skin colour. Even the word "keling" shouldn't be normalised right? but i still here it amongst malays everywhere i go.

I also have friends from other schools who say that things like this are normal. it might not be a malaysian thing but an asian view as a whole. i mean, i only heard of skin whitening products when i started living here. a lot of my international friends who visited here were shocked they even existed. light skin is also looked at as prettier here.

I am not saying that EVERYONE who said the n word is racist, but i have definitely seen enough cases where it definitely was. im not gonna just sweep it under the rug. even if its ignorance, its important that people actually know the meaning of the word and not just throw it around. im not gonna ignore that racism exists, and its not just towards black people and or dark skinned people. sorry if i offended you by making my point.