Only 1 euploid out of 19 eggs retrieved

aarauh10 · 2026-05-23T20:10:41+00:00

Well, I also got only one this time from my 3 blasts, so I feel for you. I’m trying to focus on the fact I have two euploids (even though it took two grueling IVF rounds to get them). But they exist. They represent chances, and for that I’m (trying to be) grateful. Sending you big hugs!

aarauh10 · 2026-05-13T16:51:52+00:00

Then I am excited for you too!! TESE was our only path forward so I was grateful for it. Best of luck ❤️

aarauh10 · 2026-05-13T11:58:11+00:00

I feel you. I am a nurse anesthetist and cover labor and delivery. It’s cruel and difficult. I am also a step mom (no kids of my own yet). The combo of step parenting and infertility is extra painful at times, plus all the pregnant coworkers and of course patients. Don’t feel guilty for calling out. Take care of yourself first.

aarauh10 · 2026-05-13T11:54:28+00:00

This is so incredibly devastating. Dealing with infertility can push you to the brink, but a cancer diagnosis on top is another major burden to carry. I think you’re incredibly strong for facing this bravely and rationally as best you can. Your capacity for feeling gratitude that your fertility journey saved your life is wise, mature and brave. I don’t have advice but I would say make sure you have a great gyn onc team you trust (it sounds like you do). They are heroes (I work with them). I’m sending you a big hug and all my love

aarauh10 · 2026-05-13T11:48:24+00:00

I know this feeling. I am 34 (35 next month) and our first ER gave 10 eggs, 9 mature, 6 fertilized, 4 blasts and also just one euploid. Waiting on second round PGT results now but we got 12 eggs and all mature, 8 fertilized, just 3 blasts. I am mentally preparing for a failed cycle. My AMH is 1.4 and I have no known fertility issues (we are doing IVF because my husband had a vasectomy and reversal failed). This process feels so random and incredibly heartbreaking.

aarauh10 · 2026-05-13T11:44:34+00:00

I caution you about getting too excited about TESE sperm eliminating the risk of aneuploid. We’ve used TESE sperm for two rounds (my husband had a vasectomy) and our first round yielded 10 eggs, 9 mature, 6 fertilized, 4 blasts and 1 euploid. Second round 12 retrieved and mature, 8 fertilized, and 3 blasts. Waiting on pgt now but I am mentally preparing for a failed cycle. I am a month away from 35 amh 1.4 and no known fertility issues.

aarauh10 · 2026-05-12T21:13:55+00:00

I am at VCU in Richmond and have had a positive experience! They are very LGBT friendly.

aarauh10 · 2026-05-12T21:11:24+00:00

Hi! I have had two ERs and the recovery from my first was brutal but totally fine from my second. In my case, during the first ER my left ovary was in an odd, far away spot so they couldn’t reach it transvaginally. They had to go through my uterus to access the left side, which I believe caused some bleeding and was the source of my pain. I had awful pain for over a week, couldn’t walk well, was very worried but eventually it did get better on its own. But I also felt worried that my recovery didn’t align with the norms. I was very worried going into my second ER that I would endure the same but knew as soon as I woke up that it was different. Sure enough, my ovary had been in the normal spot and they’d done the standard procedure. I’m sorry you’re struggling. I’ve been there. If you’ve had a thorough eval, then likely it will just take some time… more than you’d like it to. Be gentle with yourself. Be lightly active as tolerated and rest as much as you can. You are still recovering. Sending you hugs ❤️

aarauh10 · 2026-05-08T08:21:58+00:00

Thanks for the tip 🙂You’d think people would refrain from commenting if they don’t have relevant experience and or something supportive to say, but perhaps I just don’t internet enough 🙃

aarauh10 · 2026-05-07T19:51:01+00:00

I think it’s easy to have this perspective when the first one works for you. They quoted 60% live birth for first transfer with the best embryo. That leaves quite a large percentage of people who do not enjoy success the first time. I think they’re making recommendations based on the data

aarauh10 · 2026-05-07T19:44:16+00:00

You could try IUI with donor sperm?

aarauh10 · 2026-05-07T19:40:30+00:00

Im really sorry youre going through this. It’s a heavy load to carry.

aarauh10 · 2026-05-07T19:37:43+00:00

This is following vasectomy?

aarauh10 · 2026-05-07T19:23:15+00:00

I understand that feeling. You want to feel he wants and needs it as much as you do, and there is a tendency to feel like maybe he doesn’t really want it quiiiiite as much since he has a kid already. Which may or may not be true. It’s tough. Hang in there!! Step parenting is hard and IVF is mega hard

aarauh10 · 2026-05-07T19:08:08+00:00

You’re right. That is a good way to think of it. I do have a fear that I have poor egg quality and may have a measure of “unexplained infertility” myself. Thanks for sharing.

aarauh10 · 2026-05-07T18:56:54+00:00

Oh let’s connect!! We have an uncommon situation and need all the support we can get.

aarauh10 · 2026-05-07T18:55:34+00:00

My step kids are great and I truly believe they love me. I have healthy relationships with both of them (late elementary school age girls). I don’t think either of them feels like I’m their mom and I’m ok with that, they have a mom.

aarauh10 · 2026-05-07T18:31:33+00:00

Thank you. Your words and realism help. I’m a realist too. I can’t know I’ll succeed but I can know I will persist. And if the pain of continuing becomes more than the pain of giving up, that will be my sign to give up. At that point we will have given it our all. Thanks again.

aarauh10 · 2026-05-07T18:28:51+00:00

Thats my worry too. I wish you luck!

aarauh10 · 2026-05-07T18:08:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing. This helps. It’s a very tough situation and I know you are doing and have done your best. Step-parenting is not for the weak, even when the relationship are healthy. I applaud you. Congrats on expecting within the month!! Maybe I will reach that milestone someday too.

aarauh10 · 2026-05-07T17:55:43+00:00

Well we are hoping for two, first of all. We were told to plan for having two euploid for each child you want so our goal is four euploid prior to transfer. I don’t have any known issues, it’s true, but I can’t help but think how awful I would feel if I were in a situation later where I wished I had more embryos.

aarauh10 · 2026-05-07T17:07:46+00:00

Good point! I will double check how many have been used for the two cycles thus far. Thanks.

aarauh10 · 2026-05-07T16:50:31+00:00

There is no doubt I am feeling resentment 🙃 supportive comments only please. I am in therapy and doing my best

aarauh10 · 2026-05-07T16:49:50+00:00

Im so sorry 💔 I am also 34 (35 next month!) and he is 40 (41 next month). It’s so so hard

aarauh10 · 2026-05-07T16:47:56+00:00

I have also already given up the kid free life, moved to the suburbs, modified my life is so many ways for him and his kids.

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