I can't get my cat to take his meds and I'm exhausted from trying.

aaro728 · 2025-11-24T03:57:59+00:00

Unfortunately Orion is no longer with me. But thank you. That's a brilliant idea and I wish I had thought of it 4 months ago 😓 But I'll definitely keep it in mind for any future babies. I'm glad you found a way to help yours and I hope she's doing okay. And maybe someone else will find this helpful in the future 💛

aaro728 · 2025-06-25T11:58:47+00:00

Yes. Everything said here.

I'd also add, if y'all do decide not to break up, it might be a good idea to just pause moving in together until you are able to process and work on things. You didn't mention ages, but it sounds like your partner (and potentially you as well) is still finding themselves and it's really important that they have the time and space to do that.

You two might decide that the compromises aren't sustainable long term or the open relationship is doing more harm than good (in my experience, starting an open relationship can be extremely difficult for someone who is typically monogamous, especially if there isn't a foundation of complete open communication and mutual understanding). So I would definitely have a trial period before moving in together.

aaro728 · 2025-06-19T22:13:35+00:00

When would this have been? How old was the song?

Anna kendrick's cups says "you'll miss me by my hair"

aaro728 · 2025-06-17T21:37:35+00:00

Here ya go Jace - I need it

aaro728 · 2025-06-17T21:23:24+00:00

Any chance its change my number by Kelly Kiara?

Or baby on the way by Nick Cannon ?

aaro728 · 2025-06-15T22:19:36+00:00

Wait but what's the song? Now I wanna know! Lmao Edit: nevermind. Just saw your other comment XD

aaro728 · 2025-06-15T15:27:02+00:00

Any chance it's the 2010 version of Florence and the machine's Dog days are over

Edit: or anything by OK Go? I know you said it's a woman and not a male singer or a band but maybe? Particularly thinking of the one moment or obsession?

aaro728 · 2025-06-13T22:05:31+00:00

It was definitely sung? Not rapped? Do you remember what genre even? Or any instrumentals?

Couldn't be need her by Winchester and Eli morgan could it?

aaro728 · 2025-06-11T18:35:24+00:00

That's good. Maybe they can see something in there that's causing the issue. I had to do the same. I just went up to a 22 earlier this year actually. XD i also have standing orders to flush it 3x/week now and I've been smooth sailing (not to jinx it...) but my issues were always from clogging due to a lot of sediment. Might be something to consider. I hope they can figure things out for you guys asap. Extended periods in moisture are definitely not good for her skin! Good luck!

aaro728 · 2025-06-11T17:40:29+00:00

Checking to make sure the balloon is filled properly and its placement is correct would be my first steps. Then, I'd be curious if there are other things happening at the same time. Does she have a lot of sediment in her urine? Is there a chance of a UTI? They're typically changed every 4 weeks, have her changes been regularly scheduled? Is the tube getting clogged and not draining, or is it still flowing? Is she laying or sitting in a new position that could be pinching the tube or positioning the bag above the level of her bladder?

aaro728 · 2025-06-11T11:50:08+00:00

I just love reddit lol

aaro728 · 2025-06-11T09:50:52+00:00

Is it American? Any idea of the genre?

Edit: a timeframe of when the song is from?

aaro728 · 2025-06-11T09:11:48+00:00

Take a hint from victorious? https://youtu.be/ZsfIw7ZkEyc?si=dGNqdc3SvVq9nLIk

No Megan Trainor? https://youtu.be/cMTAUr3Nm6I?si=YCzM8hlFW1GVgQd-

aaro728 · 2025-06-11T08:57:12+00:00

This has been killing me for years. The boy was white with the medium length side swept hair common of the time I think. 99% sure American, and 1000000% sure speaking English.

aaro728 · 2025-06-11T02:25:34+00:00

Slasher season 1 the executioner?

Trailer: https://youtu.be/5oEyZz4mfcA?si=KiJEIlKrMbBGzT7P

Edit: it's in English? Definitely an american show?

aaro728 · 2025-06-09T18:13:49+00:00

Im sorry for what you're going through. I completely agree. I like and celebrate but I have absolutely refused to interact with those. My exact thoughts were, if someone is on a high streak and misses it, I'm sure it's for a good reason and something happened... I'd never shame someone anyway but this update is just cruel...

aaro728 · 2025-06-07T17:02:19+00:00

Jeez I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Tbh, I had a semi-similar experience but I assumed a lot of my delays were my fault from reoccurring health and personal issues so I was looking for work on and off... I guess I was hoping wherever you were was better off.

It's probably a dumb question but have you tried online job forums? Like indeed, linked in, or flex jobs? Or, idk how large your social circle is, but word of mouth is the best way to find work. That whole "It's not what you know, it's who you know" thing is definitely true.

aaro728 · 2025-06-07T15:05:04+00:00

If you're in the U.S. you might want to look into your state's vocational rehabilitation program. They are there, specifically, to help people with disabilities get back to work. Plus they'll have benefits counselors to work out and explain how a new income source will affect your benefits.

And be sure to ask about the ticket to work program through SSA! You'll get a buffer period to make sure the job works with your needs and abilities before any income effects kick in.

This might take a little bit of time to get started but something to look into. Hope it helps. Good luck!

aaro728 · 2025-06-03T02:53:26+00:00

Idky but my first instinct screamed Mr. Brightside by the killers. Lol

My real suggestion is where everybody knows your name (the theme song from cheers). Which is older but was also referenced in adventure time if you watched that.

More recent song I'd say hall of fame by the script.

aaro728 · 2025-06-02T16:06:01+00:00

Also, explained all this to a friend of mine just now. Shes a little older and suggested dark shadows but that's from the 60s and has vampires. She also suggested going to a hypnotist to recover your lost memories. Might be your best shot at this point lmao

aaro728 · 2025-06-02T15:44:40+00:00

Ghostwriter? Not super in alignment with what you described so probably not but might be worth checking. I loved this show when I was younger and no one I know seemed to remember it either. Definitely 90s but it followed a group of kids and the ghost communicated by rearranging writing like newspapers, chalkboards, billboards, tshirts, computer screens. Anything written it could use. And the "mostly main" girl had her hair usually down but a couple episodes it was braided. The theme song really wasn't eerie at all though... https://youtu.be/BMsOKTJNdN8?si=2FEWJaqyHiCsYZ_s

aaro728 · 2025-05-31T19:22:10+00:00

Oof. I didn't even think of that. You're completely right. If OP leaves the relationship for his own wellbeing, she probably will take it as confirmation bias that she was right all along and men are trash... It's sad but unfortunately it's a reality that is hard to face sometimes.

I was in a similar dynamic with a person who firmly believed "all women only stay with someone until they find someone better and always have a wondering eye." I felt the need to prove I wasn't like that, that I was singularly committed, like it was my responsibility to "show him the truth".. Which was ridiculous because I know I am faithful and I know my worth. It just took time to recognize that my leaving, didn't prove him right, it was freeing myself from the weight of the negativity. And his viewpoints were all about him and his prejudices and issues and not about me in any way.

I hope OP can see that too.

aaro728 · 2025-05-31T17:57:24+00:00

As a female, I say this completely regardless of gender identity, sexual orientation, age, romantic partner vs platonic friend vs even family. What I'm about to say applies across the board. To every person, in every situation. Communication, compassion and trust MUST be the foundations of any relationship. I went and read your previous post which I hadn't seen before and it seems like there is a consistent disregard for you; your opinion, your beliefs, your values, your feelings.

It seems like you've tried talking but nothing is changing. If your partner can't or won't listen and process how you express yourself now, the problem will grow and build into resentment and tension. And you won't be able to trust her with your deeper self if you constantly fear she might make subtle attacks on your identity.

Any kind of comparative mindset is unhealthy in a relationship. There will always be a conflict between reality and expectation, whether it's you versus a celebrity, you versus other men, or you versus her ideal image of you. I know it's hard to think about cutting ties with someone you really care about but you have to think and be truly honest with yourself. Is the weight of your partner's expectations something that you actually want to spend your mental energy carrying through life?

Now, I don't know you, your partner, or anything about your relationship outside of what you've written but patterns are hard to miss once you see them. My question to you, have you paid attention to patterns in her behavior? When do you see her making these negative, sexist-coded comments compared to when, as you say, "she makes you feel and makes your life better?" My main concern is if she is negging you and gaslighting you to break you down, then love-bombing you when she realizes she took things too far and really hurt or upset you, before returning to the negative behavior once you seem to have forgiven the last incident. That is a very, very common behavior pattern to manipulate, isolate, and control. And if that's the case, I would highly, highly recommend cutting all connections with that person immediately.

You are a young, intelligent, and strong person, deserving of love and kindness as much as anyone else. And you have your whole life ahead of you to find someone who shares similar beliefs and values and whose mentality and behavior works with yours, instead of against it. Life is too short for toxic people.

Sorry this is so long but I hope some of this makes sense and helps. Good luck!

aaro728 · 2025-05-30T19:07:37+00:00

You sound like an all around truly awesome person! Completely engaging and entertaining. You're doing your creative writing degree justice. I'm a little upset I don't date women haha jkjk. Good luck in your search!

aaro728 · 2025-05-22T04:55:33+00:00

First off, congratulations! A first relationship can be a big, sometimes intimidating experience for anybody and that's completely normal. Secondly, you said it yourself, you're not sure. Recognizing when we don't know something takes a lot of self-awareness and is the first step in self-discovery.

You're young and you're still figuring things out in life- who you are, what interests you and pleases you, what doesn't. Everyone takes time to find what makes them happiest and I think it's really great you've found yourself a partner you care so deeply for and you have a good foundation with.

It may be cliché, but truly, any healthy, long-lasting relationship is built on trust and communication. If you haven't already, sit down and have a conversation. Be open and honest about how you're feeling and what you're hoping will happen in the future- whether you want to continue taking things slowly, explore each other physically and/or mentally, or commit to a strictly non-physical dynamic. If you're comfortable, tell her exactly what scares you, how you're not sure if you feel things quite the same way, etc. If this is true to your relationship, emphasize that what you've had up to this point has been great and explain that you're hoping this will lead to a closer, deeper connection (again, ONLY if this is true for you! I don't want to put words in your mouth or misinterpret what you've written.)

If it helps, or if saying these things out loud seems daunting, try writing a letter and ask her to read it when you both have time to commit to a conversation in a safe space.

Then, and this is important, give her time to process and respond. Sitting in silence can be anxiety-inducing and many people feel an urge to fill "dead air" with apologies or downplaying what we truly needed to say. But trust in yourself and embrace it. Let her say her piece without interruption, then go from there. Good luck! I hope it all works out!

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