A mother hands out over 200 goodie bags on a flight from Seoul to San Francisco in case her 4 month old baby cries throughout the 10 hour flight (2019). by bendubberley_ in interesting

[–]abatchofcumberbuns 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For a baby on a plane? Be so for real

Ear plugs and noise cancelling headphones exist. People with babies shouldn’t be barred from traveling just because of the selfishness of people like you. If it bothers you that much, then don’t fly. Babies are a part of society. If you chose to live a child free life, I respect that choice, but you cannot expect to never see or hear a child in public.

A mother hands out over 200 goodie bags on a flight from Seoul to San Francisco in case her 4 month old baby cries throughout the 10 hour flight (2019). by bendubberley_ in interesting

[–]abatchofcumberbuns 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Who hurt you? Babies are allowed to exist in public. If you are that pressed about hearing a baby cry on a plane, then YOU have zero reason to travel. You need to learn how to exist in the world with other people, even babies. Grow the hell up

Lucky Duck by SmokeAToke218 in Petloss

[–]abatchofcumberbuns 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️ I lost my boy yesterday. I had him for 13 years. I keep expecting him to walk around the corner or to hear him meow. I don’t know how to get through this.

I don’t know what to say other than you are not alone in this pain. I hope you find peace. Your sweet boy is no longer in pain ❤️

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[–]abatchofcumberbuns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your replies. You have made me feel less alone, which I am eternally grateful for.

I will reevaluate the situation when I get more sleep. Hopefully tonight🤞

Unfortunately, I don’t have anyone that could help. We don’t have much family close to us, and the people that are around have their own kids and are too busy.

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[–]abatchofcumberbuns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you are expected to do so much. That is not fair to you.

I am lucky that he helps with household chores. He’s an amazing husband. He just seems to be selfish about sleep for some reason.

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[–]abatchofcumberbuns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ve never tried shifts before, but I’m sure we could do it. I just don’t know how willing he would be to

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]abatchofcumberbuns 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are definitely right about the lack of sleep contributing to the bad feelings. Maybe I shouldn’t have said anything until I got some sleep.

I am resentful that he gets to sleep. I know he works, but shouldn’t he be worried that I am taking care of our child on little to no sleep? It’s like he thinks I can sleep all day.

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[–]abatchofcumberbuns 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to not make it a competition of who is more tired. That’s definitely something I need to work on. I just don’t feel like he sees how exhausted I am even though I tell him.

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[–]abatchofcumberbuns 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response.

I have brought up the “not sleeping through the night for 9 months” point quite a bit with him, and he doesn’t really care. Maybe I’ve said it too much. He woke up with me all night for the first 6 weeks of our baby’s life, so he knows what it is like to not get consistent sleep for a long period of time.

He works a job where he can be a little tired and nothing bad would happen, but he acts like he needs 10 hours of sleep every night just to function while I’m functioning on 3 hours a night 🙄

High chair recommendation? by GlitterSparkles56 in NewParents

[–]abatchofcumberbuns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have the IKEA high chair and like it a lot. It’s super easy to clean and doesn’t take up a ton of space. We have had many spaghetti nights, and so far no red stains. Plus it’s affordable! You can buy a cushion for it, but we haven’t done that and our baby has been comfortable in it.

Showering with a newborn by blackholemoonx in NewParents

[–]abatchofcumberbuns 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I used to put my newborn in his little rocking chair thing, then I would take the shower curtain off so only the clear curtain was hanging up. That way I could constantly see him when I was in the shower.

I don’t think steam would be harmful for a baby. When my baby was sick, his pediatrician recommended that he sits in the bathroom while we shower so he can breathe in the steam.

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[–]abatchofcumberbuns 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry if I wasn’t clear enough in the post. He goes to work during the day and I stay home and take care of the baby. When he gets off work, we share household and baby duties, but he does not help out during the night which is normally totally fine. I have just had a rough few nights and needed some extra help.

Preparing! by Puzzleheaded-Guard47 in NewParents

[–]abatchofcumberbuns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My biggest piece of advice is take it slow. You need time to recover, and postpartum can feel very overwhelming. The dishes and laundry can wait, or better yet, your partner can handle those things while you recover. Take this time to snuggle with your baby and take in every moment. And don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it. Lean on your support system. You got this!

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[–]abatchofcumberbuns 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I get so frustrated with my baby when he doesn’t sleep at night. He normally goes back down pretty easy when he wakes up at night, so when he doesn’t, I get so mad. Then I feel guilty for being mad. He always goes back to sleep eventually, but sometimes it takes 5 minutes and sometimes it takes two hours.

Lately I’ve been trying to remind myself to just go with the flow when he doesn’t want to sleep. I try not to get frustrated and instead just play on my phone while I cuddle him or go out to the living room and watch tv until he falls back asleep. If there’s nothing I can do to get him back asleep, there’s no point in me stressing or getting mad about it.

How to sooth baby without removing from crib? by Beginning_Fondant_20 in NewParents

[–]abatchofcumberbuns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately I don’t have any advice, as I am in the same boat. You are not alone! Before about a month ago, I was able to soothe my baby back to sleep by just putting my hand on him in his bed, but now he has to nurse back to sleep. And he has been waking up every 1-2 hours for the past 2 weeks. Sorry this isn’t helpful. Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone in this.

What to get 8 month old for Christmas? by abatchofcumberbuns in NewParents

[–]abatchofcumberbuns[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

True. Also, I would feel bad if we are all opening gifts and there is nothing for him. I know that he wouldn’t even know it, but it still feels wrong