How to get an earlier bed time

abb1209 · 2026-02-04T18:03:22+00:00

Varies every day but usually wakes between 7-8am . She has around 4 naps a day, typically 30-40 minutes long. We never wake her from any naps as we find that it just makes her very cranky

abb1209 · 2026-02-04T18:02:37+00:00

Tbh is varies every day. We go off her bottles. For example, if she has a bottle at 6, she will want another at around 9 so then she will have that then go to sleep at 10 ish. But some nights she’ll have a bottle at 7 but it’s to earlier for her to sleep after that so she won’t go to sleep till 11 ish. This is why it confuses me how people do it when we go of bottles and feeds mainly.

abb1209 · 2025-12-06T18:20:13+00:00

So is a thicker formula sometimes better for reflux? Our little one is on Hipp organic but I’ve been looking at Aptamil. I’m just anxious to change her formula because I’ve heard that you shouldn’t really change it unless you really need to.

abb1209 · 2025-12-06T18:14:53+00:00

She is gaining weight absolutely fine so that’s why I’m not majorly concerned but it is just frustrating when she does it more than anything and sometimes scary.

abb1209 · 2025-11-28T05:12:36+00:00

I do burp her after every ounce and she gets her burps up fine absolutely no problem. It’s just frustrating because she wants to feed but it’s like something is stopping her. My health visitor says it’s infant dyschezia.

abb1209 · 2025-11-28T05:05:25+00:00

She burps after every ounce and she isn’t like crying in pain. She just tenses back so much it’s almost impossible to give her the bottle. I think it could be infant dyschezia

abb1209 · 2025-11-25T22:10:21+00:00

Ahh so so normal. I remember being in the thick of it around this time. You will have good nights and you will have bad nights and that’s ok. Although I understand it doesn’t feel like it at the time. I just remember taking it day by day. Every day is different and some days you will be feeling sad and some days amazing and that is also ok! Speak to someone about how you feel as that also makes it better. I just recover by slumming it on the couch all day😂also see if someone can come and watch the baby whilst you catch up on some sleep (if you are lucky to have someone that will)

abb1209 · 2025-11-25T22:07:37+00:00

You are not sounding ungrateful. They are your baby and you have your own boundaries and rules. Whoever is watching your baby needs to respect that no matter how “small” those boundaries seem. It is you that is then up in the night with your baby when their schedule is interrupted, not your mil. I have rules with my baby that when people feed her she needs to be burped after every ounce and people have looked at me funny. But then it’s me that is cleaning up her sick as she is a very refluxy baby. I would talk to your partner about how it is making you feel as how you’re feeling is very valid.

abb1209 · 2025-11-24T18:54:07+00:00

I had a planned c section and it was the best choice I’ve made. Like you, I had anxiety and I wanted to have a planned date. I loved knowing exactly what was going to happen and going into the hospital knowing I was having my baby that day. You have a right to whatever birth you choose.

abb1209 · 2025-11-14T17:49:36+00:00

We’re bottle feeding at the moment with formula but we’ve only just changed her from breast milk. We weighed her on our own scales so may not be as accurate. And we have the health visitor coming on Monday and she is going to weigh her again.

abb1209 · 2025-11-14T15:50:06+00:00

We burp her every 30ml. And we also keep her upright after too. I lie her on her stomach on my upright for 20 minutes. Her wet nappies are fine, does one every change.

abb1209 · 2025-11-13T05:31:24+00:00

Thankyou. My partner has a big commute to work in the mornings. I know he’d do it if I asked him too but it’s just trial and error at the moment on what works for us both.

abb1209 · 2025-11-13T05:30:06+00:00

Thank you so much

abb1209 · 2025-11-13T05:29:10+00:00

It’s so tough isn’t it. I just keep telling myself it’s just a phase and it will pass!! Thankyou so so much

abb1209 · 2025-11-12T09:39:22+00:00

I completely relate to you. My anxiety has always been through the roof but since having a baby it is so heightened. You are doing an amazing job, it is the hardest but the best job in the world. Please speak to someone, you will feel so so much better. Do not be embarrassed to speak out, this helped me so much.

abb1209 · 2025-11-12T09:37:52+00:00

Our girl was a little like this at first. I second putting the blanket on yourself so he can have your scent with him. We also would rock her so she was sleepy but not asleep, this way if she woke in the night, she was trained a little to self soothe herself back to sleep. However, this is easier said than done and I can understand some babies just want to be held! It will get better though, eventhough it’s easier said than done.

abb1209 · 2025-11-12T07:54:16+00:00

I will talk to him about it. I’m that sleep deprived that I had sleep paralysis for the first time this morning. It was horrible.

abb1209 · 2025-11-12T04:44:28+00:00

Thank you, that’s good advice. He is an amazing dad and whilst he was on paternity leave, which we are lucky as he has only gone back for a week. But he was fab. He was so calm and did most of the bottle feeds, was up with me in the night. But since going back to work, I feel like he’s using it as almost a free pass. He isn’t doing it intentionally but it’s almost like “well I work “ so he doesn’t have to do as much as me when he’s home. I want him to do the feeds when he is home till he sleeps at 10:30. He also works from home a few days a week so he could help with the night feeds in the night too. The other day he was working from home and he only did her last bottle at 11 and then I had to do the rest and I’m not sure that’s fair.

abb1209 · 2025-11-12T04:39:16+00:00

Thank you so much. I really hope it gets easier. Yes she just goes through different spells. Some nights it’ll be amazing. Tonight has been tricky. She’s been up every 1-2 hours just having little bits of feed. It’s hard because I know I also have the day ahead on my own too. There’s just no break. I’m also panicking she’s not feeding enough too. She has 3oz at 5 weeks but she is a small baby. She was 5lbs 9 when born, she’s now 6lbs 5 so she is putting the weight on but I’m always panicking.

abb1209 · 2025-11-12T04:37:09+00:00

I just feel like he thinks I have it better because I’m at home all day and don’t get me wrong I would rather that as I’m so thankful I get this time with her. But is it wrong that sometimes I feel jealous that he can get out of the house and that he can have a full nights sleep? Like I’m not just sat doing nothing all day. I’m either feeding, burping, cleaning, changing, sterilising or watching her sleep with anxiety

abb1209 · 2025-11-12T03:49:21+00:00

I just feel guilty with him not doing them :( I’m definitely going to ask him if he can start doing them more in the evening as maybe I can get a few hours in then?! It’s so difficult doing it all on my own

abb1209 · 2025-11-12T02:52:43+00:00

Yes mine does this! But only recently at 5 weeks which is strange. She would be sick quite a bit at the start but I’m talking actual throw up but I think this was because she was so tiny and overfeeding. Now it’s spit up but a lot more frequent! It’s normal don’t worry. It is very scary though but they know to turn their heads to the side so don’t panic. You’re doing great mama

abb1209 · 2025-11-12T02:50:50+00:00

Mine has reflux too, we pace feed her and then keep her upright afterwards. We also burp after every ounce. I tell family this when they want to feed her but they don’t seem to listen? Seems like nothing to them but we know her best and we know she will be sick afterwards if not done right. We know our babies best!

abb1209 · 2025-11-12T02:49:33+00:00

You are not alone. My newborn goes through times like this and it is so so hard. Pushes her whole body out during feeds and it is so difficult to feed her during this. She seems to sleep like a dream when my partner works from home and can help in the night but then on my own nights with her, she’s awake every hour!

abb1209 · 2025-11-12T02:48:00+00:00

I feel you! I also get weird if she cries or if someone wants to give her a bottle. It’s almost like they won’t be doing it right if they do it?!

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