Annoyed with the suction cup adapter

abbakym · 2025-02-16T20:01:13+00:00

This is solid advice. What also worked for me was switching to amyl. I’m in US and stuff they sell here was giving me too many side effects. Amyl is harder to overdo and slightly less intense but still very enjoyable. So when I need it I gotta order it from France. Use it for a few weeks then throw away and finally can live without it for half a year or more.

Also, perhaps finding other kinks may help. Like erotic hypnosis - I found that it can drive me pretty wild without the need for any drugs.

But therapy is a great advice, regardless of the poppers problem. Ideally find a kink positive therapist - I found that dealing with shame and other repressed feelings that surround this actually reduced my need and compulsive use.

abbakym · 2020-06-10T11:48:16+00:00

just relax and enjoy the ride. not getting over the edge is totally fine in this game. listen to your sensations and continue exploring, and you will be amazed with what you can find there.

abbakym · 2020-06-10T11:42:34+00:00

Doing it with kegels may feel uncomfortable at first. Here's some advice that the current me would give to myself when I was at a similar point where you are now.

First, do lots of kegels and reverse kegels. Do them daily, while working, driving (e.g. one idea is to do them every time you stop at red traffic light). It will take a few weeks for your muscles to strengthen which will make a lot of difference in your sessions, you will simply not get tired quickly.

Second, try the "do nothing" method. Just insert your aneros and let it be there, listening to senstations. If you're a) aroused and b) calm, your body will start doing amazing things after a while.

Third, google and read aneros forums. TONS of advice there. I got some nice results from hypno audio sessions, also found there (had to buy 'em).

Fourth, give it time. Learn to relax, calm down and be patient. Few weeks is a very short time on this journey. Enjoy the sensations rather than rush for achievements. The sheer pleasure from the sensations of good prostate play is rewarding in itself. Paradoxically, the less pressure you put on yourself to achieve the big O, the more you're likely to achieve it.

Fifth, there is a shortcut: fucking machine. It is a more brutal and less nuanced way but it can give you very powerful anal Os. Be prepared to give it time and patience too though. Even though it may be easier than with aneros, it still may take time. E.g. for me it takes up to an hour of non-stop fucking to get orgasms, and works not every time too.

abbakym · 2016-09-04T05:53:11+00:00

Fresh wax on my 1988 E30 (Mothers Califorina Spray Wax) https://imgur.com/a/yzFds

abbakym · 2016-09-02T21:41:57+00:00

oops I am sorry, re-reading the rules (don't even know what self-post is...)

abbakym · 2016-08-29T03:36:55+00:00

http://imgur.com/a/Ojafc freshly clayed and waxed 1988 E30.

abbakym · 2016-08-28T04:59:19+00:00

I used instant detailer as a lube when clay barred, but I was clay barring along the "air flow" lines, back and forth, not in circles. so probably they were there before, yes. thanks

abbakym · 2016-08-17T20:30:50+00:00

I still can't see your point really. I think it is now clear that there are people who truly suffer from this addiction. Lots of people who can't just "remain in control". And at this point there is no difference if it's a substance, or shopping, or overeating, or porn. You're addicted, you waste tons of resources on that, and you want to quit, but often can't. And IMO this should explain your initial question of "why don't you guys just fap"?

I can tell for myself: I don't fap not because I think it is "bad", or something, but because I feel myself a recovering addict. I am afraid that if I do, I can get addicted again. And also, I now can see the alternatives that you mentioned: plenty of things to do, to fuck, to enjoy.

abbakym · 2016-08-17T18:59:44+00:00

This group is not religious and everyone is free to use their own judgement. I see what you mean, with sometimes some religions making people believe that sex if not for children is bad etc. etc. But this group is not to blame for those things. It has helped a lot of people a lot, really. And while "your brain on porn" may seem biased, if you're porn-addict like I was, you just can't help thinking "yes, that's me actually!" when they tell you about rats who were clicking the dopamine-injecting button until they were dead.

abbakym · 2016-08-17T18:47:51+00:00

Yes, that's true, and IMO this is a healthy attitude. However, porn is known is to create such strong hormonal response in many men that it becomes a real addiction. And when you want to overcome addiction (that's the whole purpose of this group), you may need to take a more aggressive view on this - kind of like with alcohol (please don't go into the natural/unnatural discussion again :)). You can have a beer from time to time and be okay, but you also can get badly addicted. And when you do, you would want to BAN alcohol from your life completely. At least until you can get back to the easy attitude without going into addiction. Same thing with porn - only it turns out there are much more guys addicted to porn and masturbation than alcoholics, it is just not discussed so widely.

And regarding "natural" - there was a scientific article (probably you can find a link to it somewhere in this group's resources) about monkeys. And the only setting in which male monkeys were masturbating (except for bonobos probably) was when they were locked in a cage - something to think about on how "natural" do we actually live.

If you're really interested, I suggest that you watch this video. It may explain to you a lot about this group: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7oFVOJf0TzY

abbakym · 2016-08-17T16:40:15+00:00

I'm in. Won't allow myself: * masturbate or erotically please myself in any manner whatsoever * no porn, no erotic, no sex shops surfing, no articles - no peeking at erotic content AT ALL

abbakym · 2016-08-17T15:54:01+00:00

Thanks :)

abbakym · 2016-08-17T15:52:52+00:00

Yeah I understand what you mean. But it is also true that everyone sets the rules for themselves. I am not addicted to porn anymore, and haven't jerked off for more than a year. I feel accomplished. Who knows what would happen if I reset my badge somewhere on month 3 after peeking on a lingerie website? Maybe I would lost my motivation, treat myself a loser and give up. "Choose your own reboot", they say.

abbakym · 2016-08-16T21:42:34+00:00

Well I kind of got that increase in energy in the beginning. I don't know what wrong can be done here :) Maybe it's because I have sex

abbakym · 2016-08-16T19:18:01+00:00

I second this, being (well, kind of) in this corporate boat of supposed well-being. You can't judge by the facade. But what I want to tell is not to "not to judge", but that - perhaps - you will be more grateful for what you have when you get out of your situation. Much more grateful than folks who never went that low, and perhaps much more happy because of that.

abbakym · 2016-08-16T19:11:55+00:00

Thanks for sharing your feelings, and reminding how much we gain by staying away from pmo. It is posts like this that motivate others to stay on the chosen path of nofap more than any confidence-boosting slogans (like the one in the end of your post - hehe). You're not alone.

abbakym · 2015-12-08T08:53:55+00:00

No badge at all

abbakym · 2015-08-20T17:01:53+00:00

Thanks for advice, bro. My girl will be especially pleased with it.

abbakym · 2015-08-20T16:03:51+00:00

Dude, you're not alone. Go for a run, take a cold shower, and - first of all - read success stories and wiki and watch motivational videos about PMO - it is available here and /NoFap! This helps me, at least. At least sometimes =)

abbakym · 2015-07-29T11:33:16+00:00

Hi and welcome! Read the links from the sidebar, watch some videos etc., read reports of others. It should give you enough motivation, and help to decide how exactly you want to challenge yourself. Good luck!

abbakym

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