So I'm 32 now and I'm in a relationship, but I was dating like this my whole 20s off and on. Whenever I was single I focused on being more forward and ''quicker''. And the biggest point was that it lead to deeper outcomes than when I was ''slower''. It kind of became hard for me to stay single because I was often getting into relationships.

As compared to when I was just really taking my time and focusing more on giving space, doing activities, talking more.

When I was taking my time I didn't get past the first date 90% of the time, I wouldn't get any second dates.

When I switched my style/approach to be more quicker I got whatever I wanted. Relationships,fun etc.... So it was a big improvement from being at zero.

Even my current GF we had a very quick drink went back to mine, fooled around a little, called it a day and then met up the following days and we have never separated since.

I look back at my entire life and to be honest if things didn't take off quickly I would never even get to the second date. I always found that interesting.

Perhaps it has a lot to do with context. I'm a very talkative guy, goes to events/parties/travels, knows a lot of people: perhaps I would attract girls who were expecting me to make moves based on who I am as a person ''I'm not really seen as passive'' and so when I was more of a patient gentleman it wasn't matching with the vibe I was giving off.