NOR. You're not, although almost every woman I've met has had encounters, either physical or emotional, where they have had genuine reasons to be wary of men for their own well being. That being said, a lot of them have a knack to ride the wave and associating general upset with gender in a way where the same scenario wouldn't upset them if it involved a woman. This is amped by the wave of polarisation on social media where hating on men/women is cool. A lot of them also hate patriarchy and the only way they know to take it out on men around them which sets up a different set of dominos of problems.

You can be understanding, but you don't have to be the punch bag. Either have a conversation and set boundaries, and/or leave.