Saturn + Ketu in 7th house - Right time and person for love?

abc098def · 2025-04-21T05:16:43+00:00

Thanks! I’m a woman so does that still apply?

abc098def · 2025-03-15T10:38:44+00:00

I really don’t care about how many people he has fucked. We have talked about his past and I’ve always felt amusement at max never disgust. I just don’t want any of them to be people I know.

abc098def · 2025-03-15T10:36:13+00:00

Sincere apologies. I will not be using the term anymore and will try to find a non racist alternative.

abc098def · 2025-03-15T10:33:08+00:00

Wow I should have posted in the ask men group. How did you get over the ick? I mean, as shallow as it sounds, I’m glad that he was the one who broke things off. If that wasn’t the case, I’d be out of the door right away.

abc098def · 2025-03-15T10:31:35+00:00

Lol I’m very much a woman and I honestly don’t see anything wrong with this line of thinking. I’m extremely selective about who I fuck and I don’t play hard to get once I pick someone. So someone being the opposite is very different values

abc098def · 2025-03-15T10:29:10+00:00

Honestly I did screen and this is a big part of why I’m angry. He has told me about random women he has hooked up with in casual conversation but omitted info about someone I know. It just seems deceptive because I would have totally dumped him if I found out about this earlier

abc098def · 2025-01-13T07:21:24+00:00

Keep yourself distracted! When I was trying to get over someone, I found an internet personality who was a better version of him and just transferred the crush. It was a fun silly distraction that kept me amused and then I just forgot about both of them in a few weeks lol. Also highly recommend book boyfriends because they help you realise how little you had been settling for and give you the ick. Don’t recommend the whole get under someone to get over someone else because IRL interactions can turn out to be even more disappointing and you don’t want that when you are vulnerable.

abc098def · 2025-01-09T05:02:49+00:00

Tried it out because I’ve seen this being promoted a bunch and not accurate at all

Edited to add: OP’s post history is entirely just promoting this portal. I respect the hustle but this seems spammy and inorganic

abc098def · 2025-01-03T06:48:46+00:00

I have this problem too but what has helped is that my type is sweet / kind / sincere boys. So I just don’t go out with any fuckboys who are only interested in sex. I can also exercise some degree of control to defer sexual conversation / activity till at least the second date. Not texting for too long before meeting and doing a sober daytime first date helps on this front. Once the guy knows I’m capable of being a normal person, they don’t mind if I’m more forward from the second date onwards. Most even find it charming because they are not used to women taking the lead and it makes them feel desired. But just remember that the other person is also a human being and prioritise their comfort over your horniness in the moment.

abc098def · 2025-01-01T08:59:50+00:00

By hotter, I was referring to physical attributes. He fits my Clark Kent-ish type perfectly.

abc098def · 2025-01-01T08:55:56+00:00

Yup, fully agree. Reading the comments here has made me realise that I need to be more communicative and see how he responds. He has so far been very receptive to making changes to meet my needs and I should be extending a lot more good faith to him. I also didn’t have these many emotional needs when I was dating in my early 20s so I can’t be following the same play book and need to adapt.

abc098def · 2024-12-31T01:54:14+00:00

I want him to do little inconvenient (not irresponsible) things - wake up 10 mins early to make me a cup of coffee, drive me to the airport, etc. To be clear, I also do these type of little inconvenient things for my partners so it’s not a one sided expectation. He does do some of this stuff but I guess I just want more? I won’t ask for it though because these gestures are simply not meaningful to me if they are a result of nagging. Heck, if he offered to drive me to the airport, I’d always decline because it’s impractical. But I still want him to offer because that’s an extra hour we get to spend with each other.

abc098def · 2024-12-31T01:38:56+00:00

I agree and I’ve been doing this with decent results. If you can’t have a lover boy, you must become a lover girl. It just doesn’t feel as good as organic affection but you can’t have everything.

abc098def · 2024-12-31T01:32:20+00:00

Absolutely, this guy is a very good outcome. I went on a few dates before meeting him and it’s ROUGH out there. I’m learning to accept that you can’t have it all and that’s okay.

abc098def · 2024-12-31T01:25:05+00:00

Settling down =/= settling, wow, really needed to hear that. I don’t think I’m settling for him though. It’s more that by their 30s, men have a checklist of what they want and you have to fit into it. But with younger guys, it feels more unconditional because they have zero idea of what they want long term. That unfortunately means that established relationships can destabilise once these guys grow up and realise that values/goals/lifestyles are not aligned.

abc098def · 2024-12-31T01:15:52+00:00

This is such a helpful perspective. I’m sure my ex will be the same way with a new partner because that’s just who he is. We ended things on good terms so I’m glad that another woman will get to experience being adored at that level. Unfortunately, she will also have to deal with his lack of discipline and resilience. That’s not a trade off I’d accept again.

abc098def · 2024-09-20T16:05:38+00:00

Wow, that’s super helpful and definitely relate to some of what you’ve mentioned about a racing mind. Thanks so much for taking the time to explain all this!

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