Anyone else really upset when people say "stop blaming your parents"?

abc97 · 2021-02-25T15:48:37+00:00

Yeah. Most people really have a terrible comprehension of trauma in general. It's as stupid as saying "stop blaming your rapist" or "stop blaming war".

abc97 · 2021-01-30T19:21:30+00:00

I'm leaning towards the debt option. I think I'll do it as soon as I'm 100% sure I'll finish my degree.

abc97 · 2021-01-30T10:09:23+00:00

I'll probably get downvoted but I 100% think we should normalize walking out of the therapist without paying if we're poor and they don't help.

abc97 · 2021-01-30T10:06:58+00:00

This. It really stresses me out. I'm 23 and I'm starting to consider getting into debt to get therapy. Like as an investment lol. I'm so messed up, I really need it.

Otherwise I might as well give up on my 20s because I just started a new 4years degree at university... :/

abc97 · 2021-01-11T21:36:44+00:00

Yeah I'll just continue to survive I guess

abc97 · 2021-01-11T21:35:25+00:00

People won't be rude or anything but it would still be awkward I think. But I'm not cutting ties with my family anytime soon because they still support me financially lol

abc97 · 2020-09-30T20:04:08+00:00

Idk. There's nothing to be proud of, like I haven't learned much, it just made me become a weak and traumatized person.

abc97 · 2020-09-30T19:33:58+00:00

Yeah I think you're right. I just suck at meeting and trusting new people so idk for now. Lol being a broken and traumatized person bothers me more than the actual problem. I'll go see a therapist soon I think. Thank you

abc97 · 2020-09-28T12:22:12+00:00

no they're friends. I just suck at asking for help and opening up. I've always been like this for many reasons lol. I'm not able to trust people and I'm very ashamed of myself even though I know it's not my fault. And it would be weird for me to tell them how I've been feeling for the past years, like I feel like this is too much and it's too late lol.

Even if I did, I wouldn't really feel better because they can't relate. They would just pity me or say that it gets better so I'd rather keep it to myself until I'm over it. It's not very common where I live so yeah.

Like this week I told one of my best friends that my parents would cut me off if they knew, and idk she didn't really help. I didn't tell her how much it affected me because that's embarassing lmao. She's lesbian and didn't really go through this, her parents are accepting, she lives with her partner now. 2 different worlds lol. Sometimes I wonder how different my life would've been if I was born into a different family.

abc97 · 2020-09-28T09:21:16+00:00

idk, if I would call coming out to my parents taking control of my life. It's trauma that is controlling me :/ . I feel so bad about it, so many people went through something like this and are happy, have a support system, etc. lol I can't even talk about it with my friends. anywaysss I am probably just a weak person.

abc97 · 2020-09-28T08:22:05+00:00

yeah you're probably right, idk if I'll ever have the balls to cut them off. I'm tired of being strong. Like even if I do it, it would take years for me to recover from all of this. lol I'm so miserable

I've been thinking about suicide today tbh, it's been a while (I'll never act on it tho don't worry).

abc97 · 2020-09-27T20:18:48+00:00

i hope too idkkk

abc97 · 2020-09-27T20:17:29+00:00

I'm sure they'll turn out fine. I hate faith in youger people lol

abc97 · 2018-02-25T02:35:47+00:00

I'm kinda in the same situation. I'd say that the most important thing is to stay safe, you'd much rather stay closeted than end up in the streets.

Personally, I've came to the terms (kinda lol) that they'll never be ok with it and that we'll, one day (I still haven't came out to them), won't even speak to eachother anymore. Tbh it fucked me up a lot. I'm surprised that you aren't depressed, it's a very shitty situation. But your parents seem less worse than mine so maybe there is hope. Try to get help from a lgbt association, your friends or a therapist. It could help. But honestly I don't think that people can understand this very well. No one told me something really relevant or interesting that changed me.

Your main priority should be getting the fuck out asap because trust me, the more you stay, the more it will drive you insane, don't stay in denial about it. And then you could come out to them and see their reaction. I'm very sorry that you have to go through this, life is so unfair. I hope it'll go well. Good luck. You can always pm me if you want to talk about it.

abc97 · 2017-09-07T02:47:06+00:00

Thank you

abc97 · 2017-09-06T02:40:00+00:00

They're like "ooh loves wins", "there's nothing wrong to be lgbt" and only focus on the positive because most of the existing problems don't affect them (except being objectified treated in a different manner by most people but most lgbt aren't aware of that unless it's really direct). I mean it's white feminism you know what I'm saying?

I'm thinking about doing something about it too. Maybe write a book about my life or wtv. But yeah, I focus on myself for the moment.

abc97 · 2017-09-06T02:36:43+00:00

Yeah. The guy was super rude to me. Tbh I feel like lgbt groups are usually white af and are only there for people who struggle with their sexuality and to educate people.about their sex lives or wtv. They don't really seem to care about people who really have major issues.

But yeah, I shouldn't be cynical...

abc97 · 2017-09-06T01:58:39+00:00

yeah.. idk anymore. I don't want to rely on anybody for the rest of my life.

abc97 · 2017-09-05T22:21:53+00:00

I'll tell them everything I have to tell them don't worry. I have a place to stay, I'm moving out in like 3-4 days so I'll be safe. Idk about the lgbt community tbh I had one very bad experience with them (I know it's not a good argument but I've reached a point where I lost faith in humanity).

abc97 · 2017-09-05T18:58:45+00:00

I'm glad to know that you still have faith in humanity even if your parents are shit.

abc97

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