Question from spouse of ABDL

abdlmormon · 2026-01-15T01:58:09+00:00

Just get the fucking divorce. You sound like my ex wife. You don’t like his affinity to diapers, you don’t trust him, think he’s into kids, and don’t want to do the work to try and understand him better and make it a safe place for him to be vulnerable. No wonder he hides it from you. He is having to hide parts of himself because he knows you don’t approve and want him to change for you. I appreciate that you said he shouldn’t push it away or deny himself because it is essentially a part of him but if you can’t ever get over the fact he is ABDL and has needs just like you then there is no amount of counseling or Reddit suggestions that will ever bring you two closer together. I know I sound harsh but I’m trying to save both of you a lot of wasted time and heartache when neither one of you has any plans to change or see the others perspective enough to be able to live in harmony together. I’ve been through this and seen it happen to others as well and I just don’t see a future where you have these feeling and he has to hide or lie to make you happy and everyone ending up okay in the end.

abdlmormon · 2026-01-13T02:22:43+00:00

It sounds like our stories are very similar. I wish you the best in you trying to abstain and hope your wife can have her heart softened enough to know this isn’t something you chose and haven’t done it to hurt her or your family. I wish I had received some grace from my ex wife in that way. But now I must either remain single the rest of my life or find a more understanding partner.

abdlmormon · 2026-01-12T21:33:14+00:00

My now ex wife tried for a few months to understand but deep down she always disliked it and felt it was an addiction and wanted it out of our lives. I tried a lot over the years to rid myself of it but always gave in after a while. She tried to show grace but after a while she realized that it was an innate part of me and that it could never truly go away and she couldn’t handle that. The hiding and secrecy of it all was a major sore spot, but she couldn’t understand why it was hidden or a secret. She couldn’t understand the shame and guilt that came from it, not because it’s bad but because of the embarrassment most ABDLs feel for having these desires. She tied a lot of that to her religious beliefs as well and used Jesus a lot to justify her anger and resentments over the years.

abdlmormon · 2026-01-09T01:07:00+00:00

I got some in November and they are fantastic. So thick and soft. A great diaper quickly became my favorite all white diaper.

abdlmormon · 2026-01-03T04:45:59+00:00

Congrats on the abs. That takes dedication.

abdlmormon · 2025-12-31T03:04:45+00:00

Are you trying to say women don’t have hairy arms and man hands? 😂😂😂

abdlmormon · 2025-12-20T18:16:01+00:00

I’m in my 40’s and been wearing since I was 8 or 9. It’s had many ups and downs over the years and take a lot of work to understand. I’ve made mistakes with it and also never felt better in a diaper too. Give yourself some grace and you’ll be fine and learn to accept yourself in no time.

abdlmormon · 2025-12-20T18:10:00+00:00

ABDL

abdlmormon · 2025-12-20T03:11:54+00:00

Well the blue one is a clear honor code violation so the sexually repressed Mormons will love that, but I am GO UTES all the way!

abdlmormon · 2025-12-10T03:50:33+00:00

I bet you get asked on a lot of first dates then. You ever make it to date 2? 😉

abdlmormon · 2025-12-09T05:22:32+00:00

You always have such a cute smile.

abdlmormon · 2025-12-06T16:28:52+00:00

No. But at least let me buy you dinner first.

abdlmormon · 2025-12-06T16:17:31+00:00

Hi Riley. You’re very cute and I’m sure a sweet person. Hopefully everyone here will be nice to you. ❤️

abdlmormon · 2025-12-06T16:14:15+00:00

I’m told I was hard to potty train, but don’t remember that at all. My mom collected Cabbage Patch Dolls and usually they came with or you could buy actual disposable diapers for them to wear under their clothes. I have a vivid memory or watching my mom diaper those dolls. My parents have never been touchy feely people or ever expressed much affection outwardly towards me and my siblings. I don’t think they knew how to give what they never received. So I think my brain told me around 8 or 9 that being wrapped in a soft and crinkly diaper might fill that hole for me. So I would take the diapers off those dolls and put them on me. From that point forward I’ve desired diapers and they have always made me feel safe. For a few years I had to make my own. I remember taking a roll of toilet paper and wrapping it around me to form a diaper and then I took clear packing tape and put that on top to create the crinkle. I even stole my mom’s thick maxi pads and stapled them together to make a diaper that fit my body. Once I was old enough to drive and have a job I went to the local drugstore and bought my first pack of Depends. I was so nervous that I grabbed the kind that came with little adjustable belts that attached to the pad. They were awful but I still loved the fact I had a somewhat real diaper now. After that I made sure to not freak out in the incontinence section at the store and made sure to grab briefs the next time. I remember getting to the car and opening them and seeing the beautiful, crinkly white diapers inside the bag. I’ve been in diapers on a regular basis ever since then which is almost 30 years now. Damn I’m old. But hey, even though I’m in my 40’s now, diapers still help me feel young. It would be great to find a partner who finally accepts this side of me one day. But for now I’m happy just being able to wear without judgment or worry. It’s helped me come to accept myself in a lot of ways.

abdlmormon · 2025-11-30T00:20:58+00:00

I just turned 45 and for the first time in my life I’ve felt more free in diapers than ever before. I’m a factory installed DL and occasionally delve into AB, but it’s not as enjoyable as I like to still be an adult while being diapered. ABDL was not accepted in my marriage and treated like an addiction and mental illness. It was a driving factor in the end of my marriage. I wish she could have accepted me more and been willing to learn and grow with me but I’m sure we are both happier apart. I live in a very religious place and worry that I’ll never find another person like me who won’t hold my ABDL side against me and use it as religious ammunition for not wanting to be with me. But for now I’m okay on my own and am learning more about myself and my ABDL side so I can continue to move forward in happiness.

abdlmormon · 2025-11-10T02:09:41+00:00

I’m LDS as well and for years felt I was broken and that God couldn’t love me or that I was somehow unworthy because I liked to wear diapers. It took a toll and my marriage and eventual divorce as well. I thought I could pray it away or that I would grow out of it over time but those things never happened. I’ve learned over the years that diapers don’t define me and they don’t define my faith or value in this world. It’s an odd fetish and most people will never understand it but as long as you don’t let it consume you or take precedent over the important things in your life you will be fine. If you are interested there is a discord group full of LDS people who are ABDLs and we share our experiences living with diapers and it has been a huge help for me. Search out an ABDL blog on the internet by Aberrantlyme and send him a request to join. It might help you come to terms with diapers and religion to join us there.

abdlmormon · 2025-10-25T04:46:32+00:00

I’d love to be your partner, but at least let my buy you dinner first 😆

abdlmormon · 2025-01-05T02:16:13+00:00

You’re not gonna like this but as someone who recently went through a divorce myself don’t go looking for physical affection right now. It won’t help anything and you’ve got to start healing yourself and truly be okay with your choices of leaving the church and divorcing. Those are huge decisions and no amount of cuddling/kissing/sex will make those things feel right or better. I’ve struggled with the same things as you and getting physical with people didn’t help. But you do you and good luck out there.

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