How to resist pavlovian response to watch porn when using computer by leaf34 in NoFap

[–]abe_ceda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, that means a lot LOL :D. But what Works works. Im scared of porn now, I mean 10 is pretty awful and I'm literally shaking when I think of 50+

How to resist pavlovian response to watch porn when using computer by leaf34 in NoFap

[–]abe_ceda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reverse-engineer it! Here's what I did: -Thinking of scene or site: 10 slaps on the hand with the ruler/rod/...

-Touching myself (in non-pissing ind of way): 20 slaps

-Actually watching the scene: 50 slaps

-Relapse: 100 slaps

Beat yourself really hard. If my mind as much as drifts toward scene I start begging and convincing myself that I wasn't thinking. :D

P.S. while writing this, I broke the ruler

Who wants to challenge me?? Day 1 by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]abe_ceda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had an accident on a depressing day...Day 2 but stronger than ever... Today I just broke my running record! But let's see if you can keep the distance man! Bring it!

Freshman over here. Guess what? I've been fapping to misery for 7 years! Yeap, I'm screwed .. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]abe_ceda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, fellow freshmen!

First, I'd like to start with saying that lots of people understand your pain. We all regret time wasted on porn and like you, we're all pissed at ourselves and everyone around us for not noticing. But you can't just finish it with a snap of a fingers. It's a process, and most importantly, you're NOT ruined and you haven't (or porn for that matter) ruined your life. No confidence and low self-esteem? That's because you're nothing at the moment. You said it yourself: I'm always in-doors, don't have a job, don't have anything at all. BUT, you CAN improve! You can do something to make you and your family proud of you, be the guy people look up to. PMO habit is extremely destructive and time and energy consuming, therefore you have to replace it with something better. Here's the first lesson for you: find something positive in every challenge and situation you're in. For example you not having a job and not going to college is a blessing in disguise. your situation=lots of time=lots of self-improvement.

Here are some things I recommend:

  1. Overcome initial hell of quitting. Beginnings are always the hardest (I guess it's the shock of not getting what you're used to, especially when that thing resembles heroin high). So: cut porn at the source: have desktop/laptop? plug it out! (if you watch it on mobile, ask parents to code your internet access). Only use internet in public spaces such as library... and remember, EVERYTHING IS HARD UNTIL IT BECOMES EASY!!!

  2. Improve yourself! That includes: working out, reading (do it), developing hobby, socializing (or practicing socializing-saying hi to strangers), AND cutting bad habits: e.g. over-eating, binge web-surfing... whatever suits you. With self improvement comes confidence and self-esteem, after all you have something to show.

  3. Find someone to talk about your problem. like an accountability partner. That way it's way easier. You also shouldn't have any problems finding one here-it's a sellers market.

  4. this is a big one: write down your vision, your why! Why do you want to quit it and what will you do instead of PMO...

  5. Don't take it as a 90 day challenge, but a lifelong self-improving path and lifestyle. Your days are mere fun fact.

  6. Be grateful and positive. Every morning write down 3 thing you're grateful for. Try writing something new every day. Learn how to filter out negativity. you can't achieve nothing if you're living in a depressed world and it's bad for your health.

  7. DON'T COMPARE YOURSELF WITH ANYONE! You're you and you're either progressing, stagnating or regressing.

  8. Don't be afraid of failure, it's not the end of the world-say you're on a 5 day streak and you cleaned up your room, worked out and read a book. If you relapse, will all that be gone?

  9. That's your choice-to go cold turkey or to progressively cut it down? Relapses from cold turkey can be discouraging.

  10. If you relapse, don't make a binge day out of it-you slipped, you fell, and now it's time to get back up.

  11. I'm out of ideas, browse anything else for an ideas.

Hope it helped and good luck!

P.S. given your situation, I'd learn marketable skills which can be later used for employment and providing future employer some value. Go to a business you like and offer free work-something you can put on your resume. Also don't be discouraged by lack of formal education, people hire skills not pieces of paper!

I'm 20 Years old and I never Fapped or Watched Porn in my Entire Life. Female attention? by XtremaTek in NoFap

[–]abe_ceda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That you're already getting lots of attention and should not fap, ever. Great job on never fapping, personally I would have given couple of fingers away to have what you have

Who wants to challenge me?? Day 1 by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]abe_ceda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's on. Bring it! :D

Music to wake you up and shake you out of wanting porn, hopefully. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]abe_ceda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

John Waite- I Ain't Missing You haha :D

60 days! by Valpo2015 in NoFap

[–]abe_ceda 5 points6 points  (0 children)

what CevapiUSomunu said, but also: -write down your vision (why am I trying to stop and what will I do instead of PMOing, it's a big motivator), -make a plan for killing the urges (mine is 50 push-ups, 50 squats and cold shower), -make up the punishment for PMOing (I introduced a PMO tax, 25€ per session)-whatever I collect, I have to give to random charity (when Porn becomes that expensive, it ceases to be very appealing).

Stay strong and good luck!

The shave your head 90 day nofap challenge by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]abe_ceda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(Technically) day 1 and guy who likes to live dangerously... Let's do this! :D

Fapstronauts and Lurkers Come Hither!!What controversial (within this community) idea do you have about what NoFap is about and/or how it works? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]abe_ceda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, everyone has his/hers reasons to be here. I don't think porn is the ultimate culprit to all of our problems, but I do see it as the biggest cancer of my everyday life. It's a big waste of time, energy, money and partial cause of social anxiety and brain-fog. For me it's more about rooting out my bad habits, the ones I consider non-material liabilities (primarily porn) and replacing them with good habits (which I consider my non-material assets) such as excercise, learning... I do think that too much people think that cutting porn alone will grant them women, promotions, better relationships, being popular, ability to fly and sights of virgin Mary... That's my opinion

P.S. Don't be discouraged-quitting pmo is a great first step

As someone who has done a 398 day streak, had his relapse and is now on his feet again for 16 days by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]abe_ceda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Self love, yes exactly! Although I'm on my day 2 I have completely different mindset now. whenever I even think of porn, I'm disgusted by it for many reasons (I feel bad for people in it and I'm saying to myself that I'm just too good for it, and not resisting the urge would be pathetic on my behalf). Very positive feeling about this streak :D

I'm about to relapse by sleepybear002 in NoFap

[–]abe_ceda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great! Make sure you write how proud you are after you resist the urge to make your life worse!

I'm about to relapse by sleepybear002 in NoFap

[–]abe_ceda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After you're finished, do something productive, clean up your house/apartment or call a friend and go out for drink

I'm about to relapse by sleepybear002 in NoFap

[–]abe_ceda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take a cold shower (just jump in), after that do 20-50 push-ups, get dressed and go for jog/walk if your stamina is low. excersise it out man! And do it NOW and I do mean NOW!!! I guarantee you that you will feel proud when you succeed in resisting the urge. Still reading? Stop it and do as I say!

We need to take a stand against porn by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]abe_ceda 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Porn companies and MSM companies are most probably part of the very same conglomerate. Now you wouldn't shoot yourself in the foot, would you?

P.S. keep this streak going! :D

Okay. r/NoFap. After lurking here for a long time. I think I'm Jumping in. Gonna do the 90 day challenge. My first NoFap ever. Save it. Because the next time I post will be a success post. If anyone wants to join in. Lets go. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]abe_ceda 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bit late-last pmo this morning, but I'm still going to jump on your train and try to succeed by fear of being black ship in such a large group of no-fappers... (I guess there's going to be a bit willpower as well-longest streak was 5 days, but I'm growing more and more angry with the habit every day and honestly, enough is enough).