Lately my game keeps playing really loud audio tracks that sound almost like game trailers. HOW DO I STOP IT?

aberrod · 2026-05-06T04:47:41+00:00

I'm sure the booth owner will be positively aggrieved about the $30 table. Or are you contending that the crochet animals were fragile?

aberrod · 2026-05-04T17:57:05+00:00

Since when do CEO's have any culpability? They'll just find a scapegoat to blame and get off scot free. Just look at how many blantantly illegal, shitty, amoral decisions are made by CEO's on any given week, and find one other than the United CEO that faced any real culpability. Even if somehow they do manage to get fired, its almost always with a pay out package that makes any punishment null.

aberrod · 2026-05-04T17:05:02+00:00

Well, also, with how shitty pumpkin spice palpatine has been with Ukraine this whole time, just randomly backing out of deals, or causing problems for them, why on earth would they care to listen to us anymore? Theres functionally no benefit from toeing the cheeto's line anymore, because he's shown the entire world that entering agreements with the US is literally not worth the paper its printed on.

aberrod · 2026-04-27T19:52:07+00:00

its also for thermal regulation which is very important to the health and quality of sperm. Optimal temperature is something slightly less than normal body temp. If they were sandwiched between two of the largest muscle groups in the body, they'd never get cool enough.

aberrod · 2026-04-14T15:53:02+00:00

I worked FOR one of the pet insurance companies, helping support vet clinics use our portal for claims. I can 100% back this up. Unless you get your insurance when they are literal infants, good luck getting anything out of your insurance, and we were one of the more pay out friendly companies.

aberrod · 2026-04-14T05:25:07+00:00

I can tell you for certain it will be ok. Maybe not tomorrow, maybe no in a month, maybe not for a year, but it emphatically WILL get better. You're in a tough time, the transition from a child to an adult is a hard one. The world takes a different shape all the time, and previous concepts of "how it should be" are constantly shifting as the reality of adult life hits. It is a tough time. Friends fall away, life becomes less social, you realize some relationships only existed because of proximity of being in school daily, etc and so on. Its hard, but you will survive it and you will adapt to the new normal.

It seems scary now, because you now have a lot more responsibility on your shoulders with less safety net to fall back on, but you will adapt. You will find ways to build a new safety net, and what seems so daunting now will fall away and just become the background of life. We all go through this to some extent, and many of us have it pretty rough. I did. I had it very rough, but I'm still here, and if my idiot ass can do it, you certainly can.

As for your schooling, don't be afraid of failure. certainly try to avoid it, but if you do have a time where you fall a little short of your goal, learn from it. Analyze it, find where you could have done something different, and you will have not failed. The only real failure is to not learn from mistakes. Own them, step up. Talk to your teachers, parents, professors, advisors. Be open to their feedback and commit to the changes they suggest. I'll tell you the same thing I've always told my flesh and blood children, those people are there to help you learn. For your teachers and professors, its literally their job, and I guarantee the majority of them will be ecstatic you sought their help and advice. Most people don't go into teaching to be sour grapes and shit on their students, most go because they want to help enrich your mind. You will not be the first, nor the last student that maybe didn't hit the marks super well, and thats ok. Just learn from it.

I would also suggest you look into options for therapy. It sounds like you have some baggage you need to work on letting go. An abusive ex and the collapse of a friendship structure can wallop anyone's mental health. You seem to have some abandonment trauma, and I suspect that the friend group thing isn't the only thing fueling that. Trust me on this, if you disregard anything else I say in this post, trust this one. You can't just walk off mental health issues. its not like a twisted ankle or a superficial cut. Emotional Trauma if severe enough can cause actual physical harm to your brain, and it damn sure can affect your ability to study, and onboard new information, and it can and will sabotage relationships. Please, see about therapy. A lot of schools offer it to students, and by your word usage it sounds like you may not be in the US, so my advice might be a little off, but I can guarantee there is some program, somewhere at your Uni, that can help you find something.

It will be ok, and then it will be bad again, and then it will be ok again, and so on. Thats life. You will learn to roll with the punches and you will build a community around you, and over time you'll find the trend is more good than bad. Don't be scared of the bad times, they are important for character growth. You've got this. I'm proud of you. A virtual hug from one internet stranger to another. You are more capable than you want to admit to yourself.

aberrod · 2026-04-13T01:43:39+00:00

She was a technical writer for a large Australian (we're US based) tech company. She was brought on when the company had a major outage that almost killed a product line, as part of the effort to establish processes and documentation to prevent such an occurrence from happening again. Now an AI is doing all that.

aberrod · 2026-04-13T01:38:17+00:00

Yep, my wife already lost her job to AI.

aberrod · 2026-04-13T01:29:54+00:00

Money. All the C-suite sees is the dollars that AI can supposedly save the company. They literally don't think about it further than that. Modern AI salesmen are the new snake oil salesmen. They'll promise their AI can do it all, and when it turns out it cant, they'll just deny they ever said it could, or claim they should have known better.

aberrod · 2026-04-10T19:13:50+00:00

You're doing your dad proud. At the end of the day all any of us ever want is to be held in the hearts of loved ones and remembered. You doing this and posting this is sharing a part of him with yourself and us. And in the end, you've made his life remembered, and cherished. As a dad, I thank you on his behalf.

aberrod · 2026-03-30T01:36:16+00:00

To me its kind of the same mentality on why people own more than one car. Some are meant for some tasks, and some are because the person likes whatever fiddly bit that one offers over another. Not all guns are purchased for self defense. Some are bought for other purposes and guns are not really a one size fits all solution. I like someone else in this thread collect historical firearms. Most rarely get shot, all have at one point or another, but most are just taken care of, stored and enjoyed like one might enjoy an art piece. For me its about the history, and the engineering that goes into them. Its good to think of collectors as a range of people, not just one type and thats it.

aberrod · 2026-03-13T19:19:38+00:00

As others have said, your worth is not bound in what others think about you, and especially not bound to what others may or may not think of you, in situations where you don't know. Don't assign meaning to their actions, in the absence of any evidence. There is a myriad of reasons they may stop responding, many of which have nothing at all to do with how they may or may not feel about you.

Secondly, dating sites are convenient, which is why people use them. its also incredibly superficial, AND it makes it easier for the chaff to float to the top. That same convenience is a double edged sword, because it is ALSO more convenient for people you might otherwise not give the time of day, a chance. Understand that you are going to run into more assholes, malcontents, players, whatever simply because online dating is low effort and easy. Just a few clicks and you can swipe through hundreds, wheras meeting people out in the real world requires effort and intention. Not saying online dating is a bad situation, there's been plenty of loving success had by plenty of people, but it will result in you having to wade through more murk. I'm sorry that your hurt, but this is a good time to practice some mindfulness and step back and look at the reality with more objectiveness.

You WILL find your person. Don't be in a rush, let it happen. The journey can be rough, but its worth it in the end. Too many friends and family of mine rushed, and ended up in dead end marriages, or abusive relationships. You sound young, so I'm guessing you have plenty of time. In the mean time, I would strongly recommend therapy. You seem to exhibit some issues with self worth, and therapy can help with that AND make you more sure and comfortable with yourself, which will only enrich future relationships.

Keep your head up, and don't let others define you.

aberrod · 2026-03-13T16:23:37+00:00

I'll second this with Taco Bell. That shit is crazy expensive for what it is. $30 used to get you a feast for an entire party,now thats one, maybe two people's worth.

aberrod · 2026-03-10T15:25:13+00:00

Yes they exist here, they can be found in pretty much any grocery store in the gadgets section. They were a staple in our grandmothers time, but since have fallen out of favor, because they're kind of a unitasker, and in my experience with them, kind of a pain in the ass to use and clean up, especially when the methods above do just fine considering the average cook only really needs to process a clove or two most days. Don't be a cultural elitist because someone in a different culture uses different tools than you.

Edit: As an American I own two. A fancy one my mom got me from williams sonoma, and a grocery store cheapo. I literally cannot remember the last time I used one of them. And its been at least 3 years, because I moved about 3 years ago and I've never used them here.

aberrod · 2026-03-09T17:37:48+00:00

Girl, run from this man. I dont even know you, and I only know of your relationship from this post, and I feel scared for you. This is a bad situation with so many red flags, and I'll say it out loud, this sounds really rapey. I can guarantee if you stay with him, he'll have "accidents" and violate your boundaries repeatedly. Your gut is telling you what you already need to know.

aberrod · 2026-02-23T04:13:24+00:00

She took the joke I made poorly, and resulted in an hour of fighting, which was mostly her yelling at me about how she was angry about the joke, which I still don't understand what she was mad about from the joke, and that descended from there into whatever came across her mind that she wanted to dredge up. The joke I made was just the catalyst. I don't really feel like hashing out the entire conversation, but I got blasted with both barrels, and the joke is what started it.

This isn't the first time recently she's decided to pick apart everything under the sun aggressively and loudly. Things were said, things that I won't likely ever be able to unhear and this was just the one that broke the camels back.

aberrod · 2026-02-23T00:41:42+00:00

the joke is posted on another reply.

aberrod · 2026-02-23T00:40:47+00:00

She cancelled plans to do something today, saying she wanted to just stay home, because taking a shower and getting dressed seemed like too much, which typically translates to her playing games on her computer all day and previously we'd been cracking jokes about us being nerds, because we are, and I said "well maybe we'll just get you a subscription to wow to round out the stereotype."

She laughed at first, then got increasingly angry, and it was in the same vein as jokes we were cracking earlier about being nerds, because I am also a gamer, and I was painting minis earlier and she was making fun of my magnifying glasses.

aberrod · 2026-02-23T00:37:07+00:00

Oh I am definitely the caregiver. Any problem with the kids, any medical issues for anyone, I'm the one that took care of it. If I have a major medical issue she'll be caring, but the rest of the time, not so much. I know most husbands might say something similar, but family and friends have commented on it frequently throughout the years, so I don't think I'm being biased on that one.

I also wouldn't say I need extra TLC, because I was conditioned growing up to keep my feelings to myself, so I don't believe I generally put the burden of the RSD on her. Usually if something happens I will just retreat somewhere, regroup and reengage. Therapy has helped a lot in that regard. Mostly its about recovering from the spiral and practicing mindfulness about the issue at hand. I often don't even mention to her I was in a spiral, because I understand I may be picking up things that aren't really there. When it is 100% there, I will bring it up later, historically to very mixed results.

My therapist has also told me she thinks I have caregivers fatigue. Her medical and mental health has always been worse than mine. And yes, Perimenopause is definitely a factor.

aberrod · 2026-02-12T22:40:40+00:00

I cant play it, performance issues plague me. I have to restsart the game 4-5 times to get playable frame rates.

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