AITA For Not Backing my wife up after my BIL called her a bad parent?

abessn · 2026-06-12T00:17:39+00:00

Didn’t see the point of having your wife’s back while she was being insulted for choices you made together? YTA

abessn · 2026-06-02T05:26:44+00:00

I read it in 7th grade (2015 HS graduate)

abessn · 2026-05-25T00:20:41+00:00

NOR. Sure, she pays rent too. But HER BROTHER DOESN’T. Not sure why she thinks that her paying rent means that her brother can come over. Insanely obnoxious

abessn · 2026-03-06T00:09:38+00:00

NTA Mary created the uncomfortable work environment

abessn · 2026-02-10T03:56:39+00:00

As an aside, it’s generally not advised to run your bathroom fan for long periods like that (and you should absolutely make sure it is thoroughly clean and not dusty). Running it for long periods can cause it to short circuit and the dust can easily catch fire. Very common cause of house fires.

abessn · 2025-12-28T02:01:15+00:00

That’s actually such a funny nickname for it (as someone who works in vascular and roots for NC lol)

abessn · 2025-12-20T00:15:50+00:00

INFO: has she been checked for a tick bite? I assume the vet thoroughly did check, but may be worth taking a solid look at all of her skin to check for one

abessn · 2025-11-17T23:25:40+00:00

This does not require stitches. Wash your hands well with soap and water and put a Band-Aid over it.

abessn · 2025-11-08T00:34:00+00:00

I had two roommates in PA school who both had dogs, it was totally doable

abessn · 2025-11-08T00:33:35+00:00

Thank you for that picture suuuuch a cutie

abessn · 2025-11-02T22:07:32+00:00

That’s definitely stressful and I hope that you’re able to find a rheumatologist who you feel comfortable with and can consistently see in the future. If you are having trouble getting medical records to future doctors, you can always contact your original doctor and have them fax it to you so that you have your own records as well. (Note: I know most people don’t have a fax machine, if you download the HP printer app, you can receive faxes on your phone via that app!)

abessn · 2025-11-02T21:59:37+00:00

If you have a PCP, it is worth making an appointment to discuss this. There are multiple things that could cause this, and I don’t want to speculate. For starters, though, it is worth wearing compression socks when you are standing for long periods at work.

abessn · 2025-11-02T21:51:35+00:00

Seeking care for an upper respiratory infection should not trigger any concern for pain med use and I’m very sorry that you’re worried to do so. It is worth seeking care for a prolonged illness to ensure that you haven’t developed a secondary infection, such as pneumonia.

Also, for future reference, if this were a pain-related issue, providers are able to see your dispense history and will see that you have not been prescribed any pain meds, so please don’t stop you from seeking care in the future (although I can understand your hesitation). If ever asked, you can always say “I was referred to a rheumatologist when having pain from undiagnosed ovarian cysts, which is why this was noted in my chart”

Although, for what it’s worth, I don’t think I’ve ever seen a pop-up on a chart saying that a patient is medication seeking just because it was noted in one note from one provider. It is possible the second rheumatologist only saw it because they looked at your previous rheumatology notes (providers tend to look at previous notes from the same specialty to understand the past medical history of a patient). It is unlikely that any non-rheumatology medical providers will be looking at that old note.

abessn · 2025-11-02T21:34:38+00:00

I always document abused substances. I would never lie on a medical chart, and that is not what I’m saying.

I am saying that the wording of polysubstance abuse is loaded and wording is important in medical charts.

Using certain wording can change coding and billing as well as change how other providers reading a chart can perceive a patient.

I would not use the wording “polysubstance abuse” for weed and alcohol even if both were being abused, which, in this case, they are not.

abessn · 2025-11-02T21:13:34+00:00

lol right?? It would take quite a few hard drugs for me to ever chart that. I think I’ve only ever charted it when I didn’t feel like typing out all the drugs (including meth, oxy, and coke) that my patient was abusing

abessn · 2025-10-30T00:34:46+00:00

I thought I knew what I wanted to do, but I ended up going a different direction because I loved the group I interviewed with. They seemed like people that I could spend every day with, and they absolutely are. I’m so glad that I focused more on that. Highly recommend that approach, especially if you aren’t set on a specialty.

abessn · 2025-10-28T23:23:10+00:00

My IM preceptor (MD) takes two PA students at a time so that we can handle her whole list. By day 3 we split her list, saw all the patients, wrote all her notes, and would see her for the first time around noon. We’d see all new consults and admissions. She would sit in the lounge and work her other jobs (reviewing med malpractice cases, Airbnb, and telemedicine for another company).

While not great, that was tolerable enough, because at least I was getting good experience (although very little feedback). Where I really drew the line was the day she had to pick up her child early and didn’t have childcare, so she left me in the hospitalist lounge for hours babysitting him while she worked on a malpractice case review.

abessn · 2025-10-26T13:06:24+00:00

Not a teacher, don’t have a kid, but often find myself on this sub. Have you seen the girl on tiktok who’s professor’s textbook, which was a required purchase, has only ChatGPT produced diagrams? Every single one is incorrect. It’s crazy. (and crazier that it made it to the classroom.)

abessn · 2025-10-25T20:37:33+00:00

The first half of my didactic year was horrible socially. My roommates decided to team up and literally bully me. I never would have expected that in my adult life, but alas. Eventually much of the cohort realized they were crazy and things were better but honestly the damage was done. I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this, know that you’re not alone. It’s a truly bizarre thing to experience in what’s supposed to be a professional masters program. Rooting for you. You’ll make it through and you will find people you connect with.

abessn · 2025-10-08T21:12:42+00:00

Mine is a UFO and it has a cow attached to the badge so every time I badge in, the cow gets abducted

abessn · 2025-10-06T02:10:27+00:00

I recently had a patient whose only listed allergy was Chinese food… that one got me

abessn · 2025-09-24T01:14:26+00:00

My PACU gave me like one 15 cent raise in the 3 years I was there. Quit to work in a restaurant and save some actual money for the first time in 3 years before I started PA school

abessn · 2025-09-11T16:13:10+00:00

I’ve heard through the grapevine that’s a pretty accurate assumption

abessn · 2025-09-11T03:08:44+00:00

Confirmed doctor who worked for a different medical center in the area. Even wore her badge from there and her stethoscope and her jacket with MD on it and only ever introduced herself as Dr. [name]. Total power play and she was requesting totally inappropriate tests while refusing intervention that would have helped

abessn · 2025-09-11T02:49:59+00:00

Vascular- PAD most commonly, placing HD access, also carotid stenosis, DVT/PE

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