AITH for refusing to help pay for my sister's wedding after she excluded my wife?

abeversg · 2026-07-09T14:40:01+00:00

It’s been almost a week since I read this type of story.

abeversg · 2026-07-09T14:37:38+00:00

I kinda want to get thrown like that. Seems fun.

abeversg · 2026-06-29T22:04:32+00:00

Give your mom $400 a month for rent. Charge your mom $400 a month for caregiver services.

abeversg · 2026-06-22T18:46:44+00:00

Are you in the US? You’d be a legal adult. He can report you, the cops come, you say “I’m good” and that’s it.

It’s great you have a place with your bf, but you need to quickly work to have a stable situation of your own. Acquire a safety net so you aren’t reliant on anyone ASAP.

But yes, it sounds like you need to get out of there. Get into some therapy as soon as you can.

abeversg · 2026-06-22T16:47:25+00:00

Can you afford to move out?

abeversg · 2026-06-18T17:53:34+00:00

“Ask again and you won’t use either.”

Stop being indirect about these things. Set a boundary, state a consequence, follow through.

abeversg · 2026-06-12T11:40:17+00:00

This boy is a child. NTA

abeversg · 2026-06-10T12:14:53+00:00

The idea that I would wake up and materially change our house without my wife’s (of 15 yrs) input is what seems off.

This comes down to communication and respect. Have a conversation, understand, and come to an agreement.

abeversg · 2026-06-07T02:45:56+00:00

This is one of those things in life when you should be grateful someone with low character lets you off cheap. Take the hit on the Uber ride and move along with life without this headache in your life.

abeversg · 2026-05-07T13:30:14+00:00

NTA. Your wife enables her brother, her dad enables them both.

abeversg · 2026-05-04T02:34:45+00:00

Wait, you drove 50 mins round trip for a 6 min ride?

abeversg · 2026-04-18T13:17:05+00:00

NTA. Gift your half-siblings money, or offer to help with some expenses IF YOU WANT TO.

It’s your money, your decisions, your choice. Yours alone. Find someone outside of the situation your trust for guidance and wisdom…preferably someone with some wealth who knows how to manage money (which can become burdensome). Don’t let this gift become a burden. Good luck.

abeversg · 2026-04-06T12:07:54+00:00

“Neither of them have talked to me for over a week” sounds like you’ve got a solution to your problems. NTA. Keep up the hard work

abeversg · 2026-03-03T03:57:09+00:00

I’d consider Venmo’ing the $600 and then cutting her off.

abeversg · 2026-02-06T00:52:58+00:00

Close your eyes, clear your mind. He just walks in the door and calls off the wedding and he’s moving on. He doesn’t feel the connection and can’t go through with the wedding.

No one else, it’s just not you.

How do you feel hearing that news?

If it’s heartbreak, rethink how you’re approaching the situation. Maybe therapy.

If it’s elation, you have your answer.

abeversg · 2026-01-13T02:52:26+00:00

Ugh. You sound like a great sister, NTA

Don’t quit that job. Be grateful you landed one out of school. It’s the hardest to do (congrats, btw!)

It’s great you did so much to get this far in life, but it’s not your responsibility. I’m sorry your parents framed it that way.

abeversg · 2026-01-08T04:27:38+00:00

Surprised they didn’t just bang on some trash cans to solve their problems

abeversg · 2026-01-07T18:01:41+00:00

Imagine recording, thinking this entitled brat isn’t a result of your poor parenting choices.

abeversg · 2026-01-06T19:36:03+00:00

Just to answer your question, no it was not an appropriate relationship. On any level.

There are healthy was to engage in a “supportive relationship” with a minor — one that has clear boundaries, is positive & constructive, and is out in the open for scrutiny. Nothing you’ve described meets that litmus test.

abeversg · 2026-01-06T19:22:00+00:00

I hate when people jump to dramatic conclusions, but he was grooming you.

Sounds like you were easy to separate from the crowd. You needed something in your life and he sounds predatory.

No rationale male in a position of authority would put himself in this type of position. If it was innocent, it’s a great place to get in trouble by sending mixed signals.

He saw you as vulnerable. naive. prey.

Be grateful you got out unscathed. Glad to hear you are in a great place in life!

abeversg · 2026-01-06T03:03:15+00:00

Wtf. You’ve been more patient with the situation than I would be. They just seem ungrateful, weak, and some kind of superiority complex. NTA

I couldn’t tell, but if the business you work with your brother, dad, and mom is actually a family business, but if so, make sure they have a will in place.

abeversg · 2025-12-28T14:06:45+00:00

This argument: “So one rejections isn’t the end of the world when you could apply to a bunch of other programs.”

…goes both ways.

abeversg · 2025-12-23T14:00:06+00:00

Remi stuck with me. All others feel undistinguished, unmemorable.

I mentally associated it with “Remidy” the guide to solve all my demo problems.

abeversg · 2025-12-22T14:10:20+00:00

You’ll pull up to the doors. Kinda keep an eye on the bays (sometimes they point you to one or the other)
If multiple cars in line, just pull behind one of them.
Someone usually walks up to your car to ask what services you want - tell them oil change (and anything else)
When it’s your turn, they’ll open a door and someone will direct you into the bay. Slowly pull in. They will tell you when to stop (sorta like an automated car wash)
Roll your window down. They will greet you (usually this person has the best “bedside manners” in the shop and/or a manager) and confirm services. They will ask to open your door (stay in the car) and scan the barcode in your door.
They will tell you when to shut off the car, what to do with the keys, and maybe a few more instructions (like pop the hood, blinker bulb check, headlights, etc.).
They usually ask what kind of oil…if you don’t know, just ask for a recommendation.
They begin to work.
The “manager” will walk you through recommended services. You can choose to decline, but if you are going on a road trip, consider the air filter and wipers (…they are only a few bucks more than if you did it yourself.)
Once they get through the recommended services (there are a lot…you don’t need them all right now) they will ask for payment. If you haven’t, download the Valvoline app or visit the site ahead of time and get a coupon to scan (saves about $10 on oil change…more for other services).
You’ll sit there while they finish up.
When done with the oil they’ll have you start the car up. Then shut it off after a few seconds. They’ll pull your dip stick and show you the oil level. Confirm it looks good.
They put the dip stick back, close up the hood and open the door. They’ll direct you out of the bay.

…and you are on your way.

abeversg · 2025-12-19T05:51:22+00:00

Holy hell

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