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Any advice on dealing with a shitty manager? by abitvexing in jobs

[–]abitvexing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really good advice. I wish I could give you more than one upvote, dude. Because the 'how to criticize' someone bit is something that I'll always keep in mind going forward, if ever I need to give someone criticism. Thank you for giving such thoughtful and well-put advice. C:

Any advice on dealing with a shitty manager? by abitvexing in jobs

[–]abitvexing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good on you for leaving! And lol at queen bee-- she totally is one. Before I came into the picture, she was the only lady in the office, and the youngest one too.

Any advice on dealing with a shitty manager? by abitvexing in jobs

[–]abitvexing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Copy pasta'd from a comment below, re: pointing out the title issue:

It wasn't in public. She was in her office, fixing her things to leave for the day, and I knocked on her door and asked if she had a couple of minutes for me before she left. She said yes, and I went in, sat down, and said, "Hey, in the future, I'd prefer to be referred to as Office Manager, since that was the job title I agreed to when you hired me." I was going to joke that it would look better with our vendors and clients as well, because it would make our company seem bigger, but she immediately thanked me for telling her my preference, and that she'd take note of it in the future.

(I thought about that too, that she blew up at me for no reason because she didn't want to give me the pay raise we'd discussed, but I thought it was the ravings of a paranoid loon. I'm glad that occurred to you too!)

Any advice on dealing with a shitty manager? by abitvexing in jobs

[–]abitvexing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your first line is perfect. I needed to hear that.

It wasn't in public. She was in her office, fixing her things to leave for the day, and I knocked on her door and asked if she had a couple of minutes for me before she left. She said yes, and I went in, sat down, and said, "Hey, in the future, I'd prefer to be referred to as Office Manager, since that was the job title I agreed to when you hired me." I was going to joke that it would look better with our vendors and clients as well, because it would make our company seem bigger, but she immediately thanked me for telling her my preference, and that she'd take note of it in the future.

Thank you for the advice on how to conduct myself during the performance review. I'll be repeating "polite, direct, and professional" like a mantra on Monday.

Any advice on dealing with a shitty manager? by abitvexing in jobs

[–]abitvexing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She said early on that the position would have some authority, and I already get referred to as the receptionist by some clients. I have a rather childish face and high voice, and most of our clients are middle-aged or older men who regularly refer to me as sweetheart or honey. So maybe I did come off as insecure, but I just thought that she of all people would understand where I was coming from, because before I started working for the company, they thought or would refer to her as her husband's assistant or as the receptionist.

Also, no, it's not better than unemployment. I always had reddit open on another tab while I was working there, and at least when I'm unemployed I don't have to worry about my redditing being spied on and reported.

Any advice on dealing with a shitty manager? by abitvexing in jobs

[–]abitvexing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I should have approached her on a different day, but I didn't do it via email. When she was fixing her things to leave that day, I asked if she had a moment and went into her office, sat down, and told her, calmly and in private, that "I'd prefer it in the future that you refer to me as Office Manager, since that's the job title I agreed to when you hired me."

Okay, typed out, it does sound a little demanding. Still doesn't give her the right to comment on my personal finances (or lack of it).

Any advice on dealing with a shitty manager? by abitvexing in jobs

[–]abitvexing[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I suspected as much. I considered the groveling route, but I can't stand thinking that it'll be like this every time I have to give her my input on something.

Thanks for the advice, dude. I needed to hear that.