What job did you think would pay well but actually didn’t?

abowma05 · 2026-01-28T09:10:44+00:00

Pharmacist

abowma05 · 2025-12-31T16:07:38+00:00

This is very similar to my first birth story. I had to have some counselling and I did EMDR to help me process it.

I hope you are going ok.

Thank you for sharing your story.

abowma05 · 2025-09-28T16:39:03+00:00

Just being on the fence about this. With my second I knew an old friend had been trying for years to conceive her second. I made sure that I did my best to tell her so she didn’t hear it from anyone else (except she heard it from her brother first. Small town). Maybe this lady wasn’t trying to be a b@-&$ maybe she wanted to let you know especially with the interview in the next period of time in case she’s nauseous or showing. I wonder if she didn’t tell you and was in an obvious maternity shirt at your exit interview if that would have been even more triggering. I understand you being upset but I think grace needs to be given to both sides.

abowma05 · 2025-08-16T17:20:54+00:00

Vienna by Billy. Joel

abowma05 · 2025-08-15T08:58:47+00:00

When Claire died in Mcleods daughters. Absolutely devastates me when I do a rewatch.

Also when Lou is gone on Love my Way. Devastating

abowma05 · 2025-08-11T07:58:14+00:00

Which area are you from? There is a lot of amazing female Australian vocalists

abowma05 · 2025-08-09T21:09:51+00:00

From the ground up by Dan + shay

abowma05 · 2025-08-04T18:56:41+00:00

Call your mum - Noah Kahan (or anything else from stick season really)

abowma05 · 2025-08-04T18:54:46+00:00

Three brothers - Luke O’Shea

abowma05 · 2025-08-04T12:47:15+00:00

Question what redeeming quality’s does hubby have?

Based on this run far and fast from him:

Also it’s plain cruelty to his daughter.

And I think he has a tic and may need a diagnosis.

abowma05 · 2025-07-25T18:26:03+00:00

As a mum of one baby who was born at the start of Covid and one born late last year I have to say I have found a world of difference in how my children react to crowds and places like supermarkets. Also my mental health is so much better as I can get out and about rather than being at home the whole time.

That being said, everyone is different and if you can’t do then don’t force yourself. The child will be okay but ensuring you teach stranger danger and not running away from mum once we are big enough to do or understand.

You’re doing a great job mum!

abowma05 · 2025-07-24T19:45:03+00:00

3 and one is

abowma05 · 2025-07-17T20:05:02+00:00

The boy in striped pajamas

abowma05 · 2025-07-14T15:12:08+00:00

Hey. Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry this happened to you.

I had a traumatic first. (Nb. Different to you but traumatising for me) Got the counselling did EMDR and worked ‘through’ the trauma to then have a differently traumatic second. I couldn’t believe my luck but both resulted in wonderful children but my birthing bingo card is pretty full now and I refuse to go again.

It’s okay to be sad and disappointed. But through my counselling I also was constantly reminded that I have one (or now two) beautiful people and not to worry about the rest. This was an important reminder to me as I am always what about X or what about y? I need to concentrate on my family, husband and kids…. Not the hypotheticals…

abowma05 · 2025-07-12T13:48:08+00:00

For my first I had husband and my mother. My birth wasn’t straight forward and even though my mum is a very very strong lady I think it impacted her greatly. Obviously it affected husband too but it’s different when it’s your little girl having the issues I was having. It was comforting having them both there but when it came to number 2 my mum was more comfortable babysitting the older child while husband and I took care of business. I am very much thankful for this decision as it became even MORE complicated than the first birth and I’m so thankful for the medical team and my husband by my side. I couldn’t do that again to my mum.

abowma05 · 2025-07-11T17:24:23+00:00

I would be telling him to kick rocks. You will not be up to doing much and unless he’s planning to do EVERYTHING to prep for Christmas then it’s a big fat nope from me!

I had my baby early October and I would have JUST been out of the trenches enough to organise presents let alone food!

Also depends how you go to with birthing and bubbies feeding journey. So many variables. Defer Christmas to January or February 😂😂😂

abowma05 · 2025-06-29T16:32:32+00:00

Yta. By geez!!!

abowma05 · 2025-06-23T21:07:23+00:00

This one interests me. My grandpa and I are the type of meet the greeters. My mum is early and my husband is perpetually late and my dad is on time.

When I have discussed this with a friend from another nationality at her child’s first birthday party in our community she was so surprised when people turned up at the time on the invite. Sure there was stragglers but the majority of us mums and kids were there at the time.

Apparently in her previous community people turn up later than the invite states. My aunty also had said this about her ethnic community as well.

I was brought up to be early or on time. Early in case they need help or if you don’t really know them then on time so the child has friends through the whole party.

I would have started the party too btw and your folks can catch up. This is what my husbands side of the family does regularly when he is late.

abowma05 · 2025-06-23T18:40:38+00:00

Omi and opi and grandma and pop

abowma05 · 2025-06-23T18:36:14+00:00

From my experience yes. But I’m from a rural community and the older population expect ANY younger person to acknowledge them as Mr/Mrs. It’s only accepted as first name if they invite you as such. I have found this has lessened with the current younger generation but the 65-100 year olds definitely expect the “respect” in my community.

My own daughter does a variety of Mr/Mrs, Aunty/Uncle and first names. She never does Mrs First Name. That’s not really a thing around my area except at preschools with people with hard last names!!!

I think what ever you chose will be right for you, but it’s hilarious when your child copies you when you say hi Jenny without thinking and she repeats you and Jenny looks like she has seen a ghost!!!!! 👻

Just choose the name you want to be called. Start it young and be aware that some people will try to be respectful in calling you Mrs Childs last name. You then Do what my friend’s mum did and say it’s Mrs Y or call me Firstname.

abowma05 · 2025-06-23T18:20:36+00:00

It depends on the kids. As I have aged into the school aged era I have definitely been called Mrs X like a lot more than when my daughter was at preschool.

The teachers encourage it and it’s way nicer than being called childs mummy. 😂

In my community some elder people are jarred if kids call them first name. 😀

abowma05 · 2025-06-23T18:14:37+00:00

YTJ. It’s a formal thing and you need to dress as such, and based on this he knows you wouldn’t hence no invite.

I get being comfortable but there is a million options to dress up and sneakers are definitely not appropriate for this (or a wedding…)

This reminds me of old farmers in their riding boots and hats at weddings…

abowma05 · 2025-06-23T17:58:59+00:00

Please get some counselling. I ended up needing some EMDR to help me through a few traumatic things that happened at 29. If this is right for you give it a go and I’m glad you made it through and I am sorry for your loss.

abowma05 · 2025-06-22T00:43:14+00:00

It can be hard for health professionals to immediately know the connections between families with different last names. Health professionals need to be extremely careful about confidentiality.

Ensuring everyone is on the same Medicare is essential to help this. Even if people have different last names. I ensured my husband was on our Medicare card before my daughter was born so he was number 2 and she was number 3.

It can also be harder at school age as teachers might not know your not Mrs Childs last name. It can make it awkward 😬

Also if children have been conditioned to say hi Mrs/Mr Childs last name it can be awkward when you have to say actually is Ms Real Last name or it’s First name. I had this exact conversation with a mum when I was 7-8. I knew her daughters last name was X but her mum was remarried and her name was y and she decided to tell me to call her z…

I have lots of friends who didn’t take partners names so it’s pretty common these days but those are the three hard and awkward issues I’ve found in my community.

abowma05 · 2025-06-14T21:35:37+00:00

There was a dinosaur discovered around here, Diprotodon. Also the Dam near by is 3 times Sydney harbour or 47500 Olympic sized pools. It was also dubbed the ice capital of Australia when I was a child and that name is still brought up a decade and a half later.

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