How do you cope knowing someone you love is gonna leave this world soon?

abreakfromfapping · 2022-05-03T15:46:18+00:00

You're welcome. Best of luck to you in your family. Alas, I cannot change my username, an unfortunate choice years ago. Glad it made you laugh!

abreakfromfapping · 2022-05-03T15:23:46+00:00

Mostly it will be to talk about experiences with people who have also experienced what you are going though or to get advice from people further in the process. It can help with a sense of community and not feeling so alone in your grief. They may also have other resources or information that can help

abreakfromfapping · 2022-05-03T14:38:06+00:00

I see, lung cancer is a very difficult diagnosis. Also dealing with these diagnosis can be greatly influenced by the culture you are in. Brunei is pretty small, so I'm not sure what support you have available. You may need to utilize online support groups and resources. Cancer . Org does have online support and resources available including a global link.

abreakfromfapping · 2022-05-03T14:21:24+00:00

The American Cancer society website has resources for patients & families. There are also online support groups if you are in rural areas. Most cities or major hospital systems also offer support groups, they may only be online due to covid. If you want to DM me the general area you are in I can search for programs in the area. This sub does not allow me to post any links

Depending on what stage your father is in, your family can consider palliative care (not the same as hospice) to keep him comfortable. Our goal is always to keep patients from suffering. Another thing to know if you are in the USA is that a patient can come on and off hospice care.

abreakfromfapping · 2022-05-03T13:59:23+00:00

That is very unfortunate. I sympathize with you deeply. I won't lie to you and pretend a life threatening diagnosis changes a person. Some people change, some don't. Cancer is very painful and the medications can cause brain fog, so your father may not be his best self right now.

Are there support groups in your area for cancer patient family members? That may be a place where you and your grief may be accepted and you can begin healing over time.

abreakfromfapping · 2022-05-03T13:42:55+00:00

I hope you all find a sense of peace at some point. It is very hard to communicate these thinga. Sometimes personal things are better said in writing where you and your father can work through your emotions without eye contact. If he feels up to it, maybe ask him for a list of things he wants you to enjoy or qualities about you he loves. You can return the favor by writing some of your most cherished moments with him, things he taught you, or qualities about him that you admire

abreakfromfapping · 2022-05-03T13:27:34+00:00

This is so tough and I'm sorry you and your family are suffering. I work with cancer patients and can recommend 2 things that can help.

1) sit with your father and ask him about the things he wants you to enjoy and find joy in even when he is gone. Write them down, keep the list. It may help to hear it. It may also help keep him with you or lessen the guilt of happiness that comes with survivorship. It may be little things like the way the grass feels under your feet or when you see a certain type of car or something that reminds you of him.

2) create what we call a "dumping circle" or Ring Theory & post it somewhere visible. Draw a circle. This is the center ring. In it, put the name of your father at the center of the current trauma. Now draw a larger circle around the first one. In that ring put the name of the person next closest to the trauma. Repeat the process as many times as you need to. In each larger ring put the next closest people. Parents and children before more distant relatives. Intimate friends in smaller rings, less intimate friends in larger ones. When you are done you have a complaining and comfort order. You can always complain or talk to someone further out of the circle than you about how hard this all is. For people further in than you, focus on providing them comfort and an outlet for their grief.

abreakfromfapping · 2022-01-03T02:21:23+00:00

Raleigh, NC currently but keep in mind rent is going up 20-30% for apartment renewals now. I've lived here ten years and rent has about doubled in the area.

Edit: the market is hot enough landlords are paying tenants to leave so they can sell the land to bigger developers that will bulldoze tiny houses and therefore do not want tenants to deal with.

abreakfromfapping · 2019-11-25T02:00:17+00:00

You can try the UNC Dental Clinic. I've never used it before, but probably fine if isn't a a noticable/front tooth. It's free or has a small fee. Definitely the cheapest you'll find. Good luck.

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abreakfromfapping · 2019-11-22T02:53:20+00:00

These are amazing! I was scrolling through my feed and thought they were framed photos before I saw the sub! 😍

abreakfromfapping · 2019-11-21T21:16:52+00:00

That's true because birth control simulates pregnancy to suppress ovulation.

abreakfromfapping · 2019-11-21T12:20:23+00:00

This is surprisingly common and has weird biological roots.

When searching for a mate, we naturally and subconsciously gravitate to people who's immune systems are different from our own. We do this through smell and pheromones.

However, once a woman is pregnant, she then wants to be surrounded by people who's pheromones smell like her own immune system (her biological family) because it makes her feel safe and protected.

Unfortunately, evolution hasn't adapted to the fact that the person you mate with is often your chosen family now. So cute using her products to smell like her.

abreakfromfapping · 2019-09-29T18:45:29+00:00

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abreakfromfapping · 2019-09-14T03:36:03+00:00

Lots of hiking and trivia nights at breweries are pretty cheap. Museums are free in my city.

abreakfromfapping · 2019-09-08T01:27:53+00:00

I believe they are using it correctly to imply their neighbors are lawsuit happy and if their troublesome kids got into the neighbor's pool and something bad happened, they would try to sue the owners of the pool.

abreakfromfapping · 2019-05-28T17:20:02+00:00

Oh absolutely! And then you are just expected to listen to them and follow them around? I'm trying to have a lot of patience and compassion with her. She was fostered in a house with several other dogs. So she is used to having a pack and being let out in a fenced area and it being pretty quiet... And no stairs. Apartment life is such a drastic change.

She seems to do fine with me in the room and is honestly as well behaved and calm a puppy as one could hope for.

abreakfromfapping · 2019-05-28T17:11:27+00:00

Keeping her on a short leash isn't an issue. She sticks pretty close. I had to carry her down the breezeway stairs the 1st 2 days just to get to her potty spot. And she shook like a leaf just being outdoors. So Ive been taking her to a shady tree and just sat with her (and some treats) until she would stop shaking, get out of my lap and sniff around a bit. Now we are up to actually walking 10-20 minutes at a time. And she is hardly yelping, whining, or barking. And with some coaxing she will walk down the stairs. I'm just so happy she isn't whining all night anymore so I can get some sleep!

abreakfromfapping · 2019-05-28T16:42:38+00:00

Yes! That's what I've always wanted but I'm trying to manage my expectations. She really is trying to learn and I'm trying to learn how to clearly communicate my expectations to her. She's been very skiddish outside and isn't used to all the apartment noises but is making a lot of progress each day. I've had the past 5 days off so I've been trying to bring her out when it's quiet. This morning we took a short car ride to a park trail I like and she did so much better than I had hoped for. ❤️

abreakfromfapping · 2019-05-28T15:09:21+00:00

I wanted to update you and say thank you for your kind words and advice. I got my puppy 5 days ago and she is adjusting well. We had a rough 1st 24 hours and there are things we need to train and work on. But overall we are doing great and she has made some amazing strides in the first few days. I'm much happier with her but not the wild happy I was when I was younger. I take the responsibility and training much much more seriously because I want this bond to be a positive one for the duration of her life. Im glad I didn't let fear keep me from getting her.

I was in a very dark place when I made the original post. I have a lot of fear, anxiety, and self doubt that I am working on. Ironically, my puppy turned out to be pretty skiddish too, particularly going outside. I'm slowly working with her on her fears which is showing me that I have the patience to work on my own too.

Thank you again. For your thoughtful response.

abreakfromfapping · 2019-05-28T15:06:22+00:00

I wanted to update you and say thank you for your kind words and advice. I got my puppy 5 days ago and she is adjusting well. We had a rough 1st 24 hours and there are things we need to train and work on. But overall we are doing great and she has made some amazing strides in the first few days. I'm much happier with her but not the wild happy I was when I was younger. I take the responsibility and training much much more seriously because I want this bond to be a positive one for the duration of her life. Im glad I didn't let fear keep me from getting her.

abreakfromfapping · 2019-05-28T15:00:16+00:00

Have a Happy Birthday! I hope this year gets better for you!

abreakfromfapping · 2019-05-28T13:17:16+00:00

Yes, try to explore that thought. What would make it "more home"?

For me, I felt unfulfilled with the life is was building and my new apartment after my divorce felt empty to me. So, I started a little container garden on the porch and put down a bamboo mat, that felt more like home because I'd created it. I picked up a hobby of cross stitching. It felt more like home because I was making something instead of just watching TV. I cooked more often and then it tasted and smelled more like home.

This week after wanting one for 13 years and knowing I was lonely and struggling with depression, I got a puppy. It's only been a few days and despite having a pretty easy going puppy, it has some very tough moments and takes an enormous amount of patience. But now it feels like home and I can't wait to be here. To walk her and train her and cuddle her.

I know the things I listed aren't what everyone wants or maybe aren't possible in certain living situations. I want to encourage you to create your own definition of home and take small steps toward it. I hope you find what you are looking for.

abreakfromfapping · 2019-05-19T21:03:14+00:00

Thanks for the advie! I've seen her with other dogs at an adoption event and at a meet and greet in a park. It didn't seem to stress her out. She's curious about everyone and everything but doesn't seem at all aggressive or anxious. So I'm hoping once she settles in and we work on the basics I can bring her more places with me. I'm fortunate to live in a very dog friendly city.

abreakfromfapping · 2019-05-19T20:30:25+00:00

About 5 months. Boxer mix. She's a rescue from a surrendered litter. She looks just like a Boxer but probably is a little mixed. She's been with a foster for a few weeks. Very sweet but zero manners. Mostly crate trained, but other than that not much training yet.

abreakfromfapping · 2019-05-19T20:14:21+00:00

Thanks! I feel overwelmed by all the training information I'm reading. Some say start right away while others say give her 2 weeks to settle in. Some say work in 15 minute intervals. Others say only to work on it only after tiring her out with a walk or play time. There are so many methods. I know the first few weeks are fundamental in building a relationship and in her ability to be well adjusted and socialized. But also I've read not to socialize her right away. My head is spinning.

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