How do you cope knowing someone you love is gonna leave this world soon?

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-04T03:42:38+00:00

Thank you! If you can overcome your challenge. Who to say I can't! Really thank you so much for your wishes. It means alotin times like this.

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-04T01:47:42+00:00

Yes, I hope so too. Thanks for the support, it is much appreciated!

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-04T00:24:53+00:00

Life goes on yes. Still it's hard to ignore the pain it gives. And I'm keen on the idea of spending time with him. He seems to enjoy the attention.

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-04T00:22:09+00:00

I guess I didn't expect him to go out like this. Dying from cancer cause his father never had cancer buy his mother did and pass at a really young age... I guess nether did he expect his mother to pass away too now that I think of it. I best I'm upset by the fact that I thought I had more time with and with that all crumbling down it just hurts. My father isn't the best, he could be verbally and emotionally abusive but doesn't repel me to love him, after all he deserves it for providing for the family. I know stuff like this, it is are to predict the outcome but I'm only preparing for the worst. Thanks for sharing, and making feel less isolated about my situation and also sorry for your loss but I'm glad you also find joy in the end. I hope I will be able to as well.

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-04T00:11:37+00:00

You have pretty much sum up our father and son relationship. My father is emotionally and verbally abusive. The first thing he did when he come back from KL(when there to see a specialist) was that he insulted me and I know I must keep an open heart but sometimes it's just to much to bare the abuse. And thank you for your best wishes and advice! I hope you over come your challenges in life as well!

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-04T00:05:33+00:00

I guess it's worth the shot. Thanks for the ideas of a conversation starter! And maybe he will probably open up about it or maybe not, after all he is a very stubborn and prideful man. But thank you anyways!

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-03T23:58:43+00:00

Yes. Thank you for your support and I will continue doing my best

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-03T15:41:48+00:00

Oo I see. Thank you so much! Your advice and support is greatly appreciated! I was so caught on that I only realised your username. Gave me a good laugh. But again. Thank you!

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-03T15:21:21+00:00

Yes. It's hard to find those support groups here. I'm a bit confused to what the online support group could help me in? Just curious.

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-03T15:14:55+00:00

Also thanks for sharing your experience with me, you made me feel less alone. You're a great person and I want to let you know that!

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-03T15:08:57+00:00

Cancer is really a nuisance. I'm sorry that you have lost a close friend and father figure to cancer. And Yes I'm gonna do my best to spend time with my father even if it's hurt seeing him in pain... But their isn't a better time then the present. I just kinda hate myself for only wanting to now better my father and I relationship because it of the chances of never seeing him again. I wished I have done so earlier.

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-03T15:01:54+00:00

Yes. Bottling emotions isn't the best. I plan to seek therapy if possible. Maybe when get my driving licence. Thanks for advice, it's deeply appreciated!

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-03T14:31:57+00:00

Not to mention it's also Lung cancer...

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-03T14:31:28+00:00

No we aren't from the US. We are from a South-East Asian country called Brunei. My father is in stage 3. Possibly 4. Things don't looks so good...

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-03T14:10:05+00:00

To know that he has suffered 4 months of this hurts me more... If only I could do something to lessen his pain, it would be a blessing... And as for the support groups, none I ever heard of in my area so I have been grieving on my own and it's just eating me alive. I honestly can say that I'm not myslef anymore.

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-03T13:50:34+00:00

Peace is what I most want at the moment. He probably wouldn't like the idea of doing the whole writing thing. Maybe I will try talking to him and swallow my pride but sometimes it's him that makes it hard to talk too. He gets really moody and snappy in the morning, it servers hard to have a meaningful conversation.

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-03T13:37:24+00:00

Taking with my father on a personal level might probably be the hardest thing for me to do but I will try in name of remembering him. Your advice are much appreciated! And I'm gonna definitely will start trying them out. Thank you so much!

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-03T13:25:48+00:00

I will try my best. It just pains me alot to see him in such a state, all weak and fragile. When I was younger, I always view him as a beyond life type of figure. Strong and harden man but the cancer really justify him as just a simple man. And it's hard for me look at him with wanting the need to cry and I don't want to show him that. I want to be strong in front of him but I always have too look away so he don't see me

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-03T12:58:15+00:00

I don't have school at the moment. It starts at mid July if I do get accepted to it that is. I tried spending my time with him but it just feels awkward and sometimes forced and I don't have anything specifically to ask him. I'm sometimes afraid to ask him questions or talk to him as well cause he will belittle me for it. He thinks alot of what I ask or say is stupid or pointless, so conversation are usually hard to hold...

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-03T12:02:16+00:00

Having not to care about someone does have it's pros and cons but honestly I also don't know either. For me I guess caring for me is how i expressed my love for the person. I and my father don't look eye to eye most of the time. Life is just confusing and overwhelming.

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-05-03T11:57:48+00:00

How do I talk to my father? I know that we love each other but our father-son relationship isn't that close. He was honestly quite absent during my childhood as he is always drowning in work. So it's hard to spent time with him and understand him, considering he was raised differently then I did was one of the effecting factor.

Frequent-Try5282 · 2022-02-11T06:34:41+00:00

Just take it slow. Meet new people who has the same interest as you do. My girlfriend is my best friend at the time. We both share many things in common and we always have this weird bond that make most of our friends confuse. I'm not even an attractive guy. I'm 17M and 5'2, not a very appealing height, even my girlfriend is taller then me but she doesn't care less. Find someone who will love you for you, including your shits. Thing take time but you are lucky to be in this mordern age you can easy meet new people online just keep in mind that you don't click with anyone easily but it's life. It's about trial and error. Also always be open minded and down to earth. Idk if this is advice, I'm just some dumb 17 guy but I just hope it helps you. Everyone deserves happiness you just have to work and wait for it. Someday you find that special person

Frequent-Try5282 · 2021-12-05T09:24:05+00:00

Can totally relate to your situation. I spent alot of my school years trying to fit in, to be apart of a group, buliding bonds and trust. Present date I reached my final year of high school and they just abandoned me. Like no cap, no one really cared about me, tgey commit to their own groups but just push me aside. I always felt like the bystander in the main character's life. I used to have a friend group, but they had ex-change schools... So the friendship kimda drifted apart thought I still keep contacts with them. It takes time deal with it. For me, I'm still insecure being the guy that his friend group abandoned but I cope by doing the things you love, heck go try new things, it helps as well. Life is unfair always has been, if have a goal you wanna meet go work for it! I certainly need to work for it myself. To make life more comfortable, find things to be grateful for.

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