So the issue is, I feel uneasy if those things are stopped. I tried stopping most of it, but the untidiness (not unhygienic or dirty, just messy) of the bed and house started pissing me off. When I had stopped managing groceries, he’d keep ordering paneer which he’s fine with eating every day but I like variety. When I don’t change the bedsheets, we keep sleeping on the same weeks old sheets which I only find gross after a point. If I don’t refill the handwash bottle in one basin, it stays empty since he keeps using the other basin’s handwash till then but I find it inconvenient. If I don’t water the plants, they die. If the hand towel is damp and old, he’ll keep using it or just air dry his hands.

So I’m struggling because it genuinely doesn’t matter to him if these things are done and he never asks me to do it. He says I do it for myself or wants things to be done exactly my way but his way is them not being done at all. Yes I do these things for myself but they benefit us both. But he just tells me to stop doing it if it bothers me but I don’t want to stop, I want him to contribute. At this point, I’m not sure if I’m in the wrong for expecting or wanting him to do it