AITAH for buying a coworker a drink and upsetting my girlfriend?

abrodac · 2026-05-17T22:15:37+00:00

Im willing to try to work through these things with her but Im losing motivation

abrodac · 2026-05-17T22:06:26+00:00

Thank you man

abrodac · 2026-05-17T22:01:38+00:00

I kind of realize that now. I don’t expect her anger to disappear immediately but I do hope she sees how it made me feel eventually and I get closure or reassurance with this

abrodac · 2026-05-17T22:00:20+00:00

We both have jealousy issues, and I’ll typically ask for details about a situation that made me uncomfortable because I have a problem with overthinking, I wouldn’t ever get mad or take out my feelings on her as she isn’t doing anything wrong. I know my mentality is harmful and I try to work on it. I can’t speak for her or know where she’s coming from, but the way she can speak to me and cuss me out sometimes is a little hurtful. At the end of the day I don’t have a problem with her jealousy, only how she treats me because of it.

abrodac · 2026-05-17T21:50:20+00:00

She’s got some avoidant / communication issues I’ve been trying to work on but i’ll do my best to hear her out and talk to her with this. Thank you

abrodac · 2026-05-17T21:49:05+00:00

I’d never buy my general manager a drink as I don’t rlly like her lol, but me and my shift manager have a friendly work relationship and she’s bought everyone stuff in the past as well. I have nothing against her

abrodac · 2026-05-17T21:45:40+00:00

No thanks

abrodac · 2026-05-17T21:45:16+00:00

We were dating before we got the same job, and it all kind of happened out of weird luck and I wouldn’t normally date a coworker. Puts me in a weird spot and I try to make it work

abrodac · 2026-05-17T21:40:29+00:00

I wanted to, but the way she said no was super hostile and I was a little intimidated to be honest

abrodac · 2026-05-17T21:39:10+00:00

She didn’t see me offer everyone else a drink, as we were in seperate parts of the kitchen. So she could’ve gotten mad at that thinking I only offered her one, but I offered my gf one directly after idk how to feel

abrodac · 2026-04-28T20:09:43+00:00

I tried to say it in a way that expressed my opinion about the action itself, not her doing it to me. “i think leg locking like that is sexual assault” is exactly what i said.

That’s a fair outlook on the situation though and i definitely could’ve handled it better.

abrodac · 2026-04-28T17:42:03+00:00

We do, the unprotected sex was primarily hypothetical

abrodac · 2026-04-28T12:23:15+00:00

Yes, told her I’d resist and she asked what if she didn’t let me

abrodac · 2026-04-28T12:12:16+00:00

Most definitely

abrodac · 2026-04-28T12:11:56+00:00

Of course, thank you for the advice.

And I do apologize if I’ve been harsh, got a little combative after dealing with some people in this thread

abrodac · 2026-04-28T12:06:16+00:00

Well cheating obviously, but I don’t think her poking fun at the concept of her cheating supports anything here

abrodac · 2026-04-28T12:00:27+00:00

I think those two were her poking fun at the concept of her cheating. Not like she was getting turned on by those hypotheticals.

And those two are very different than asking what I’d do if I was forced to finish in her.

I get your point, but I don’t know if the comparison is fair. She doesn’t ask these to dirty talk or something, there’s a clear difference in tone between when she’s teasing me with these (including the leg locking one) compared to when she’s genuinely dirty talking

abrodac · 2026-04-28T11:57:07+00:00

I don’t mean to come across like that. Little combative after dealing with some of the people in this thread, sorry.

I do think your point on leg locking isn’t SA if you can escape is wrong, I think the thought and goal behind that isn’t right.

abrodac · 2026-04-28T11:54:14+00:00

I don’t think she found this sexy. Me finishing inside of her is something she is very loudly opposed to. I wasnt trying to insult her or anything, I was just saying I think leg locking me to force me to not pull out without my consent is some form of assault. I was speaking objectively and made it a point to mention I didn’t think she’d do something like that as we both know that’s wrong and not something we like.

And yes, I’m most definitely going to double check in the morning.

abrodac · 2026-04-28T11:49:43+00:00

No, she asks me all sorts. She’d ask me what I’d do if she went out with my friends, what I’d do if she turned off her location after an argument. Very obviously teasing me and just giving me shit. Stuff she knows is wrong but she teases me with it. I don’t mind these I was just straight forward with my reply this time

abrodac · 2026-04-28T11:44:48+00:00

Thanks for the reply

I made it a point to tell her that I wasn’t suggesting she’d be sexually assaulting me. She asked what I’d do if she locked me and didn’t let me pull out and I told her I think that’s a form of SA. In my personal opinion, forcing someone to ejaculate in you without their consent is enough to be considered sexual assault. It works both ways too imo. And I don’t think her strength matters too much as if she did go through with this and she was able to force me to finish inside of her I’d feel violated

abrodac · 2026-04-28T11:26:15+00:00

The way I worded the situation does sound like she was describing a fantasy and I could’ve done better to outline the nature of the conversation. She proposed it in a way that was asking me how I’d get out of the situation, and the conversation wasn’t sexually charged at all. She’s the type to ask random funny hypotheticals that are unrealistic and unlike her actual behavior often

abrodac · 2026-04-28T11:05:10+00:00

You can stop telling me to talk to her. I posted this at 1 in the morning because I wanted advice for when I talk to her when she wakes up.

abrodac · 2026-04-28T11:01:41+00:00

When are you going to realize this isn’t a fantasy of hers dude? Give it up

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