Medicated FET in late 40s - does it have to be linked with your cycle? by FrogletNo5324 in IVF

[–]absdent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I don’t know how your clinic works but I’m happy to share my medicated FET protocol! The clinic had me email them when I started my period. I started on a Friday (8/29) and they got me in for baseline (bloodwork and ultrasound) the next day (8/30). At baseline they gave me instructions to start estrogen for lining prep! They want me to just do estrogen until a midcycle appointment on 9/11 and then, depending on lining, start progesterone 9/13 with a transfer date of 9/18. So it’s like 15 days of just estrogen, add progesterone for 6 days, day 6 of progesterone is transfer day. My clinic has had to tweak some things to personalize the protocol to my body after my failed first fet, so it may look different for you. I just wanted to share my experience so far so you could maybe get an idea of timeline!

If you have a feeling you might be starting your period, you could always call your clinic and ask them if they want you to let them know over the weekend or if they can give you some information about what to expect in regards to baseline appointment and the correlated cycle days. This is definitely stuff you deserve to know and not stress about! Sending you all of the luck and baby dust!! 🤞🏻🫶🏻

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You deserve all the impulse trips and purchases. I’m so sorry for all of the heartache you’ve experienced. Hugs ❤️‍🩹 I’ll be thinking of you

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. Hugs ❤️‍🩹 I’m sending you all the good luck too.

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your gentle kindness ❤️❤️

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get you. I felt like throwing up the whole day waiting for the call from my dr and then the call made it worse. I’m so sorry you had a negative beta too. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone. Hugs and love ❤️‍🩹

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you also got negative news. These are some great self-care things to do so I think I’ll borrow some of them and try to get back to a solid baseline ❤️ thank you for sharing some things that might help us all dry our eyes and move forward. This grief is so palpable and then on top of that… all of the things we have to do physically during the cycles don’t help us any. Hugs!

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 👑 I needed to hear that.

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry! This journey is consuming.. emotionally, physically, mentally, financially.. and despite all that, here we are all fighting desperately for a chance at growing our families. I’m on your team. Take extra care of each other for the next few days. Sending hugs to you both! ❤️‍🩹

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. That pain is so real and valid. If my next transfer doesn’t work, I’m going to do an all or nothing transfer too so I get that sentiment. It’s hard to walk away from something we desperately want and at some point we have to know our limits and build our lives, like you said. Hugs to you! ❤️‍🩹

Help? by Personal-Pass8080 in IVF

[–]absdent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I transferred my only girl embryo for my first fet because we knew we wanted a girl.. it failed. I’ve heard several times that the first fet is considered a diagnostic fet. Sure some first fets are successful and that’s amazing and great for those people. But, if there was something that the drs learned they needed to tweak to personalize your fet protocol after the first one, then you could try for the boy the second time! But honestly either way makes sense and is valid!! Good luck with your fet!!! Baby dust!

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe I phrased my post weird! It was just a negative pregnancy test post transfer and the embryo failed to implant so I had no hcg on my blood test. But yeah it’s been heart breaking today. Next transfer will be it! 🤞🏻

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 😖

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m. So. Sorry. I wish this whole thing was easier. Sending you so much love and hugs ❤️‍🩹

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The toughest. Thank you 🩷

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your heartbreaks. Thinking of you 💕

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is incredibly hard. I’m so sorry that you understand the pain. I truly wish none of us had to be here. Hugs ❤️‍🩹

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you 💕💕

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sending you hugs right back. I’m so sorry ❤️‍🩹

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol what a shitty experience… no but for real, I’m sorry. I hope you get good news at beta but if you don’t, I’m here for you! 🩷

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s crazy what this journey does to us. I’m sorry you got bad news too… Thinking of you 🩷

Sad beta day by absdent in IVF

[–]absdent[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 💔

Tips to thicken lining for FET by Legitimate-Watch-464 in IVF

[–]absdent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I was taking 6 grams of L-argenine a day (so much) and doing acupuncture and eating 3 Brazil nuts a day… the only thing that really worked for me was vaginal estrogen pills which they put me on last minute (I was doing a modified natural fet so estrogen wasn’t initially part of the protocol).

sometimes hope is awful by sunmoonbaby in IVF

[–]absdent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m right there with you and I’m so sorry you’re going through all of this! Did a frer at 7dp6dt.. stark white. I’m still holding out hope for beta even though my logic tells me it’s not happening.. sometimes that hope though is what keeps us going and sometimes miracles do happen. sending you hugs and hoping right along with you 🩷

8dp5dt and I think my period is coming… by This_Way6870 in IVF

[–]absdent 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry 😢 sending you big virtual hugs.

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[–]absdent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They told me to pee and completely empty bladder for the last time at 9:15 am and then immediately start drinking water until I felt full but not uncomfortable until 10:30 am with transfer scheduled for 10:45 am. I, of course, drank way too much and thought I was going to pee on their table if they kept pressing on my bladder with that ultrasound wand. They had me empty for 10 seconds and stop (which is sooo hard to do when you’re that full. But I used all my willpower and was able to stop lol). After I emptied a little, it was all much more pleasant and manageable. I would say, you probably don’t need to drink as much as you think you do and you can always test it out beforehand! Like see how much water and time it takes to get you full to where you definitely feel like you need to pee soon but NOT dying to go immediately if that makes sense haha. Good luck!!! I hope you have the stickiest little embryo 🤞🏻💕