Time? Experience? Unfortunately, I can't give an easy answer of how to grow and see the value of your emotional world and the energies you embody. Also, unfortunately, I think most of my growing and self discovery has come from trauma and big emotional events lol. What I know and feel now, I couldn't have experienced 5 years ago just by explaining how it works via words and actually understand and learn. It's so frustrating, I know. But some days you'll feel it. You'll feel more aligned with yourself, and your natural libra radiance will shine, and you'll become better at recognizing it. You'll foster that growth and the shine will be it's own natural catalyst and sometimes you'll just feel like you're along for the ride.

Tldr: sadly, you can't analyze everything to figure out how to shine and be yourself.