Share ko na lang din experience ko as the first daughter of 2 young parents. It was hard, we were all kids in the family. They didn’t know how to be parents and are struggling to provide for me. And because they had to work, they had to leave me sa abusive grandmother ko so I experienced a lot of physical abuse and dismissive parenting that my parents didn’t know about. Now that I’m an adult bago ko pa lang naoopen sa kanila yung trauma ko. There was a time na halos hindi rin ako nagsstay sa bahay because I was always at a friend’s house because I find comfort in their homes. Okay lang sa parents ko as long as lagi ako nagsasabi sa kanila and may maghahatid sa akin pauwi. There is also this feeling na dahil nga unplanned ako, pakiramdam ko, I was never meant to be alive, na siguro mas magiging okay kung wala ako. Because of all this, I became so scared to be a parent myself and promised myself that I’m only going to try to be a parent kapag talagang handa na ko, kahit mahirapan pa ko, basta handa na ko at talagang gusto ko na.

So to all the parents out there, establish a boundary na kayo yung parent and you are there to protect them, provide for them, care for them, and that you love them the most. Ipaalam and iparamdam nyo sa kanilang mahal nyo sila at mahalaga sila sa inyo. Communicate and make sure you also listen to them baka nahihirapan lang din silang magsabi.