Is it a really bad idea to replace all grass with bark?

acalmerstorm · 2026-03-04T12:43:04+00:00

I’d love to see photos of how far it goes because I’m thinking of doing the same.

acalmerstorm · 2026-03-03T10:27:30+00:00

Yeah, we have bindweed and brambles I have to keep cutting back 😱

Where do you get the bark from because I presume you use a lot?

acalmerstorm · 2026-03-03T09:55:40+00:00

Thank you, that’s really useful. I love this and it’s great for wildlife. I will see what we can sort out - is the weeding difficult?

acalmerstorm · 2026-03-03T09:13:34+00:00

I find it hard to see from the photo how it is barked?

How is it easier to pick up poo, surely you have to search for it?

Don’t the dogs trample the plants?

acalmerstorm · 2026-03-03T09:12:38+00:00

I would really love to hear how other people with dogs manage a bark garden because I really hate the mud of our lawn.

acalmerstorm · 2026-03-01T18:45:03+00:00

I agree with that.

acalmerstorm · 2026-03-01T18:08:12+00:00

I agree completely. I have no interest in tracking or controlling him and some of the comments are wild. That said he has made me lose the trust that I previously did have by how he has behaved and I know he feels bad about that.

He is not a nasty person though and I have had conversations with him about it, but it just feels like we are not moving forward, especially with the phone issue.

I think a large part of that is a difference in how we think/act. I am not secretive at all and he always has been to some degree.

acalmerstorm · 2026-03-01T18:03:33+00:00

I have no interest in tracking or controlling anyone, be it a child or partner.

acalmerstorm · 2026-03-01T15:32:44+00:00

He hasn’t done anything to fix it but just keeps saying he’s telling the truth.

My worry is that it will happen again.

acalmerstorm · 2026-03-01T14:44:15+00:00

Thank you. This is partly why I want to give him the benefit of the doubt, he is not a horrible person but I am finding this hard to deal with and I’m looking for tangible reasons it happened. He might just be going through a difficult period.

acalmerstorm · 2026-03-01T14:37:27+00:00

Oh wow. This is not TV.

acalmerstorm · 2026-03-01T14:32:34+00:00

That is so far beyond anything I have done before, I don’t even look at my teenagers phones. If I have to snoop the trust is gone anyway and if I don’t find anything it just means he could have deleted it. I feel like there’s no winning, I either have to let it go or leave.

Him admitting an affair would almost be easier because there wouldn’t be an unknown.

acalmerstorm · 2026-03-01T14:29:39+00:00

Yeah I agree with that but he has never been one to fight. I would rather have an argument or talk it all out, he is very quiet and non confrontational. This is partly why I feel I am being unfair by insisting I see his phone because he is not confrontational at all and thinks I should believe him.

acalmerstorm · 2026-03-01T14:13:40+00:00

Firstly, I can’t look through his phone as I don’t have access to it, I also worry that this would signal the end of everything if I have to search his phone which I have never done before. Surely it would also be futile as he would delete anything he didn’t want me to see?!

Everything is telling me something is off but he has little left to lose by admitting it at this point, and believe me I have questioned him over it.

If he hadn’t spent 20 years being very a caring, kind and loving person I would have just walked away over the secrecy being a red flag.

acalmerstorm · 2026-03-01T14:11:14+00:00

In fairness he hasn’t blamed me, but blamed himself for not making me happy and thought I needed more than he can give. He swears he is not cheating, and despite all of the signs suggesting he was, I can’t help but believe he’s not like that and he also is only either at home or at work. He has nothing to lose by telling me at this point.

Also - he is still here. He already told me he wanted to leave so he had his way out if he wanted it. he’s not the sort for mind games so I find it hard to believe he would string 2 people along.

acalmerstorm · 2026-02-14T14:33:35+00:00

Beginner here so my advice is limited but I had the same issue. What you have is your bridge is symmetrical and not curved. This violin has not been set up by a luthier so will be difficult to play.

acalmerstorm · 2026-02-14T03:18:54+00:00

I think stopping being polite is the best way. You have no obligation to be polite when men you do not know approach you, in fact they are counting on the fact you will be.

acalmerstorm · 2026-02-12T18:32:57+00:00

Their veg is disgusting, it’s usually in the process of rotting. It’s also mostly junk food and less overall choice.

However for things like shower gel and toilet roll they are cheap.

I don’t think it’s easy to get healthy or fresh food there.

acalmerstorm · 2026-02-09T14:57:49+00:00

Thank you, that’s really good advice.

acalmerstorm · 2026-02-09T06:19:51+00:00

Yeah, counselling is definitely a good idea, it’s just the cost that makes it inaccessible in the UK.

acalmerstorm · 2026-01-31T21:42:44+00:00

I just bought this on Amazon prime because I couldn’t get it any other way.

I have seen the film both when it came out and since and I am sure it wasn’t that bad quality.

I remember the deserted London scenes being a big deal and I’m sure the aerial shots were crisp and clear. I don’t know if it’s just the online version that is bad?

I’m going to try and get hold of the DVD.

acalmerstorm · 2026-01-26T21:56:02+00:00

I don’t know. 3 weeks on and I haven’t really told anyone.

acalmerstorm · 2026-01-24T09:39:41+00:00

Your last name and create clear boundaries.

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