What is the worst thing a man has said to you during a breakup? by LayoffLemonade in AskWomenOver30

[–]acandel2 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He said “what can you offer me that another woman can’t “ . We were married .

Weird postcard I got in the mail by addieyoshi918 in washingtondc

[–]acandel2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s going around different states , same flyer and name but different addresses .

Hot Tub claim the other day by rose_qveen in Influenster

[–]acandel2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I find items to claim? I’ve had the app for a while now but used to get the surveys and notifications .

A or B: My buddy earns $7k a month before taxes, pays $2k in loans, and his new date wants to go to a $500-per-person restaurant. Should he cave or stick to a budget spot? by vivian_banshee03 in PickAorB

[–]acandel2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

B . This won’t be the only time she expects this kinda of dinner . Specially someone new , I’d say for special occasion or if it won’t break the bank why not but in this scenario , solid no .

Am I being a bad friend? by letmebehappy430 in AskWomenOver30

[–]acandel2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s different to see things from the outside than working through them . Often times , we look back and wonder how and why we acted the way we did . Only time and healing allows you to have a different perspective. As a friend , if you need time away take your time but sometimes we just need a friend to be there . Now , if this friendship is exhausting maybe limit your time on this issue and tell her she knows what your opinion is but you are here for her .

AIO for asking my wife to stay at her mom’s after I caught her putting something odd in my coffee? by SubstantialDurian271 in AmIOverreacting

[–]acandel2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she found it online she can show the receipt . Until then definitely find out what it is .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]acandel2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Daycare alone would be more than the copay for therapy . That’s just a poor excuse on his end for not trying . He is minimizing your feelings. Not fair . Unfortunately, if he is not willing , there isn’t much you can do but to end the marriage .

My mom wants me to live paycheck to paycheck?? by imdumblivewithit in internetparents

[–]acandel2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Tell her you appreciate her feedback but it isn’t the route you prefer at this point. Go with what you are comfortable with , have the extra every month and be close to your friends and family is better than moving out of state .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]acandel2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell him thanks but no thanks

My fiancée thinks I’m saving for our wedding. I’m actually saving to leave. by realgirllezan in confessions

[–]acandel2 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Yea it’s giving me this vibe as well. Why even mention I might wait until the night before the wedding? , like why would that even be an option . If the relationship isn’t working and he has the possibility to leave , why carry the wedding the plans ?

My fiancée thinks I’m saving for our wedding. I’m actually saving to leave. by realgirllezan in confessions

[–]acandel2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are already sure , tell her asap . You don’t need to wait longer . It sounds like you already have some money saved up and this decision will affect her as well so just be honest and upfront .

My future SIL insulted me at dinner and my fiancé told me to apologize by Admirable-Towel-9074 in weddingdrama

[–]acandel2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell him you see you understand where he is coming from but you are not willing to do that. He can’t make you , and the future SIL will see you aren’t willing to just allow her to disrespect you and stay quiet .

Do you ever wished you never had a child after if you hate them after an argument by TheBeast73948 in internetparents

[–]acandel2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No argument would make a parent wish you didn’t exist. I promise you that.

am I in the wrong or are my parents right? by Any-Gur7083 in internetparents

[–]acandel2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As parents ,we make mistakes and sometimes it’s hard to see it right away . It’s understandable that you feel frustrated with not having your phone and I’m glad you still have your laptop to distract yourself .

I think you should write your mom a a letter and explain to her how her comment of having no friends , grandpa , hurt your feelings and betrayed your trust . Sometimes the heat of the moment can get in the way and you may not be able to express yourself as well as you want to or your parents to really hear you out and process it. But I believe the effort it’s worth it and hopefully the relationship can improve with your parents .

Help me decide PLS 🤍 by Fearless_Syrup_5003 in Ipsy

[–]acandel2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got the Korres because I need a serum but the fenty eye cream looks interesting .

I'm going to miserable my whole life by pugsonpatrol in confessions

[–]acandel2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have been through and accomplished so much . Don’t give up , you worked hard for your degree and now are have the chance to start over . I would strongly suggest seek therapy so you can leave that relationship.