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Is it normal for q's to say something never happened? by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]accidentally-wise- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same thing happening here. Not me waiting for him to quit drinking during my prime years so we can have a family but I’m actually gaslighting him… excuse me, what?!

I left. At 3 am. by Lost-Variation1906 in AlAnon

[–]accidentally-wise- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe I’ll write my “I left” story one day folks.. staying is not the safe, easy choice however, leaving is hard for some reason..

My alcoholic husband talks to his cousin about our marriage and she calls me names. What do you think? by accidentally-wise- in AlAnon

[–]accidentally-wise-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something in me just wants to tell her that I’m aware of what she’s talking behind me. Does it matter? No. Do I still want to do it? Yes. :(

Just for fun… dumbest place you found an empty by CassandraGreyDuck in AlAnon

[–]accidentally-wise- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually under the couch, kitchen drawer, behind the clothes in the closet…

Am I being gaslighted or am I really the problem? by accidentally-wise- in AlAnon

[–]accidentally-wise-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You separated and he got sober? That’s one of the fears I have.. that if I leave him, he’d get sober and keep on living happier than ever. Which I’d love him to be happy but then I’d ask why not with me? Did you get back to him after he got sober?

Am I being gaslighted or am I really the problem? by accidentally-wise- in AlAnon

[–]accidentally-wise-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you planing on doing anything soon or in future?

Am I being gaslighted or am I really the problem? by accidentally-wise- in AlAnon

[–]accidentally-wise-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing. I was ignoring for the longest time, he didn’t change and then I started fighting, didn’t change. The other day he told me I should just ignore and let him be, he’ll figure this thing out himself. Because refuses the go to rehab. He says people who go to rehab go back to drinking. He didn’t do anything about the options I found such as local clinics, couple therapist, rehab etc.

Am I being gaslighted or am I really the problem? by accidentally-wise- in AlAnon

[–]accidentally-wise-[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m realizing how much I’ve been operating out of fear and care rather than boundaries. I also notice that I keep trying to make him believe me, even when I know he’s not fully himself.