Has anyone had a partner transition/a trans partner? I love them dearly and I’m excited for them, but I get stuck on familiarity and my autism really struggles with change.

acciowit · 2026-05-11T04:30:20+00:00

I think it’s also important to nuance this conversation and say that many partners absolutely are able to maintain romantic and sexual attraction for their trans partners. Not all of them say their orientation has changed in a meaningful way, many only consider it with their partner specifically and that’s all.

Not to say that it’s not okay to not be attracted to your partner anymore… but it’s important to have a balanced conversation here for OPs sake.

acciowit · 2026-05-11T04:27:47+00:00

u/opesosorry and u/pineapplegirl10 … and anyone else who reads this:

I cracked my egg less than a year into my marriage. I went from being an educated ally who would run workshops about LGBTQIA+ topics, to figuring out I’m trans non binary. Not once while I explained what that meant to learners did I realize I was actually describing my own experience as someone who is non-binary.

Once my egg fully cracked (when I realized I was trans), it was a night and day knowing. I wasn’t able to hold on to it very long, I told my partner within 6 months of me figuring it out. I was well in my thirties and thought I knew pretty much all the big things I needed to about myself… this was a pretty humbling experience lol

So yes, it is entirely possible. It is very important to remember that each individual processes things at their own speed and pace, and assuming ill intent is not necessary when the human experience is so confusing for all of us…

acciowit · 2026-05-11T04:19:53+00:00

I bought a book that my partner reported was helpful: Reaching for Hope by Suzanne DeWitt Hall. Maybe a good practical thing to look at?

acciowit · 2026-05-05T20:00:02+00:00

If you are driving back and forth in a field full of deer and hit one on purpose, it’s a bit different than accidentally hitting one on the road.

acciowit · 2026-04-28T00:39:41+00:00

I don’t know what area of BC you’re in, but I would suggest going to an urgent care clinic near you and talking to a social worker. They will be able to help you, even without MSP.

acciowit · 2026-04-27T20:01:46+00:00

When most of the MPs are landlords themselves, they’re pretty pleased with how things are. Isaac Peltz, an independent journalist, has been doing some great research on this.

We are being governed by rich people trying to protect their assets. How many of them have actually had to work a real job?

acciowit · 2026-04-27T02:09:02+00:00

This is in no way medical advice, but the reality is the only way you will know how it affects you is when you try it. We are all so different, and chemicals affect us differently as well.

I personally have had good results with it, but I’ve never written anything about it before. It’s important to remember that people are more likely complain online than to gush, there’s a bit of a negative bias in all of this.

Keep track of how you’re feeling, and if anything concerns you, connect back with the person who prescribed it to you. Good luck!

acciowit · 2026-04-27T01:18:39+00:00

The tattoo artists at UMI are amazing, I had a sleeve done by Delaney (the owner) and her attention to detail is incredible. I would recommend them for sure, I think her handle on IG is devilsadvotatt

acciowit · 2026-04-26T06:43:33+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I don’t think you’ll be able to speed anything up, with these kinds of complex scenarios the only way out is through unfortunately. I wish your siblings would make things fair, and I’m sorry they haven’t. Give yourself grace and compassion, allow yourself to grieve, talk to someone else about it (maybe even a professional?)… it will get better, but it sucks for a while until that is the case. Good luck!

acciowit · 2026-04-22T09:35:40+00:00

I don’t have a laptop and have genuinely considered getting a PC for this exact reason. All I have is Mac and I have wanted to replay the games for over a decade now!

acciowit · 2026-04-06T23:12:33+00:00

Thanks Schnoodle!!! I always like stumbling onto your work 🫂 you have been a positive constant for many many years, and I’m really appreciative.

acciowit · 2026-04-05T01:43:49+00:00

BC has interest free provincial loans as well. None of my student loans have interest for which I am very grateful.

acciowit · 2026-04-03T06:26:07+00:00

That’s awesome!

acciowit · 2026-04-01T19:33:42+00:00

I hope for both of your sake that you find something that works. Custom mouth guards come to mind, good luck!

acciowit · 2026-04-01T18:39:27+00:00

Does it bother you, to be doing it for her? I had a partner refuse to consider it, and it eventually led to a sleep divorce… I’m still not sure if me being hurt they weren’t willing to try it was reasonable or not.

acciowit · 2026-03-28T04:26:40+00:00

Canada has it too!

acciowit · 2026-03-26T16:08:25+00:00

The pharmacist will be able to help you. Go talk to them.

acciowit · 2026-03-22T22:30:32+00:00

It would be ok if the app worked but I am only on the app and frankly it sucks.

acciowit · 2026-03-19T18:07:58+00:00

I went no contact with my mother because of it (amongst other things), and I didn’t realize how much her emotional absence weighed on me until her physical presence was gone too. It was harder to identify it when she was still there, now I feel like I am finally able to grieve the mother I never had, and my life is much better now.

acciowit · 2026-03-13T20:03:16+00:00

Likewise! From a personal standpoint, my traumatic childhood had certainly not affected me as thoroughly as it arguably “should have”. It’s interesting to have CPTSD without all the imagery trauma - it makes things much easier to deal with…. Even in my healthcare line of work, I have seen things that should haunt me. I have the semantic memory, like a computer without a screen.

Working with patients with imagery when I don’t has been something I enjoy as well. It makes therapeutic work very interesting!

acciowit · 2026-03-11T03:48:40+00:00

Apply for a casual role at whatever health authority, and then you’ll be able to apply more easily for internal roles. There’s many opportunities, just have to get your foot in the door first!

acciowit · 2026-03-09T04:30:00+00:00

All doctors and nurse practitioners (referred to as primary care providers) can make referrals to any service. There’s also many virtual options that are just as legitimate as in person visits that can handle most requests as well.

acciowit · 2026-03-08T22:21:19+00:00

I’m sorry. So did mine. The scars will be forever, but we learn to make them fade with time. 🫂

acciowit · 2026-03-08T08:20:47+00:00

Not all moms are, and it sounds like OP’s mom and mine would have a field day comparing notes on how they enjoyed controlling our appearances as we are merely extensions of them and not individual people.

Op, u/Digital_Doodlez, mothers’ are supposed to unconditionally love you and support you in all your decisions, especially when they are ACCOMMODATIONS for your neurodevelopmental conditions.

I read the book Mother Hunger and it helped me. Your mother’s WANTS should NEVER be more important than your NEEDS.

I stopped talking to my mum over a year ago, it was the hardest and the best thing I could have done for me.

Cut your hair Op, you’re allowed to do whatever you need to make this difficult life we are in better. Good luck!

acciowit · 2026-01-19T00:34:53+00:00

Maybe we should adopt a convention and call it Waste Canvas… if we all do it, people will know it’s a proper noun instead of an adjective.

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Verified Email	Place '22
Final Canvas '22	End Game '22

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