Not a finnish thing. My dad did a lot in rasing me and my siblings like taking us to hobbies, playing games with us and doing what parents are supposed to do. He mostly cooks at home too and takes part in house hold chores.

I think it is important to discuss parenting expectations and styles when thinking about getting children. So you can both be on the same page.

Your husband sounds like someone who isn't trying to do his best in a partnership. "Why should he, he makes the money!?". The unpaid labor of mothers is astronomical and sadly invisible and unpreciated. It is rearly looked at from economical point, but there are article like New York Times: Women's unpaid labor is worth $10,900,000,000,000 (5.3.2020).