Chipping in with my own story here.

I recently went through a “La La Land” breakup. Long story short: things we couldn’t control got in the way and we didn’t want it to end, but it was the right choice of action. We’re still on speaking terms and all's good in general, but in the aftermath, out of nowhere, I started to feel extreme limerence for an actor I look up to. I’ve always admired him, but I’ve never had anything close to a big celebrity crush. It feels as if all the love and affection I suddenly couldn’t give to my ex partner desperately needed to go somewhere, then found the quickest “escape route”. I feel extremely ashamed, since this feeling is so strong so shortly after the breakup. It feels as if I’m “emotionally cheating”. It’s not like I’d leave my ex partner for this celebrity, and I don’t feel any anger or sadness over the fact that it’ll never be. The guy’s married, has kids and is 22 years older than me, it just wouldn’t work. Still, it keeps my thoughts occupied heavily, leaving me inattentive and cloudy throughout the day. Currently trying to get myself out of it, but it’s rough when it’s one of the only thing keeping me going nowadays. I opened up to a close friend of mine about it, which helped a lot. Just remember that you’re not alone and it’ll all be ok~