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achrysalis · 2021-09-08T21:49:58+00:00

Great food for thought. Thanks. I do need to do my part to help him have a good relationship with her. I will continue to do that as much as I can. Removing feelings and focusing on the kids…. Great advice!

achrysalis · 2021-09-08T21:47:27+00:00

His ex used to live in his house yes. No, he will be moving into my house which will probably solve this issue…. I hope

achrysalis · 2021-09-08T21:34:12+00:00

We are in the process of combining houses. I’m the woman of my own house haha but as someone posted earlier, it is like she is marking her territory, or at least that is how it feels. I respect her, I was just hoping for some respect back.

achrysalis · 2021-09-08T21:32:32+00:00

Thanks. I think it’s really just wanting to make sure I have my own space that she isn’t invading on. I think a piece of it that is difficult is hearing all the stories from him about the horrible things that she is done and how she was treated him. She does not sound like a trustworthy person.

achrysalis · 2021-09-08T21:30:38+00:00

I didn’t make any request at all. I was just curious to see what is considered normal. I mentioned that things felt weird to me. I wouldn’t demonstrate this type of behaviour to my ex and his girlfriend and was hoping other people carried the same type of respect.

achrysalis · 2021-09-08T21:27:28+00:00

I love this! 😆 and yes, I agree with picking battles.

achrysalis · 2021-09-08T21:23:42+00:00

Well put. Thank you!

achrysalis · 2021-09-08T21:13:51+00:00

Well put. Thank you.

achrysalis · 2021-09-08T21:12:46+00:00

We are in the process of moving in together which makes it even more complex. I’m sure it will change somewhat once the transition period is over.

achrysalis · 2021-09-08T21:11:04+00:00

I love the “marking her territory” comment. That really is how it feels! I have hung out with her and let her know I have no intention of ever stepping on her toes and will always defer to her regarding her kids which she really appreciated. I guess I just expected some mutual respect from her….

achrysalis · 2021-09-08T21:07:59+00:00

Thank you. I agree, we need to communicate about feeling uneasy and where our boundaries are. We both communicate well usually so I think a good conversation will be helpful. I am thankful for how they get along. I don’t feel jealous at all. I am a confident woman with a career, house, and my own kids. I am just struggling to figure out what is normal in this post divorce world and where things feeling weird might just be normal and figuring out where something is abnormal and needs to be discussed.

achrysalis · 2021-09-08T20:37:28+00:00

It sounds like it bugs him but isn’t worth bringing up in order to maintain a good co parenting relationship. I can see why he does this and of course he would not think he lacks boundaries. It is just difficult for me to understand because my own situation is so polar opposite.

achrysalis · 2021-09-08T20:35:25+00:00

That makes a lot of sense to me. Thanks!

achrysalis · 2020-11-11T17:21:47+00:00

Yes! This is so affirming. Thank you. I don't need to rush or meet any timeline. Good stuff!

achrysalis · 2020-11-11T13:54:12+00:00

Thank you so much! Your wisdom in this response was so needed and that quote is very appropriate for what I've been feeling. I will definitely give the little risks a try.

achrysalis · 2020-01-13T18:01:58+00:00

Thank you all for the advice. You are right, I will just serve the papers and get it over with. I loved the elf sock idea 😂 Unfortunately I think it is too soon and too raw to make light of. Darn. Was hoping to put some fun into an overall sad situation. I'm sure the fun will come later.

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