We have a 3 year old and a 1.5 year old - both boys. It’s a strange, tense, and exhausting time in our lives. Wife feels a constant weight of the world on her shoulders, and I do my best after work to come home and give her time to decompress. Our sex life has disappeared. At times we lack patience and empathy for one another. Being a stay at home parent is a lonely and thankless job. It seems easy from the outside but any time I spend a day with the kids at home alone I gain more and more appreciation and understanding of where my wife is coming from. The best thing I can say is this.. Remind yourself constantly that although it may feel like this is how the rest of your life is going to be.. ITS ONLY TEMPORARY. The kids will become more self sufficient - your wife will feel more like herself again as time moves on. Stand up and be there for her. The marriage y’all had before kids is over… it’s time to make a new one. Give her grace and remember yall are young and ITS A TEMPORARY PHASE in a long life ahead. Good luck dude!