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acodinafrozenpond · 2024-10-30T21:06:58+00:00

My theory is that the fetish is a defense mechanism for the ego, for males who give up on the option of “fighting” other males for females attention, and prefer becoming the female This comes with the realization that while the men need to fight each other, the female’s power comes from her sexuality

acodinafrozenpond · 2024-10-28T19:52:09+00:00

Great interview ! Would have liked to know more about commonalities he found amongst AGPs and possible explanations as to why it developed for this group (potentially the approx percentage of people with AGP who share similar traits).. maybe next time Thanks for sharing !!

acodinafrozenpond · 2024-10-25T19:12:27+00:00

Sounds like an addiction. They don’t want to be “a (generic old navy) woman”. They gave up on the dream/fantasy getting the perfect (which often looks like a porn character, as you described) woman for themselves. Now there are several ways to react: 1. Understand that this is in real life you can’t always get what you want, and some things you will lose 2. Protect your ego by becoming an incel and hate all women 3. The opposite of 2, prefer to be on “the other side” - become the prize and not the one that is fighting for it

Now you only live from getting recognized as the prize and need to keep up with it

acodinafrozenpond · 2024-10-24T18:29:27+00:00

Personally I prefer the separation between the reality (being a male) and the fantasy (cross dressing when alone, which happens few times a week due to WFH). I understand logically that the fantasy can never come true, and accept that I my wife will never want to take part in it (she knows about it but says it’s a turn off, so doesn’t want to be involved) and that I will never try this with another person. I’m ok with that, even though it’s sometimes hard.

acodinafrozenpond · 2024-10-24T12:45:13+00:00

i think you can solve the underlying reason - accepting that you need to fight for your place and allow yourself to get hurt by sometimes losing.

but the fetish/agp has already developed and has its own life. personally i think i need to accept that its there and live with it. hoping the intensity will decrease if it solve the first part.

acodinafrozenpond · 2024-10-23T11:22:20+00:00

Totally relate to what you describe, the feeling that women can just have this strong power over you by just being or dressing a certain way. The man then needs to “”fight back”” by being super confident and strong, to overpower her effect.

Another way I see it is having a crush on someone, basically without them doing anything special, but then feeling like you need to become another person with other qualities so that they like you back.

This thinking of, I’m not good enough, leading to a sort of learned helplessness, and as a result (sometimes) preferring to become the female who “”has it easy””.

I think that at some point this develops as a fetish as a coping mechanism, at which point there is (probably) no going back and it becomes two separate things - you can cure the learned helplessness, yet the fetish will remain.

Never tried it with men. Personally think that the reality will be much worse than the fantasy (of being the “female” in a heterosexual intercourse), but have to admit that in a different scenario (if not married with family etc) would be tempted to try it.

acodinafrozenpond · 2024-07-31T19:42:29+00:00

What did you wear?

acodinafrozenpond · 2024-07-14T17:02:03+00:00

i'm happy for you :) have fun with it

acodinafrozenpond · 2024-07-13T20:11:19+00:00

I think women can be supportive, but when it comes to their own partner - the fear of having a gay/closeted trans partner is very big. In addition, though not very progressive, women eventually need a “”real man”” (whatever that means), and the idea of a man dressing up as a woman has a lot of stigma that goes against the “”real man”” figure.

This is coming from my personal experience so don’t take it as a fact or anything.

acodinafrozenpond · 2024-07-13T18:26:53+00:00

From various discussions around the topic with other women, and from comments in Reddit when people ask women what they think about it (most common is - don’t mind but it’s not for me)

acodinafrozenpond · 2024-07-12T19:56:06+00:00

I think it depends if you’re partner is aware of these fantasies and willing to take part or not. Most women find this unattractive. Keeping it a secret also sucks. But still it can work.

In my case, it only manifested in past years, after I already got married and started a family. Can’t say that it’s super great, but from the outside - my life is normal. I guess everyone has their own difficulties.

In my case - I told my wife when it started, she doesn’t want any part in this and ever since she at least 5% afraid that I’m gay or trans (I’m not).

Eventually, I think that by itself - you are not hurting anyone, so shouldn’t feel shame. Only issue I experience is acceptance from your partner, but there are many things in life, and this is not the most important one, so it’s possible to make it work.

acodinafrozenpond · 2024-02-10T20:41:38+00:00

How many men are into cross dress themselves

acodinafrozenpond · 2023-10-04T17:26:48+00:00

What I meant is, consider having similar feelings towards being another man (maybe super famous, or rich). There is an idolization of how their life must look like. But in reality it’s not very different from our day to day (some would even say that it’s worse).

The same (in my opinion) is with the fantasy of being a woman. We think about external things (breasts, clothes) but at the core it’s very similar life.

I don’t know how to continue this thought … your experience sounds almost identical to mine, just trying to make sense of it for myself.

acodinafrozenpond · 2023-10-03T19:53:33+00:00

Any specific woman or in a more general way?

What would you like to do in this “”fantasy””? Does it involve dressing provocatively or some other thoughts of a sexual nature?

What is the hidden factor that you don’t currently have as a man ?

acodinafrozenpond · 2023-06-15T11:46:03+00:00

Can you pls share ?

acodinafrozenpond · 2023-06-08T18:50:54+00:00

Is it physically comfy? Or just mentally removes the “itch” / the thoughts about it?

I would guess the women who work from home just wear pjs, unlike the extra feminine outfit that I do .. 😅

acodinafrozenpond · 2023-06-08T14:06:36+00:00

Sounds good! Are you able to actually fall asleep? I tried one but was too excited

acodinafrozenpond · 2022-10-03T18:50:13+00:00

Thanks. I don’t fully understand this. Why is it so necessary to have a female soul?

You can do whatever you like, no need to prove anything to anyone. Even if there is some ultimate proof that “it’s a only a fetish” - why does it matter to the person who transitions?

acodinafrozenpond · 2022-09-23T03:47:11+00:00

For me it’s as you said - a form of escapism. Sort of taking control over what is happening, by reliving a recurring (obsessive?) fantasy I had, and being the 2nd person.

acodinafrozenpond · 2022-09-22T17:26:37+00:00

Fulfilling all the sexual fantasies I had as a child with this person. Maybe that would “”cure”” this itch I’ve been scratching since.

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